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Simple question - have you ever said "fuck me harder"

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BeyondPolkadots · 15/10/2016 14:22

That's it

Me - yes.

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cadnowyllt · 15/10/2016 20:02

HillaryFTW Its not a question of being embarrassed - although, I was surprised about it having been in the public domain - that's true. But then one would have to believe that all these people are in a conspiracy to pervert the course of justice - that's years in jail for them all if caught. Its a huge risk - in trying to persuade her former lovers, for something...which has been said is so unremarkable - and for there to have been two false 'witnesses' ( one according be on £50K a year anyway). It doesn't ring true to me.

Is it known what the complainant said about the men's account - I suppose it was put to her in the trial.

HillaryFTW · 15/10/2016 19:40

Aren't you embarrassed to keep posting on this point, cadno, after Felas pwned you about the publication of the phrase in question in the Mirror during the original trial?

HillaryFTW · 15/10/2016 19:37

Yes. More than once. In various positions.

ToujeoQueen · 15/10/2016 19:17

Yep

user1476555186 · 15/10/2016 19:15

no I haven't, although I am a hetero male

SarcasmMode · 15/10/2016 18:45

Yes.

I have also:

  • tried different positions
  • flirted
  • had sex before marriage.

I bet my parents are ashamed of me!

Oh no, wait - it's normal!

cadnowyllt · 15/10/2016 18:12

But nobody likes a 'No'.

venusinscorpio · 15/10/2016 17:53

Tee hee cadno. Everyone loves a rape joke.

pugsake · 15/10/2016 17:52

Yup.

Don't normally post on the feminist board (don't feel clever enough)

I have two daughters and this entire horrible thing has made me both worried for them in the future and very angry.

cadnowyllt · 15/10/2016 17:48

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venusinscorpio · 15/10/2016 17:05

I don't wonder the reason for my input, cadno. I am a rape survivor and I think this is a crock of shit. What's your excuse?

NinjaFeminist · 15/10/2016 16:27

On the flip side of this 'leading question', how many of us would agree to sex with a random stranger who barged his way into a room you were in, already naked & having sex with someone else?

Not me.

FlapsTie · 15/10/2016 15:53

Often.

And, hours after i was sexually assaulted by a friend, I had loving sex with my husband. It was a way of taking back control.

MoreKopparbergthanKrug · 15/10/2016 15:52

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Memoires · 15/10/2016 15:47

Yes

WanderingTrolley1 · 15/10/2016 15:45

No.

TheOnlyLivingBoyInNewCross · 15/10/2016 15:44

I think what we essentially need to accept is that as long as a rapist has sex with you in a sexual position that you've had sex in before, he hasn't committed a crime.

Justwanttoweeinpeace · 15/10/2016 15:43

Yup.

Let's hope I never get raped hey? Angry

Remote99 · 15/10/2016 15:42

Yes

Marbleheadjohnson · 15/10/2016 15:40

Same here. Consensial sex with someone I knew and trusted was comforting.

Sparklesilverglitter · 15/10/2016 15:40

Yes I have said it often, sometimes I just want hard sex

MoreKopparbergthanKrug · 15/10/2016 15:39

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BeyondPolkadots · 15/10/2016 15:35

Flowers both. I did the same. And though they were acquaintances, I'd slept with one beforehand. Not a hope in hell of a conviction.

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GiveMeRitz · 15/10/2016 15:25

TwentyCups Flowers

And sadly I was about to post something similar, the last time I was sexually assaulted, I initiated sex with 'safe' friend 2 days later. I wanted to wipe out that memory, that if something happened and I could never have sex again I didn't want that to be my last memory.

To be crass I had to get back on the horse. . .

An action that is seen as courageous in so many many situations, but in this one makes you a lying slag

TwentyCups · 15/10/2016 15:15

How many men do you need to have sex with before you are no longer able to be raped?

How many positions do you need to try?

How many kinks do you need to experiment with?

How short a skirt do you need to wear?

If only all these things really did mean that a woman was impervious to rape, it would mean that so much suffering would be saved.

They are all lies told about women to justify rape.