I struggle with pronouns as somone who used to buy the whole born in the wrong body, born with a female brain, tw are real women etc.
I can't call a transwoman "she" or "a woman" - so i usually go with the cowardly safer option of "they" or use their name - i will call them male though. I totally see the point of those who do use "he" and "man" though. It was this total misuse, pretence , be nice, be in denial way ofthinking that partly got us to this place in the first place.
To use words, descriptions and meanings (pronouns etc) that you feel you are being forced to use even though you think they are wrong, delusional, insulting and harmful to women - is sort of upsetting. You feel you are being coerced to harm your own kind.
TW have raped and sexually assaulted women and girls - do you think they should also have to play the game and call their attackers "women" and "she" - if not - why not.
Not ecplainef all this well - just that women who are gender critical often don't enjoy misgendering and being pedantic. I doubt most are not doing it to be funny, smart, cruel, hurtful etc - they might even have struggled with it. I do but i think it's an important point even though it might make us look mean and extreme.