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Annoyed about this birth announcement

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KickAssAngel · 03/11/2016 14:21

Someone at work is currently on paternity leave. We all sent a card and a gift, and he thanked us. It's the second child.

In his thank-you, the Dad gave a brief description of the birth & how the family are doing.

It contained the line "we went in to labor"

It has really annoyed me. Probably because he's done other things that annoy me, too. But since when did men go into labor. I'm sure he was there, being as involved and caring as possible (this isn't sarcasm, he would have been very kind & supportive to his wife). But I'm equally sure that he didn't get one labor pain or have to push for even a little bit.

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BellMcEnd · 03/11/2016 19:36

I know someone just like this. He is a tool of epic proportions.

Garden do you run a clinic I can refer him to?

Olympiathequeen · 03/11/2016 19:34

Yanbu at all. Sounds ridiculous attention seeking

Jumpmom1 · 03/11/2016 19:33

Gardencentre
Funniest post ever.......

MerryMarigold · 03/11/2016 19:33

at our nipples are very sore at the moment

As an aside, it drives me mad when people use the plural to mean 'you' to try and 'soften' a nag: "Have we posted the letter yet?" YOU MEAN ME, YOU ANNOYING MAN.

expatinscotland · 03/11/2016 19:29

I find a lot of American men do this. 'We are pregnant/in labour/breastfeeding'.

Kr1stina · 03/11/2016 19:28

What garden centre said

I suspect he's going to be even more annoying when he comes back from paternity leave. Please come back and share his little gems with us

Perhaps he'll have cracked nipples from BF

Pollyanna9 · 03/11/2016 19:24

thepeopleschamp and gardencentregroupie absolutely SPOT ON.

Ackvavit · 03/11/2016 19:21

Just ask him to show what HE produced after the labour

Heatherbell1978 · 03/11/2016 17:53

'I' am pregnant. But 'we ' are having a baby (if you don't take having in the literal sense of giving birth). It's so annoying I agree. And just incorrect

pleasethankyouthankyouplease · 03/11/2016 17:42

My DH was totally exhausted by the birth too. So much so that during his paternity leave he had to go out A LOT with all his friends and celebrate. Then he had to have a lie in as the baby had woken him during the night and disturbed his sleep. ( I didn't see much evidence of his interrupted sleep mind you....)

ThePeoplesChamp · 03/11/2016 17:39

gahhhh KICKASS. Not KissASS.... bloody autocorrect trying to start a war!!!!!!!!

ThePeoplesChamp · 03/11/2016 17:31

KissAss ha ha ha ...you are bang on the money.

today at the 20 week scan he (I must stress, jokingly) congratulated himself on a job done well so far. WE will both attend labour, ONE of us will be in labour .... that said, one of us will have to humour my vileness and had suffered my moods quirks ..... poor fella

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KickAssAngel · 03/11/2016 17:24

Champ - I'm guessing you have feelings about how much your OH will be involved in the forthcoming birth.

Good luck to you, and your OH, who I am sure will be fully supportive, although not actually giving birth.

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ThePeoplesChamp · 03/11/2016 17:14

What a simpering, spotlight seeking wanker. Yeah I guess he IS excited like any bloke, but should have the sense to know that trying to get in on a bit of shared labour glory is taking the piss.

Perhaps his wife could kick the simpering twat in the balls while wearing retro iceskates for ....I dunno..... 36 hours to ensure the experience is truly felt?

Maybe she could trawl the shops for a little card from Hallmark 'wishing US a speedy recovery OUR gonad obliteration'

Twat, can't he just say he's proud of her and leave it at that. (yes, I am pregnant)

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KickAssAngel · 03/11/2016 17:05

I'm completely sure that he would have been totally involved and supportive, and I believe that it is a good thing for both parents to be involved as much as possible - it's for the benefit of everyone.

But there's a difference between being involved/supportive or being the person in labor.

And in a way it's just words, but if DH ever claimed to have been in labor, there would be words had.

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LaContessaDiPlump · 03/11/2016 16:59

Oh that would wind me right up. SHE went into labour. HE was present.

vesuvia · 03/11/2016 16:53

Inthenick wrote - "he's just had a baby"

It depends what you mean by "had".

JenLindleyShitMom · 03/11/2016 15:52

But I don't need to shit on what he went through by saying that I'm the only one who had a very rough 48hrs

No one said you should. There's is a difference between saying "dh had a tough 48 hours" and "DH went into labour" one is a lie.

Inthenick · 03/11/2016 15:17

My husband was emotionally and physically shattered after especially our first and third babies. I remember his white face and exhaustion. He was there, he didn't give birth, but he did experience a lot of his own stuff throughout. He also spent over 8 hours rubbing my back vigorously every 3 minutes and I think he only missed 2 of those contractions. I physically gave birth and it was a huge and painful experience. But I don't need to shit on what he went through by saying that I'm the only one who had a very rough 48hrs.

228agreenend · 03/11/2016 15:06

'We in labour' wouldn't bother me. I would presume it meant he was there throughout the whole birthing experience, and supporting his wife throughout.

JenLindleyShitMom · 03/11/2016 14:59

He was probably really excited about his kid and wanted to share it?

Yeah, doesn't mean you just get to make shit up! the truth will suffice, no-one will think him any less of a dad because he didn't labour and give birth himself.

SenecaFalls · 03/11/2016 14:55

This would irritate me as well. It's ok for a partner to say "we are expecting" but not "we are pregnant" or "we went into labor."

at Gardencentre

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KickAssAngel · 03/11/2016 14:52

Inthenick - I will not be breathing a word of this in RL. I have simply joined in with the congratulations. I am also very genuinely happy for all of them that it was a pretty easy birth (I know his wife slightly btw).

It is their 2nd child, so (hopefully) not quite so overwhelming as it was first time.

And I'll be honest, it's as much the cringe as it is him taking on some aspect of his wife's labor. But having been cut off/ignored/talked over by him, (and I don't work with him directly) in just a few weeks, I do suspect that he thinks of himself as every bit as involved in the birth as his wife was.

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FrazzleRock · 03/11/2016 14:47

DP said 'we' are pregnant when we were expecting our baby. Not sure how I felt about it but I don't think it angered me that much. I was too excited about the pending arrival to even care

Inthenick · 03/11/2016 14:42

Thelegend, absolutely.

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