This didn't make me sad. It made me very angry. For years many of us have been saying how harmful porn is, how it degrades women (and men too TBH), how it can lead unstable individuals to commit violent offences. All the time the right-on "experts" and "cool brigade" have been telling us to stop pearl clutching and there is no evidence blah, bloody blah. And all the time the evidence is before their eyes. They just refuse to see it. How long are they going to dismiss evidence like that survey as "anecdotal"?
The single most important thing we can teach our daughters is that they are human beings, not put on earth to service those slaggy boys (NABALT) who feel entitled to get their rocks off by using females as meat.
The sentence that made me the most angry was the one from a girl who said how can she refuse "without hurting his feelings". Poor little male lamb. Why the hell does she have to worry about the feelings of every porn-fed male? Boyfriends are nice (the right ones) but they are not necessary and those sort are distinctly unnecessary.
I know the pressures are to do extreme stuff are worse now. I understand. But, in context and of its time, pressures were always there. The difference is that my generation of second wave feminists (which included most of my friends) did not hesitate to choose whether they wanted to do stuff or not. And if they didn't - "fuck off" was the appropriate response and it was used - frequently. And if that resulted in being accused of being frigid or a prude, so what? We simply didn't care. Even as teenagers we had learned the world does not turn just because adolescent boys says it does.
Sorry, that's a rant. But, I feel so let down by these porn-using males and TBH I feel just as let down by girls who worry about hurting boys' feelings. 