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Coming to terms with what (some) men do to women

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Fantome · 02/10/2016 10:13

Not sure if this is the right place so hope it's ok starting this thread. I'm 16, and for a while have been quite angry and upset about rampant misogyny, the various aspects of sexism women and girls suffer from and how prevalent it is. Last week's attack in Oxford has increased this tenfold, it's just so hideous and I can't think of much else other than what the girl must have gone through, for hours, it's absolutely horrific. Hope it doesn't seem like I'm feeling sorry for myself, she is the victim and it's about her not me. I was just wondering if it was alright to ask how women here learnt to deal with or cope with knowing all this goes on in the world, not just the fear of it happening to you, more the rage it causes knowing it's happened to other girls and women.

I know men and boys are also victims of horrible things but this is specifically about gendered violence which is in my opinion a manifestation of violent misogynistic feeling. I also hope it's ok me starting a thread like this.

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TheVirginQueen · 02/10/2016 10:37

Some your own age may 'pity' you your awareness. But, I envy you that you see things so clearly at just sixteen. You won't end up being a people-pleasing, man-pleasing girly til you emerge with two dependants and no salary! actually, I saw it long before I was cornered right in to the corner but what I mean is, you will make good decisions. But try not to make sure that you tread the line between action and awareness and good choices.

I wouldn't like to think of any sixteen year old so disillusioned with society that they feel anger :-( You have enough power, and you can create a good life and influence effect the lives of others with your choices and 'campaigns'

JacquettaWoodville · 02/10/2016 10:34

Fantome

Don't feel bad for feeling upset when you weren't the victim of the assault. We all live in this world where VAWG is a huge issue and we are all overwhelmed by it from time to time.

Fantome · 02/10/2016 10:27

Thank you Jacquetta! Doing something to support Rape Crisis is a great idea. It would bring something positive out of the feelings. I'm lucky with my school, it's a girls' school and whilst feminism isn't the biggest issue to the school itself, and violence against women is only really discussed in terms of trying to keep yourself safe, it's still a nice environment to be in! I just feel so angry and upset, I can think of so many awful incidents and the attack last week has really got to me. Though I hate I'm thinking in terms of it making ME upset as it's not about me. Maybe it's naive but I hate we live in a world this happens, just going to school, how can men do that Angry

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JacquettaWoodville · 02/10/2016 10:20

Fine to start a thread. Feeling the rage is important!

Would raising money for Rape Crisis or a woman's refuge help you feel a part of change/support? What is your school like on sexism issues?

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