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I hope this wasn't a stupid thing to do!

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CaptainWentworth · 04/04/2016 10:48

I've just impulsively done something which I'm now having a bit of a wibble about.

Had an email round all the regional offices of my firm this morning, from the Regional Chairman, to let us know about some recent promotions to partner. As usual they were both men, and for some reason I was moved to send the following reply (only to him, not everyone!)

Hi X,

Congratulations to Y and Z.

I may be wrong, but (from a glance at the public web pages for each office) I think the new promotions will make 24 male partners in the region to one female. I’d be so pleased if that ratio improved in the future; I’m sure there can’t be such a lack of talented senior women in the firm.

Apologies if that sounds impertinent; I don’t mean to be – it’s just that the discrepancy struck me quite forcibly.

Kind regards,
CaptainWentworth

Have I just made a complete wally of myself/ labelled myself as a troublemaker? I'm a pretty junior minion around these parts so it's not like he will have any idea who I am- but he's prob thinking wtf! Blush

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PerspicaciaTick · 04/04/2016 11:09

Of course she isn't suggesting that the men weren't promoted on merit. She is just highlighting the lack of women and throwing it over to X to think about ways of addressing the balance. She isn't saying she wants it fixed tomorrow, but is implying that the firm needs to think if it should be doing something different to get it's senior women to the point where they become the best candidates (at least some of the time).

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CaptainWentworth · 04/04/2016 11:08

I suppose I want the senior people to consider how things look to others lower down the ladder- they are saying the right things in general about equality but it feels like lip service if nothing ever changes. I mean I can't imagine having a baby in this job- I can't see how I would do it. Having a bit of a dilemma about that at the moment really. Maybe that's why I had this reaction.

I'm junior management so not the most miniony person around, but it's a big company and he's not based in my office.

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WomanWithAltitude · 04/04/2016 11:07

^ offended, not offered

FiveSixPickUpSticks · 04/04/2016 11:06

Of course the people will have been promoted on merit; I certainly didn't mean to suggest otherwise

Well what else did you mean? You say you want the ratio improved in the future. It looks as if you are saying no matter who may be the best person for the job, they should promote women.

WomanWithAltitude · 04/04/2016 11:05

And your email definitely doesn't suggest that the recent promotions weren't based on merit.

I have said similar at work when we are recruiting directors (I am actively involved in the recruitment), and it's not been viewed as inappropriate. And I wouldn't be offered to see that email either.

WomanWithAltitude · 04/04/2016 11:02

It's brave, and depending on the culture in your company (which you know better than us) it could be risk, but your email was polite and reasonable. If more people spoke up like this (and felt empowered to do so) I think it would be a good thing.

Good for you, in short.

MatildaBeetham · 04/04/2016 11:01

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PerspicaciaTick · 04/04/2016 11:01

I think you handled that very well - the email is well written and polite. Well done.

Honestly, most people I've worked for rather enjoy it when someone sticks their head over the parapet and says something which (although challenging) is pertinent and well-presented. You don't get to be a big boss by shutting down discussion - that is the way to end up with a stagnant business.

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CaptainWentworth · 04/04/2016 11:00

Oops. Blush Blush

Oh well it's done now. Perhaps his PA will weed it out before he sees it....

Of course the people will have been promoted on merit; I certainly didn't mean to suggest otherwise. Oh dear Sad

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hesterton · 04/04/2016 10:59

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LottieDoubtie · 04/04/2016 10:59

Brave but probably stupid too!

His reaction will tell you all you need to know about the company. Perhaps start job hunting quietly?

MatildaBeetham · 04/04/2016 10:56

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blaeberry · 04/04/2016 10:55

You tell him!!

However, you might also consider emailing some recruitment agencies.

FiveSixPickUpSticks · 04/04/2016 10:55

I agree with Flogging.

You have no idea the credentials of those that have been promoted or of anyone else that may have been interviewed.

Hugely overstepped the mark.

MilkTwoSugarsThanks · 04/04/2016 10:55

Yes you have made a wally of yourself and labelled yourself as a troublemaker.

You've also insulted the female senior members of staff who are quiet capable of fighting their own corners and don't need a junior to do it for them.

Floggingmolly · 04/04/2016 10:52

If you really are as junior as you say, you've probably over stepped the mark hugely... You may have had a fair point, but it's unlikely to have been news to him and I doubt he'll take kindly to hearing it from you.

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