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Heratnumber7 · 25/10/2016 22:34

Have you seen the current DFS advert?

All the seamstresses and haberdashers are women and all the carpenters and users of big tools are men.

Why is that then DFS? Eh? Eh?

For shame on you.

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almondpudding · 26/10/2016 20:44

Personal attacks and troll hunting are against the rules on this website. Report them if you see them.

Ultimately, it is the UN who have decided that women face sexism and are not in a position of dominance in this country. That's decided by experts from a variety of countries, not by some kind of British bubble.

BuffytheReasonableFeminist · 26/10/2016 20:43

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FifaFater · 26/10/2016 20:42

Haps Buffy

I find your derision interesting, as everytime I have proclaimed my pro feminist opinion on other subjects it has universally been met with 'you don't understand, you are a man' and when explaining that I have spent years coming to the assistance of opressed women worldwide I am met with 'what are you jesus or batman'.

It almost seems that, in this very precise peice of the internet I am very much a second class citizen because of my genetalia, and whether i agree or oppose I am worthless as a human.

BuffytheReasonableFeminist · 26/10/2016 20:41

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noblegiraffe · 26/10/2016 20:41

highlights how powerfull the feminine narrative in this country.

And yet the majority of powerful positions are held by men.

FifaFater · 26/10/2016 20:39

Noble

Yes, my country of birth allows for no freedom of speach, women are subjegated, as are my race. I have viewed and been involved in some attrocities, so you'll have to forgive me if I overreact to being clled a 'dickhead' 'Troll' or even a 'whiite male' which weirdly has become an insult in this country.

I work in HE and hold a MSc, my passion is psychology, and why people do the things they do.

I struggle with the irony of people on this board, discussing how women are oppressed while telling men to shut up for daring to interact.

From my view, and those men and women in my community, and those in other wider minority communities is that white men 'have no balls' and that british women are spoilt to the point that they have no perception of the real world outside their cosy little bubble. I know a female friend who has been here nearly 10 years and still gets butterflies when anyone is nice to her from nowhere, from being given a seat, having her shopping paid for, getting free stuff etc.

The fact that the amount of research being conducted surrounding the areas of 'air conditioning is sexist' highlights how powerfull the feminine narrative in this country.

A lot of immigrants are here to sharethe haven, to find the haven has its ups and downs, but is still one of the greatest places to live on the planet, yet a certain over privaliged few are still not happy, forgive the blut nature of this post but so many nationalities have the same running jokes about the british.

LassWiTheDelicateAir · 26/10/2016 20:37

are all these more dangerous than prostitution? I'm curious to know, because men who go on about how men have to do the most dangerous, poorly-paid and insecure work always conveniently forget how many women work in prostitution

I don't think that is a valid comparison. Prostitution should never be validated in any way by comparing it to real jobs / real work.

Dangerous and/or low paid work , for men and women, exists. It is frequently vital and important work , or, at least, work which most of us benefit from and would find it difficult to forego. None of those justifications applies to prostitution.

BuffytheReasonableFeminist · 26/10/2016 20:36

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HapShawl · 26/10/2016 20:35

Nice bit of hypocrisy from you there Fifa

I'm pretty appalled that someone working in HE demonstrates such poor critical thinking skills tbh

Xenophile · 26/10/2016 20:34

It's always interesting when men tell us that they in some way deserve more money than women because they do the most dangerous jobs and then get all pearl clutching about things when women state that prostitution is by far the most dangerous.

noblegiraffe · 26/10/2016 20:28

I havn't been in this country that long, but my experiences are of female dominance

Genuine question: do you come from a country where women are significantly oppressed?

There is research that shows that if women are taking up more than about 30% of conversation time, the perception is that they are dominating the conversation. Some analysis also shows that in crowd scenes in films, the proportion of women is about 17% (otherwise they'd look wrong). There's a scene at the end of the film The Martian where they are training new astronauts and I think 50% of them are women - it was jarring when I first saw it!

My point is that your perception is that women are dominating but this is not the same thing as women actually dominating. In fact women can be perceived to be dominating even if they are actually in a minority. Especially if you are used to them barely being seen/having an influence at all.

scallopsrgreat · 26/10/2016 20:23

That's interesting MsMermaid about the different reactions. Did you know (you probably did) that 70% of the worlds farmers are women (one of my favourite stats when MRAs start talking about how all the 'hard' jobs are done by men). However they only get about 10% of the wealth. Quelle surprise.

FifaFater · 26/10/2016 20:16

are all these more dangerous than prostitution? I'm curious to know, because men who go on about how men have to do the most dangerous, poorly-paid and insecure work always conveniently forget how many women work in prostitution

Thats cheap to use the plight of thousands of abused women to try to prove a point!

By the same argument then, until you eradicate prostitution don't push for better jobs, help all women, not just the middle class wanting to get higher. Are you happy saying that Hap?

Buffy

I am aware of whats legal, however my word against hers on a call from a personal number would be the only evidence, and like I said, I can either kick up a fuss or have a job. In my career positions don't come up often, and conventions are populated by the same people, i'm more than aware of peoples displeasure of others actions causing ostricisation previously.

almondpudding · 26/10/2016 20:12

There are campaigns to get women into skilled trades like construction. I'd see it as part of wider STEM campaigns too. I do know teenage girls who have hugely struggled to get work, despite doing very well on construction based training courses.

It's an important issue, but a different one from the requirements to get women into positions of political, economic and social power, which is a global requirement for women's rights as part of a wider human rights agenda.

Occupations facing unnecessary risks is also a major human rights' issue, but something traditionally fought against through the trade union movements.

MsMermaid · 26/10/2016 20:12

I do a lot of talking about women farmers, bin women, female joiners, etc at work with young people because I do value equality. Most of the girls look thoughtful and even though they mostly don't choose to go into those fields (most of the boys don't either) they do consider it. The boys on the other hand tend to laugh when I mention it, as if I've made the funniest joke in the world and no woman could ever be taken seriously in those roles. The boys also laugh at the suggestion that any straight man would ever consider a career in childcare/beauty therapy, while the girls think that would be great. Make of that what you will. It's not a large scale piece of research, is just my observations from 3 schools in a fairly small geographical area.

BuffytheReasonableFeminist · 26/10/2016 20:09

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HapShawl · 26/10/2016 20:09

"Until you campaign for more industrial female workers, more bin women, and miners, construction workers etc then you are not for equality, your for dominance."

are all these more dangerous than prostitution? I'm curious to know, because men who go on about how men have to do the most dangerous, poorly-paid and insecure work always conveniently forget how many women work in prostitution

RufusTheSpartacusReindeer · 26/10/2016 20:06

errol

I fear you may be wasting your typing

ErrolTheDragon · 26/10/2016 20:05

Fifa - I'm sure you must be aware that while there may be more male refuse workers, male industrial worker etc there is a poorly paid female care assistant, domestic cleaner etc. Hardly 'domination'. Hmm

ErrolTheDragon · 26/10/2016 20:02

Fifa, did you read the john/jennifer study, or the effect of orchestra blinding? Well-equipped women (or 'woman' in the jennifer case) being rejected for being women due to probably unconscious biases.

ErrolTheDragon · 26/10/2016 19:59

FIFA - I'm not sure its what the rest of us are discussing. [confused[

FifaFater · 26/10/2016 19:59

And we're back to a niche area that men succeed...

Despite women being more hirable across theboard, tisfaction is not gained until total dominance acheived?

Until you campaign for more industrial female workers, more bin women, and miners, construction workers etc then you are not for equality, your for dominance.

FifaFater · 26/10/2016 19:56

Errol

Women are already better equipped to get to and be succesfull at interview, thats what we are discussing.

FifaFater · 26/10/2016 19:55

Almond

I work in a niche environment in which my reputation is paramount (HE), reporting and making waves are not looked upon well, and I have a child to pay for soon...

ErrolTheDragon · 26/10/2016 19:53

chocChoc - 'blinding' applications can help too, without requiring quotas. This on the effects of blind orchestra auditions is interesting. Of course, final interviews can rarely be blind, but at least more women can get to them.

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