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The red tent

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paxillin · 29/09/2016 21:14

My period is here. I actually wish there was a red tent for girls and women to menstruate and drink wine and tea. Exchange stories... anyone there?

The older I get the more I'm enjoying the couple of days of slowing down a little. My period used to be such a monster, started off as a source of shame as a girl, later a relief that contraception has worked and then a source of sadness when trying to conceive. It's like an old friend now.

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paxillin · 03/10/2016 15:52

Buy her a piece of jewellery to mark it? Moonstone perhaps?

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scalliondays · 03/10/2016 15:45

I'd really like to mark her first period by going out for a meal or for hot chocolate/cake or something. Not sure how she'll feel about that when the time comes. She used to be almost embarrassingly interested in my period if she was in the bathroom with me but now I'm not allowed to mention the subject. I keep suggesting that she keeps a single discreet sanitary towel in the elastoplast/tissues/spare change purse she keeps in her school bag but she won't have it. Maybe pizza will entice her out and I'll take a friend and her mum so that the mums can swoop useful tips and the newbies can pretend to ignore our wise words...

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paxillin · 03/10/2016 14:51

I wish I'd had a tent for my first period. I wasn't keen on a first moon party, but hearing lots of girls and woman talk about it might have helped. Even if it would have been just practical tips (white trousers anyone? sheets bled on on a sleepover?).

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scalliondays · 03/10/2016 14:46

My almost 11 year old daughter will be starting to menstruate in the near ish future - I'll bring her with me if that's alright. It will be nice for her to feel the warmth of our shared experience. We'll bring cake obviously!

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paxillin · 30/09/2016 22:21

I imagine this thread a big bell tent, my grandmothers are here. We drink tea and don't much mind the pain. We could celebrate our bleeding, not hide it because it's the week we come together and chat.

The neighbour who found me crying on the stairs when overdue and exhausted has come, too. She fed me soup, made soothing noises and said the baby will come, they all do and despite being decades older never ridiculed me for being hysterical about pfb not just plopping out.

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ateapotandacake · 30/09/2016 17:05

Yes yes yes yes yes paxillin! You start one: I will come.

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paxillin · 29/09/2016 21:19

It would be a supportive place for pregnant and menopausal women, too.

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