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MRAs and mental illness - blaming it on women

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Albadross · 22/10/2016 18:04

Recently a friend started a social media campaign to find her homeless brother who is addicted to drugs and has several severe mental illnesses.

It got on Buzzfeed, where some absolute cunt had posted saying that it was all because of selfish feminists who shy away from taking care of their children, blah blah, you know the MRA line.

Now I get that people who think this way are obviously projecting, but it still makes me furious that anyone could be such a complete twat - even going as far as questioning why my friend's mother wasn't in any of the photos and suggesting it was her fault for not being there.

I've recently been attacked by men saying that people that have BPD (borderline personality disorder) as I do are inherently evil. They actually seem to make this part of their political ideology - to 'stand against' PDs as if they're something we sign up to voluntarily!

How many of these people are there lurking out there and how worried should I be about being doxxed or whatever just for discussion around sexism/feminism?

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VestalVirgin · 23/10/2016 17:13

I don't think all MRA's are vile. That's a gross generalization. Granted they have a PR problem and the idiot/sensible meter trends more towards the idiot at times, but I think some men have some legitimate greivances.

MRAs are so well known to be arseholes that no man with legitimate grievances would join them.

For all sexism related problems, there is feminism, which men can support. Most feminist groups even allow men to join.
If a single father is miffed that people think he is incompetent at raising children, he doesn't need a "men's rights" activism, he can easily ally with feminism.

How many of these people are there lurking out there and how worried should I be about being doxxed or whatever just for discussion around sexism/feminism?

Too many. Be worried. Be very worried.

... actually, no, don't be worried, be brave and do not let them intimidate you.

AntiSocialInjusticePacifist · 23/10/2016 16:36

I don't think all MRA's are vile. That's a gross generalization. Granted they have a PR problem and the idiot/sensible meter trends more towards the idiot at times, but I think some men have some legitimate greivances.

I would however agree that men's mental health issues being women's fault is fucking ridiculous. In my reading and correct me if I am wrong, a lot of men (and women for that matter!) who suffer from things like suicidal ideation had absentee fathers.

I think the question where did all these fathers go is a pertinent one, and I'm not trying to make a cheap point about single mothers blocking contact. I'm sure it happens, but as sure as eggs are eggs a lot of men just fucked off and never looked back...

venusinscorpio · 23/10/2016 16:35

I just wanted to say what an arsehole OP. Sadly there are a lot of nasty little trolls who get a kick out of saying awful things to distressed people. I hope your friend manages to find her brother Flowers

PuertoVallarta · 23/10/2016 16:28

I'm really sorry about your friend's brother. It's sad that mothers and other women are always to blame.

MRAs are vile and nothing they do surprises me. I don't think you're 100% safe from being doxxed, but I don't think you need to be overly worried, either. They can't go after all of us, after all. I suspect (though it's hard to tell, isn't it?) that we outnumber them quite drastically.

(Apologies for this useless post. I didn't want to leave you without any replies.)

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Albadross · 23/10/2016 15:23

Anyone any thoughts?

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