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is this sexist to be commented on every morning

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moomoome · 22/04/2016 08:44

every morning i go into work the man i sit next too needs to comment on what im wearing. i work in a professional job and always wear professional dress. many of my colleges wear t-shirt and jeans etc. im aware that my background (Hertfordshire girl, mostly dresses) makes me a bit different from my rural Australian female colleges (pants and shirt). but is this not a bit sexist to greet me with comments about my dress? his comments im sure are kindly met but he and the boss see no issue in this. i find it extremely sexist as my ability to do my job is not based on what i wear.

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Branleuse · 22/04/2016 09:14

I wouldt like it. Are you in Australia. Can you be direct, or comment back or make constant comments on his clothes?

milkingmachine1 · 22/04/2016 09:09

Do you think he fancies you?

milkingmachine1 · 22/04/2016 09:03

This would bother me, it would make me feel uncomfortable and self conscious. I think it's unprofessional and inappropriate to say it quite so often. Maybe you could comment on his clothing, every time he says something to you about yours. Make him realise it's a bit over familiar. Are you based in the UK or OZ? Maybe in OZ this is normal and seen as a compliment?

pippistrelle · 22/04/2016 08:54

Well, I suppose whether it's a problem depends on what he's saying. If he's saying 'nice dress', well, he might just have an interest in fashion, so you say thanks and move on. But if he's saying 'your dress is a bit short/low cut/tight, you'll make an impression on the Board of Directors if you turn up in that, nudge nudge', then that is an issue.

DropYourSword · 22/04/2016 08:54

Depends what he's actually saying, but every day seems a bit much.