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What Makes A Woman?

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MxJackMonroe · 27/07/2016 09:28

Hi MNers,

A couple of days ago I did an informal webchat ...

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/in_the_news/2693127-Im-Jack-Monroe-Ask-me-anything

...and it seemed to go quite well. One of the questions that came up was 'What Is A Woman'?

I'm throwing this one open to the floor - as I am interested to hear your opinions on it.

Please try to not railroad the thread with trans-bashing; it is a wider question than that, so keep responses respectful please.

Jx

OP posts:
FerdinandsMassiveBollocks · 01/08/2016 21:42

It won't. Because woman just means person with a vagina. We later learned that these people were also xx but it still means the same thing.

FerdinandsMassiveBollocks · 01/08/2016 21:40

There really isn't, because we are talking about a word which has always been short hand for person with a vagina. That's not going to get left in the dark ages that won't change. We learned that people with vaginas are also xx but that doesn't change the meaning

FerdinandsMassiveBollocks · 01/08/2016 21:37

I see a lot of people say that because biology has been used against us through out history we can just reject it.

Ok fine. Let's reject it. So surely in that case we reject dividing the human race in to a binary system entirely? We don't pretend that half the race have a lady brain and that half have a manly brain as not only is it obviously bollocks but it is incredibly offensive to most women who only ever called themselves women in the first place because the word meant adult female.

If woman no longer means adult female I not a woman. What about my right to self identify? I don't want to identify as having a lady brain. I want to identify as a human with a brain and a vagina. Why is it only males who get to decide what 'woman' means?

Also you can reject facts as much as you like but you are still going to get made redundant for getting pregnant because you have a uterus... Not because you have a lady brain.

ocelot41 · 01/08/2016 21:32

I dont know. There is still so much we don't understand about sex and gender. By the time my DC and maybe GC are grown, they will probably think we were all in the Dark Ages about this stuff.

AdjustableWench · 01/08/2016 21:26

Currently though there are many more areas which need biological sex to be recognised due to the many ways women and girls are treated as lesser, property or as objects.

Absolutely. And one way to deal with these horrific oppressions and violations of women might be to attempt to dismantle the system of differentiation in which women are constructed as Other, and as objects of oppression. Not an overnight task, though.

I don't see how we can do without biological definitions any more than we can ignore race, it is recognised to protect the opressed from the would be oppressors.

Racial difference was also constructed via assertions of biological difference, at least in the modern world. There's some very objectionable material that passed for science in earlier centuries which purported to have found biological explanations for the supposed inferiority of Africans, for example. Shocking stuff, and rightly rejected these days by right-thinking people.

As I'm sure you know adjustable that quote of de beauvoir is often repeated by trans activists to suggest a male can "become" a woman.

I know, and I think it's often taken out of context and misinterpreted. I would like to see a good analysis of how Beauvoir's use of Hegelian existentialism might apply to trans experiences, since I think this is missing from that argument. (Sorry for pseudo-intellectual waffly bollocks Smile.)

For the record, I'm in favour of trans rights, but I agree that there are some serious difficulties that need to be addressed in how those rights are conferred in society, and I'm particularly aware of the need to preserve everyone's safety. However, I'm not sure that insisting on biological definitions of 'woman' is necessarily helpful because of the possible unintended consequences of that course of action (i.e. underscoring the biological basis for oppression of women).

What definition of woman includes all natal and tran's women and excludes all natal and trans men?

I don't think there is one, but that's because I don't think the definition of 'woman' is immutable.

HermioneWeasley · 01/08/2016 21:10

basil that's a great article isn't it? It really nails the issue in so much MTT narrative about it still being a male interpretation of female sexuality and a male gaze on attractiveness.

AskBasil · 01/08/2016 20:33

"MTT are using all the societal conditioning and privilege of having been male and turning it on women who do not roll over and say yes, rewrite womanhood to include you. "

YYYYY

And they have all the subconscious expectations and assumptions about what being a woman means, as well. Hence the oft-repeated assertion that they are better women than those of us who are actually women, because they look better than us in their slap and high heels. <a class="break-all" href="http://images.google.fr/imgres?imgurl=cdn.inquisitr.com/wp-content/uploads/2015/11/Krystal-Summers-LGBT.png&imgrefurl=www.inquisitr.com/2551748/you-really-want-me-in-the-same-bathroom-as-your-husband-transgender-woman-says-lgbt-community-needs-protection/&h=455&w=875&tbnid=sMPuyDP6Fd55LM:&tbnh=90&tbnw=173&docid=Dpul4YHnfEdX2M&usg=__ojCSShUJMpLXfyiWMD7sMa0DNJI=&sa=X&ved=0ahUKEwj-39fu-aDOAhVJbBoKHfGsCssQ9QEIKDAC" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Because being a real woman means being someone men want to fuck -the ones who aren't doing it this well, don't count as women, they're the gamma ones, the ones you use for childcare and skivvying, not fucking

I came across this great article today all about how so many men (including MTT's have that deep down assumption that women are <a class="break-all" href="http://images.google.fr/imgres?imgurl=cdn.inquisitr.com/wp-content/uploads/2015/11/Krystal-Summers-LGBT.png&imgrefurl=www.inquisitr.com/2551748/you-really-want-me-in-the-same-bathroom-as-your-husband-transgender-woman-says-lgbt-community-needs-protection/&h=455&w=875&tbnid=sMPuyDP6Fd55LM:&tbnh=90&tbnw=173&docid=Dpul4YHnfEdX2M&usg=__ojCSShUJMpLXfyiWMD7sMa0DNJI=&sa=X&ved=0ahUKEwj-39fu-aDOAhVJbBoKHfGsCssQ9QEIKDAC" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">fuckable objects

littlejeopardy · 01/08/2016 20:30

Oh and I would also be interested to hear an answer to felascloak's question.

littlejeopardy · 01/08/2016 20:28

NotAnother I like your phrase 'what moulds a woman'. It keeps the definition of woman as female adult but acknowledges that there are external forces that exert pressure on women to feel, think and act in certain ways. Also it doesn't suppose that there are any innate ways of feeling, thinking or behaving that all women internally have.

Felascloak · 01/08/2016 20:22

As I'm sure you know adjustable that quote of de beauvoir is often repeated by trans activists to suggest a male can "become" a woman.
Whereas I think de beauvoir meant a girl child grows and is socialised into a woman, which is a totally different thing. It's a complex interplay of female biology and gender expectations. The expectations of "woman" might change over time. For example in Victorian times it wasn't ladylike to mention pregnancy and all children wore smocks and had long hair. But the biological aspect of being a woman is immutable.
By all means we can discuss gender expectations. I just don't want to disappear down a philosophical rabbit hole of how language changes over time so there's no problem redefining women. As soon as you divorce "woman" from female biology it becomes meaningless I think.

Feel free to try answering the question I posed Fascicle though - what definition of woman includes all natal and tran's women and excludes all natal and trans men?

NotAnotherHarlot · 01/08/2016 20:05

If you haven't already read it, "There's a good girl" by Marianne Grabowski is an interesting read.

Areas which will always need biological sex to be recognised, umm healthcare. Sex education, some sporting events. There will be more I'm sure.

Currently though there are many more areas which need biological sex to be recognised due to the many ways women and girls are treated as lesser, property or as objects. We have safe spaces, refuges, rape centres. Legislation which recognises that it is not a given that women will be given equal opportunities. Laws which affect only women such as FGM, or sexual offences which have far more women than men as victims. Voyeurism for example.

I don't see how we can do without biological definitions any more than we can ignore race, it is recognised to protect the opressed from the would be oppressors.

AdjustableWench · 01/08/2016 19:46

NotAnotherHarlot
I agree.

And I think the social expectations and oppressions you outlined in your post are the result of differentiating between two sexes. This differentiation is a political project designed to keep women in a subservient position in society.

And yet, since it's been going on for at least 6000 years, I'm not sure that feminists can overthrow it tomorrow. And maybe we don't want to. But biological determinism has been used against women - for example, in arguments against women getting the vote (we're too weak and fragile to withstand politics). So I think it's useful to think about what we can do with biological definitions - or whether we can do without them.

NotAnotherHarlot · 01/08/2016 19:07

Adjustable Wrench I think the Beauvoir quote summarises what I was waffling/grasping towards. Biological sex followed by life experience shapes a female baby into an adult woman. Being female and not male results in a different experience regardless of race, place, wealth.

EmpressOfTheVaginaDentata · 01/08/2016 19:00

NotAnother Wine

AdjustableWench · 01/08/2016 18:59

I agree with Bertrand that it's vital to have debate about the impact of stereotyping on men and women, on gender dysphoria, on trans issues and how transformed can be made to feel at ease and comfortable without "Trojan horsing" women's rights etc. These are extremely important issues.

Meanwhile, since this is a feminist theory board, I also think it's useful to start a pseudo intellectual, waffly bollocks chat about feminist theories in which 'woman' means something beyond a straightforward biological descriptor.

For example, I think it's appropriate when discussing the understanding of 'woman' in feminist theory to consider Simone de Beauvoir's assertion that 'one is not born, but rather becomes, a woman.' It seems to me that Beauvoir imagines 'woman' not just as an adult female body but as a culturally inscribed condition in which being a woman is not the same thing as being female.

And I think there's a fundamentally important relationship between the two debates, so it would be a shame to have one without the other.

NotAnotherHarlot · 01/08/2016 18:58

Wonderful posts on this thread.
Woman - adult human female.

Performing femininity does not equal a woman.
What moulds a woman are the societal demands and forces which shape her behaviours, and facilitate or deny choices.

From birth onwards female children are treated differently to male children. I think it was Robert Winston who dressed babies in the "wrong" colour and the observed interactions were different. Handling was more gentle for female children, less rough and tumble, different toys offered. Female clothing designed for babies and toddlers restricts movement. Girls shoes are less robust. Sit nicely, don't show your knickers for TINY girls making them aware of the male gaze from infants. And the countless other "small" differences which stack up over childhood and adolescence to produce an adult woman.

Screw gender. Enough of half the population being made lesser. I can't wake up a man tomorrow and receive all the benefits that come with that because even if I could change my biology, I have not been raised as male and the way I behave in the world is due to the years of being female.

MTT are using all the societal conditioning and privilege of having been male and turning it on women who do not roll over and say yes, rewrite womanhood to include you.

You want to be biologically male and perform feminity? Bash on. Woman are not a threat to you. What I cannot accept are the hard fought freedoms, support services, statistics used to report on sex equality, sporting achievers, safe spaces being eroded and diminished by a small number of entitled males.

EmpressOfTheVaginaDentata · 01/08/2016 18:26

I can't see any gains for us there either. I'd rather have Bertrand's debate.

HermioneWeasley · 01/08/2016 18:24

What will women gain from a wider debate about what "woman" means apart from the biological definition? I can't see any gains for us

almondpudding · 01/08/2016 18:13

Yes, Bertrand.

BertrandRussell · 01/08/2016 18:10

I don't think there is any Ned for a wider debate about what "woman" means.

I think there is plenty of room for debate about the impact of stereotyping on men and women, on gender dysphoria, on trans issues and how transformed can be made to feel at ease and comfortable without "Trojan horsing" women's rights, on what messages we are sending to our young people that is making them dissatisfied with who they are, on why there does not seem to be the same issues with trans men..................

almondpudding · 01/08/2016 18:02

I don't think there is any need to have a wider debate about what woman means.

It's just a massive derailment of women's rights.

If you're not directing a point at me, please do not put my not username at the top of the particular post, particularly when the straw man argument you are using is one most commonly used by apologists for child abuse, Fascicle.

Felascloak · 01/08/2016 17:51

A more interesting, wider debate, would not be restricted to biological definitions.
That just reads to me like you want to start a pseudo intellectual, waffly bollocks chat about something that actually is very straightforward. I for one would describe it as frustrating and possibly annoying and offensive rather than interesting Grin
Mind you if you can talk about a non-biological definition of woman that doesn't involve essences or stereotypes and includes aspects that define both women and transwomen but exclude men and trans men I'm all ears. I have never seen one so I think it's impossible. Good luck!

EmpressOfTheVaginaDentata · 01/08/2016 17:45

That's what woman is though, a biological descriptor. Women are adult human females. Femininity is something altogether, a bunch of stereotypes that often have very little to do with who women actually are. Transwomen probably perform femininity much more than women do.

fascicle · 01/08/2016 17:33

almondpudding
I never suggested starting periods was a biological marker for womanhood. so I have no idea why you are expecting me to respond to such a bizarre straw man argument.

Not a straw man argument, almond, and not directed at you. I was providing one example where biology and society might be at odds on the question.

The OP did actually specify she meant what is a woman not what makes a woman.

She wasn't replacing the original (and, I think, broader) question in the thread title, which she and others used again later on in the thread.

HermioneWeasley
fascicle if you think there's anything complex about defining what a woman is, you need to redo GCSE biology

The biological definition is a given. A more interesting, wider debate, would not be restricted to biological definitions.

MagicalRealist · 01/08/2016 16:07

Jack was tweeting about being in major financial shit last time I looked so we've probably dropped off her agenda for now.

Well she's back to ranting tweeting about Katie Hopkins and transphobia now, so clearly able to engage but just choosing not to :)

I wouldn't be surprised if she asks MN to delete both of the threads she's posted.