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Cavan family annihilation by a "brilliant Dad"

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DoinItFine · 01/09/2016 18:31

Is anyone else reading all about what an amazing guy Alan Hawe was with mounting disbelief and fury?

He stabbed his wife and three sons to death in a frenzied attack and then hung himself.

But poor him, he must have bern awful tortured. And he went to mass all the time.

Great Dad

You know when you read awful threads about abuse on MN and then out it comes "he's a great Dad", and you think "what does a man have to do to losr that label?"

Well apparently you can murder your 3 kids and still keep the Great Dad title. Angry

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EnthusiasmDisturbed · 09/09/2016 13:50

its so depressing to constantly hear the question what made him do what he did

nothing made him do it, he made a choice to murder his wife Clodagh and his children, Liam, Niall and Ryan

Its a step forward that it has been widely questioned how his actions have been reported but its not enough. The media have to report such incidents differently, tragically it wont be the last and they need to tell the truth not make a story of what might have happened

scallopsrgreat · 09/09/2016 13:19

And there was a piece almost entirely about how she was a lovely person. Which is a definite improvement over the treatment Clodagh has received.

Felascloak · 09/09/2016 12:32

At least it's clear throughout that he murdered her, none of this "found dead" bollocks

Xenophile · 09/09/2016 10:19

We're not allowed to point to male violence though. Not without a NAMALT rider.

The thing is, that if men need the NAMALT rider, then even they obviously believe that men are violent, except them of course.

scallopsrgreat · 09/09/2016 09:44

Another "tragic" event . Another "perfect couple".

No, another violent horrific event with another terrified woman dead at the hands of another abusive man.

It's not as if there aren't enough of these to join the dots. I'm pretty certain if there was any other trait other than the sex of the perpetrator e.g. race/religion/ginger hair then the dots would be joined.

Elendon · 08/09/2016 17:59

www.grimsbytelegraph.co.uk/double-death-husband-murdered-wife-before-committing-suicide/story-29697790-detail/story.html

Yet another news story based on her being his wife. They were described by the neighbours as being loving. At least she is named. Karen Arnold.

If this is love, then count me out.

powershowerforanhour · 08/09/2016 17:28

Yep and I hope the inquest findings get decent cover not buried in a couple of paragraphs on page 24.

xexxsy · 08/09/2016 17:16

This savage violent murder of Clodagh and the boys by the husband/father will be gone from the news imminently, I think it's actually gone already.

No discussion, no analysis (well very little), since the media are muzzled/biased, or so it seems to me. Breen and one or two others are the exception. Fair play to the BelTel.

Only hope is that the inquest may shine some more light on what happened.

TulipsInAJug · 08/09/2016 09:55

The Belfast Telegraph had an article yesterday saying they received a 'phenomenal' response to Suzanne Breen's article, and that online the column got over 1 million hits.

Apparently they got lots of emails with people saying how sick they were reading about how great Alan Hawe was.

This is reassuring.

However it still beggars belief how much eulogising there was over his monster; and that that was the automatic, knee-jerk response, instead of the horror and disgust that should have been. :(

hollyisalovelyname · 07/09/2016 18:10

If Clodagh was killed first she was spared the knowledge that he was also killing the boys (hopefully)
She may have thought he was only going to murder her.
It's just unreal.
To do that to your wife and your three beautiful boys.
How many would adore to have their lifestyle???
3 great, healthy boys, a lovely home, involvement in the community and good, pensionable jobs in a nice country not racked by drought, war or pestilence.
It must be so tough for Alan's family though.
I hope they will get the support they need.
No doubt Clodagh's family will be supported.

Amandahugandkisses · 06/09/2016 17:18

Monster.

The manner in which he did it speaks volumes. A deeply personal murder. Maximum suffering.

BlueLeopard · 06/09/2016 17:12

I read in another article that Clodagh had severe defensive injuries - she was the first to die. He used the axe on her. The youngest was killed last, and all boys had defensive injuries.

They all fought for their lives.

A truly evil bastard.

7Days · 06/09/2016 16:38

fuck. Doesn't bear thinking about

Elendon · 06/09/2016 16:34

Ok. Thanks for the clarification Maud.

MaudGonneMad · 06/09/2016 16:23

No, he murdered his wife first. She was found downstairs. All the children were murdered in their beds upstairs.

MrsTerryPratchett · 06/09/2016 16:20

Defensive wounds on a 6 year old? There aren't words.

Elendon · 06/09/2016 16:00

So that could indicate that Clodagh was protecting the wee one. Who then could have fought back. Sad

DoinItFine · 06/09/2016 15:56

Would The Sun be that brazen though?

Yes

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Elendon · 06/09/2016 15:48

Awful. Just awful. Especially as he was described as a great dad. What about a loving husband? No one said this.

Sickening.

Dozer · 06/09/2016 15:47
Sad
MaudGonneMad · 06/09/2016 15:42

There were defensive wounds on Clodagh and the six year old little boy, indicating that they knew what was happening and tried to fight back.

powershowerforanhour · 06/09/2016 15:42

They had defensive injuries, Elendon Sad. Especially the six year old, apparently. Fought and fought to stop his daddy hacking him to death.

Elendon · 06/09/2016 15:34

And if the presence of the Lactic acid and Cortisol is there, then what sort of hell must those people have gone through. Unimaginable.

Elendon · 06/09/2016 15:25

Great link Power, and thanks for posting. Says it all really.

Can I just say re the forensics. If fear was involved then there would be lactic acid and cortisol in the victims bodies, via blood and other bodily fluids. I do hope the forensics were done properly given the hasty burial.

Just regarding this. Cortisol and lactic acid indicate that fear was involved. The victims knew they were being attacked. It's a defence mechanism. If none of these bodily responses were detected in the blood it means that they were attacked whilst asleep. In other words calculated murder.

ElspethFlashman · 06/09/2016 15:03

It does sound a bit too pithy and perfectly phrased for some ordinary randomer but that could just be the cynical devil on my shoulder.

I'm also a bit suss about someone who talks so vehemently but has no actual new information or insight.

Would The Sun be that brazen though?