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Best response to Smile luv, it might never happen!

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aliasjoey · 28/09/2016 23:50

I posted in Feminism because this is nearly always said by a man to a woman. I don't know if it's that some men think women are just there for them to look at, therefore have to be smiley and pretty?

Or maybe it's me, I just have a Bitchy Resting Face.

I just wish I had the perfect reply.

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RueDeDay · 18/12/2016 14:40

I now go for a raised eyebrow and "When was the last time you said that to a man?", then walking away.

PinkIsRad · 10/12/2016 11:41

Beat em with their own weapons, I've had great reactions to saying "suck my dick" :)

ElphabaTheGreen · 09/12/2016 12:09

I know that this is a zombie thread but I'm very glad I did a search on this mother-fucking phrase before I started an AIBU.

Some cunt just made me cry by saying this to me today because I have had a really shit few months, capped by an especially shit week plus a migraine, and I'm saying this he basically told me I looked like shit as well.

Then I read:

Dance minion, so that your antics please me

And all is well.

Thanks MN Flowers

IBelieveTheEarthIsFlat · 12/10/2016 10:23

Give them 'the bird'. Without even looking at them

pinkyredrose · 12/10/2016 10:12

Lol at The Man telling the women how it is.

SunsetBeetch · 10/10/2016 19:37

I just tell them to mind their own business. Seems to shut them up Smile

WinchesterWoman · 08/10/2016 14:59

I wonder if shouting 'leave me alone you creep' super loud would disconcert them at all.

SailingThroughTime · 07/10/2016 08:06

I only smile at things I like.
Said with a slightly bemused expression.

TellMeStraight · 07/10/2016 07:59

"It'll fucking well happen to you if you don't shut the fuck up"

BingoFlamingo · 07/10/2016 07:58

Chuckbiscuits: How is it mansplaining? I was just stating my opinion. Men say it to women, men say it to men, women say it to men, and no doubt women say it to women, so I'm not seeing a gender or sexism angle to this.

As for a taste of my own medicine: I've never and would never say this to anyone. It's a stupid and rude thing to say to someone.

ChuckBiscuits · 07/10/2016 07:14

Rubbish: I'm a man and I've been told that on more than one occasion - including by a woman.

Perhaps she was trying to give you a taste of your own medicine!

ChuckBiscuits · 07/10/2016 07:12

It's rude and annoying, but it's not a gender issue.

Hahahahahaha.

Mansplaining at it's best.

ChuckBiscuits · 07/10/2016 07:10

'Smile love, it may never happen'
'May I point out that men who tell women to smile, are usually the ones they want to smile least at? Hows about just letting women get on with their day and stop harassing them to perform for you?'

BingoFlamingo · 07/10/2016 06:58

"it is always said by a man to a woman."

Rubbish: I'm a man and I've been told that on more than one occasion - including by a woman.

It's rude and annoying, but it's not a gender issue.

JedRambosteen · 07/10/2016 06:06

Ginty - I think he wanted to see you eat sausage (= fellatio). Confused

IWasGintyMarlowe · 07/10/2016 00:19

i don't find it offensive just annoying. i cannot stand strangers trying to be randomly funny eg "hot/cold enough for you then?" the other day i had a small takeaway and was at the bus stop with it waiting for my bus. this old man is like, "don't take your takeaway out your bag unless it is a sausage sandwich? " i'm thinking "you don't know me and i don'y understand the joke!" urggg. it does always seem to be men though that try this weird nosey small talk

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aliasjoey · 04/10/2016 23:34

Wow, that's the most responses I've ever had to a thread I started. Which just goes to show how often this still happens, even in this day and age.

My favourite so far (apart from 'dance, minion' ! Grin) is I'm smiling on the inside.

But as people have pointed out, any kind of answer- even the on my way to a funeral kind - basically gives them what they want, a reaction. But a non reaction then leads to insults about being a snob or whatever.

We can't win.

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NotCitrus · 04/10/2016 15:37

"Give me something to smile about, then." With bored, deadpan voice.

Though I did appreciate the opportunity to unleash venom and tears when some dick said it and I actually was on my way to a funeral.

Funny how no-one's felt the need to tell me to smile since I turned 30.

shins · 04/10/2016 15:17

He apologised! So that was something.

Buunychops · 04/10/2016 09:09

To be totally honest a lot of us smiled when we heard…😁

Seriously though, as a recent thread showed (about an adult telling a child the wrong price for something, can't remember the exact name) these micro aggressions happen all the time and are excused all the time.

VanillaSugarandChristmasSpice · 04/10/2016 07:13

buuny applauds the husband

JedRambosteen · 04/10/2016 06:46

I had this in school from a male classmate followed up by a "what you need is a good shag to sort you out." My reply, uttered with teeth-clenching bitter fury, went along the lines of "my parents are divorcing. You fucking me will not put my shattered family back together, you twat." He was mortified and very, very apologetic. Although, on the basis of this thread, I conceded ground by giving a resson. Hmm i like to think it gave him pause for thought before saying this in future.

Lottapianos · 04/10/2016 06:26

Good for you shins. What was the site manager's response?

OhTheRoses · 04/10/2016 06:02

No one's ever said it to me. I used to rather enjoy a wolf whistle until I hit my 40s.

shins · 04/10/2016 05:50

I cursed out some builders for doing this recently. And I found their site manager and told him it's not the fucking 70s. I was with my daughter, she's nine and she'll be getting that crap in a few short years, which gives me the mother-bear rage!

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