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Why do men apologise to other men when they hit on you by mistake?

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YoJesse · 27/09/2016 19:48

Waiting for a friend outside a shop this afternoon. Some bloke starts chatting me up and I make it clear without being a dick to him that I'm not interested but he goes on and on. My male friend comes out of the shop and the bloke looks really embarrassed and apologies to him saying sorry I didn't realise she was your's!

I'm not fucking anyone's (is what I wanted to say) but I just shut my mouth as I usually do in awkward situations and my mate just laughed it off saying 'so your mine hey?'why do men do this? I really want to explain why it pissed me off and why men think like that but I can't work it out in my head. Help!!

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ITCouldBeWorse · 27/09/2016 20:37

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TashaYar · 27/09/2016 20:32

It's probably the same mentality that means a "no im not interested" is ignored but "I'm married/have a boyfriend" is accepted.

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YoJesse · 27/09/2016 20:21

If I started chatting up a bloke I'd cool it if I saw he wasn't interested, this one and others in previous similar situations just get more persistent and rude. So I wouldn't have to apologise to anyone because I'd take the hint he wasn't interested.

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DollyBarton · 27/09/2016 20:17

Or... Maybe the same would happen if a woman chatted up a man and his girlfriend showed up. I'd probably apologise to her in that case!

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YoJesse · 27/09/2016 20:16

I don't think so raspberry! He just sort of ambled out of the shop with two young children and wasn't possessive looking at all. He thought it was all quite funny. I wanted to explain to him why I didn't find it funny without getting on my soapbox.

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RaspberryIce · 27/09/2016 20:11

Maybe he thought your male friend might beat him up for hitting on you and was trying to head that off.

Arfarfanarf · 27/09/2016 20:08

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erinaceus · 27/09/2016 20:07

I find this really difficult to deal with. I don't have any answers, but still, I find it really difficult to deal with.

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YoJesse · 27/09/2016 19:59

But that's so backwards. Is it really how they see it. God that's nasty.
My STBXH used to get into all sorts of fights with blokes if they hit on me out and about but I always thought it was defending me not his pride...

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Arfarfanarf · 27/09/2016 19:52

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