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It was year six prom here yesterday...

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BeyondVulvaResistance · 09/07/2016 13:21

Just had to write down somewhere how frustrating it is.

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CodyKing · 09/07/2016 13:53

DD leavers is a beach party - with ice ten and balls etc BBQ etc

DS is going to an out door adventure tree climbing thing

Different schools

LilacSpunkMonkey · 09/07/2016 13:49

We don't have Y6 'proms' here but all the secondary schools do them for Y11. DD is going into Y10 in September. I have already told her I will pay for a dress from eBay and maybe to get her hair done and that's it. They are ridiculously over the top here. The sailing academy is hired out, it is a red carpet event, the local paper comes and takes photos of everyone as they arrive and they do a big pullout on it. Everyone goes rucking gaga over it.

I hate it. The pressure it puts on parents (and teens) to spend, spend, spend, to look better than everyone else, to have a suitable date, to 'arrive in style' (fuck right off with that). Hate it Angry

gettingtherequickly · 09/07/2016 13:49

It's all a bit "my big fat gypsy prom" isn't it?

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BeyondVulvaResistance · 09/07/2016 13:47

It did look like a walking, talking urban myth honey :(

And everyone I know thinks it's so lovely, I feel like an alien!! Hence writing about it here! Grin

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PrimalLass · 09/07/2016 13:44

I think it is horrible seeing these children so done up. I am very glad ours have a beach party.

LassWiTheDelicateAir · 09/07/2016 13:42

I also think a prom for leaving primary school is ridiculous.

A prom for leaving secondary school is also ridiculous unless you actually are American. My son's school had a "leavers' ball" . It did involve a dinner suit for him and a frock for his girlfriend. It did not involve limousines and corsages.

VestalVirgin · 09/07/2016 13:41

A party is a nice thing, but this "prom" thing seems to mostly consist of girls wearing expensive dresses and make up.

Not sure they even have that much fun there. At 10, I liked to occasionally wear dresses and look pretty. For ... about half an hour. Then I'd be bored and do something else.

Come to think of it, I'm still the same.

HoneyDragon · 09/07/2016 13:38

Blimey. We are in a wealthy area, girls mostly wear nice dresses from Next/Monsoon/H&M and a lot of converse style pumps. Some mums let the have hair up and/or nails done professionally but certainly not the majority.

No limos. Walk with friends or get dropped off. I thought all the £££££ showing off was an Urban myth.

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BeyondVulvaResistance · 09/07/2016 13:34

Sorry, I'm writing 10 as a good friends daughter is 10. Of course most are already 11.

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Creatureofthenight · 09/07/2016 13:32

I think a 'prom' for 11 year olds is beyond ridiculous.

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BeyondVulvaResistance · 09/07/2016 13:30

It wasn't just a disco, it was the full shebang. What annoys me most is that this isn't a rich area - people have gone without to make sure their 10 year old is in an expensive dress with professional hair, make up, limo, everything. Of course people are free to spend their money on what they want, but it's an expectation, and one that disproportionately affects single mothers of girls (at 10, the boys aren't really interested)
Iyswim?

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HoneyDragon · 09/07/2016 13:22

Confused is that a bad thing? Our year 6 leaving do party's are lovely.

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