Very sad article about porn and how it affects relationships for young women

I'm 26 and have had sex with some men who have a seriously warped idea of what sex is about.

Things like:

• very degrading dirty talk without prior discussion
• expectations around "rough" oral sex
• slapping the girl in the face with penis (!? happened with two different men, one asked if I liked it)
• expectations around spanking/light bondage
• been suddenly slapped across the face during sex by one man and called a "dirty slut"
• expectations around anal sex (and being able to go straight into it, no lube/warm-up, niche fetishes like golden showers occurring in quite young men (23 or so)
• not kissing during sex (at all. occurred with three men)
• sex in odd positions with limited bodily contact besides genital (emulating porn camera positions)
• one man wanted to watch porn while I masturbated him. the whole thing was mechanical, I don't even know if he got pleasure out of it, it felt routine like going for a wee
• expectation that there will be sex without condoms
• rough sex as "norm"
• lots of changing positions, going from oral to vaginal to anal, almost like the boredom threshold is very low
• nipple twisting/biting hard enough to leave marks (once had nipples that stayed erect for a week because they were so sore)

Where I say "expectations around", I mean they'll go straight for it without even asking if it's okay or prior discussion.

It's a shame, because I had to go through a lot of this, thinking it was normal. My Mum couldn't prepare me for it because I was a very private child and she had no idea how bad porn is nowadays, so couldn't explain what to expect from sex.

When I was younger, I tended to give the guys a pass for not knowing any better, but if I encountered someone like this at my current age I'd give him a wide berth. Sadly that might mean giving a wide berth to many men,

I talked about pornography to my dd( 12) she says that boys in her year are already boasting about the porn they have seen, I wanted the message of what porn is really about to come from me first. What really upsets me is the anti sex education brigade are always horrified when discussion of pornography is part of SRE, it is important to these discussions with boys and girls before they are sexually active. I talked about consent and what sex in a loving relationship is like, missed out the consensual bsdm bit for now though.

Fuck that's a depressing article, and I say that as someone who has an "interesting" sex life.

This.....
7th grade girls are asking questions about bondage and S&M. Many of them have seen 50 Shades of Grey, and wonder if a boy wants to hit me, tie me up and stalk me, does that mean he loves me?

That fucking book has a lot to answer for as well. Making abusive relationships seem normal, and attractive.

This just makes me want to weep for women and girls everywhere....
When asked, “How do you know a guy likes you?,” an 8th grade girl replied: “He still wants to talk to you after you [give him oral sex].” A male high school student said to a girl: “If you [give me oral sex] I’ll give you a kiss.” Girls are expected to provide sex acts for tokens of affection, and are coached through it by porn-taught boys. A 15-year-old girl said she didn’t enjoy sex at all, but that getting it out of the way quickly was the only way her boyfriend would stop pressuring her and watch a movie.

Will make 14 year old dd read this

I say make as i am not sure she actually knows what a book is