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Who is the main driver in your relationship? You or DP?

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KP86 · 27/03/2016 09:00

Just curious, if you and DP/DH are both in the car at the same time, who drives?

For us it's DH 99% of the time as he 'can't relax' when I'm driving, and to the honest, it's just easier for me to leave him to it and then I get a chance to relax/day dream/look at phone myself. When I do drive he is constantly on edge and comments, grrrr! He clearly thinks he is a much better driver.

With my parents, it's the same. Dad always drives. Even if they are in Mum's car.

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LifeIsGoodish · 27/03/2016 09:23

Him. But he doesn't criticise when I do, if, say, I'm designated driver because he had a drink, or imdropping him off/picking him up somewhere.

Not bothered. Because I drive lots when he's not around, I like the opportunity to enjoy the view. Also I dislike long, boring motorway driving.

EnormousDormouse · 27/03/2016 09:22

Me. I love driving and am much better than DP (I have better eyesight and spatial awareness). I also drive overseas a lot so do all driving on road trips/holidays as I'm used to driving and navigating new places.

Ohfuckaducky · 27/03/2016 09:21

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pinkmagic1 · 27/03/2016 09:18

50/50, we both like driving. I would do all of it if I had my way as much prefer to be the driver than be driven.

spiggidydodah · 27/03/2016 09:14

Dh can't drive so I do all the driving. Hard work when it is a long journey and we can't share it but on the plus side when we arrive home he deals with children/cooks dinner while I sit down with a beer!

tabulahrasa · 27/03/2016 09:14

Me, it's my car...he only drives it with me in it if there's a reason, like alcohol.

trilbydoll · 27/03/2016 09:12

DH drives long distances because I can't drive more than 2 hours without needing a break.

I drive abroad and in cities because I'm a terrible navigator and he gets really flustered and cross if he doesn't know where to go.

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TurnOffTheTv · 27/03/2016 09:10

Him. I'm in and out of the bloody car during the week doing school runs/errands etc and I'm just glad there is someone else to do it at the weekend!

Lighteningirll · 27/03/2016 09:08

Oh dear I sound like a maniac after all the other responses maybe it annoys me more than I realised [embarrassed]

turkeyboots · 27/03/2016 09:07

DH mostly drives as I am the navigator. DH would get lost in a car park otherwise

Lighteningirll · 27/03/2016 09:07

Snap my dh turns into a total knob if I want to have to drive he can't relax constantly tells me to change gear/adjust lane position/watch out for the flying fucking saucer. I wouldn't mind but every dent scratch burst tyre petrol in diesel car incident has been him! If I am designated driver I take a flask of whiskey and tell him to have a sip every time he even thinks about opening his mouth. Luckily for our otherwise perfect marriage I don't like driving and now have a bad shoulder so he does 99% of it. Knob I say utter twunty knob.

WrenNatsworthy · 27/03/2016 09:06

50/50. I love driving.

Fugghetaboutit · 27/03/2016 09:05

Me. It's my car so I drive it. On the very odd occasion he will but he's a shit driver so I can't relax when he does.

PennyHasNoSurname · 27/03/2016 09:04

Me as dh cant drive.

PurplePotatoes · 27/03/2016 09:03

DH drives 99% of the time. Only because I don't really enjoy driving and he does.

TashaYar · 27/03/2016 09:03

Generally I drive to places and he drives back. I also use the car more generally day to day for convenience. It may be partly because I learned to drive some years before he did (neither of us could drive when we got together), so it feels 'normal'.

Cric · 27/03/2016 09:02

We Prob drive 50/50. If one drives there the other home. Unless it is my car.... He hates driving my car haha!

IAmAPaleontologist · 27/03/2016 09:02

Dh. I'm not particularly keen on driving so he does it mostly. My mum does all the driving with her and dad though but they used to share it evenly.

CMOTDibbler · 27/03/2016 09:01

Pretty equal for us - we both like to drive

scribblegirl · 27/03/2016 09:01

We usually do a 'if you drive there, I'll drive back' arrangement though I try to avoid that if there's booze taken

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