Who is the main driver in your relationship? You or DP?

grimble, I still see that regularly at my station in the mornings, don't understand why people do it, involves lots of faffing around and holds everyone up whilst we queue behind them!

50/50 if it's just the two of us in the car.

95% DH if the kids are in the car because I am better at dealing with any child-related issues. This is partly because he has a slipped disc and cannot turn around to look at them without discomfort. One DC gets car sick a lot of the time and I can get sea-bands/ medication/ sick bags to her. If they argue I can turn around and make eye contact while telling them to calm it down.

If he's unwell, tired or had a drink I will drive.

Is this a feminist issue? We're not in Saudi Arabia.

If I pick dh up from anywhere I'd never think of getting in the passenger seat to let him drive.

Dh can't drive, and has never had an interest in learning. So it's always me. We live in London so it's never really been an issue or need for DH. We even went without a car altogether for about 4 years.

I've noticed more and more women driving over the years, but I still get annoyed when I see a man driving and a young boy in the front seat, with the Mum sitting behind (obviously assumptions being made about all relationships...)

My dh drives most of the time if we are both out because he prefers to drive and is very good at it (professionally trained). However, he has no problem at all with me driving if I want to but I quite like being chauffeured around, it's also easier as we can do 'drop and run' when it's difficult to park.

I'm chief navigator, my navigating skills are exceptional.

DP, but that's because I have a 2 seater with no bootspace, that leaks and is falling apart, whilehis car is significantly larger, newer and comfier.

Dh doesn't expect to drive and would actually prefer it to be more equal so I suspect it will be more like 50/50 when I eventually trade up!

DH, because he likes it and I hate it. I would obviously drive if he felt like a rest or something or take turns if it was a long drive.

I never understood those relationships where women drive more than men! Huh? Do you understand the relationships where men drive more than women?

I like driving and am better at it, DH is a good navigator. What's not to understand?

Me, I like driving and he doesn't.

We probably split driving 20%5 DH & 80% me. I'm the better driver not in his opinion and am happy not to drink on most nights out. I happily drive in new places & abroad.

I never understood those relationships where women drive more than men! We always split it 50.50 not least because I didn't want to be lumbered with screaming toddlers and back seat nappy changes over 4 hour drives.

DH drives, usually on long journeys (+4 hours). No gender based reason, just that I have longer arms and therefore can fiddle with DS' headrest mounted tablet whilst it's still in the headrest.

Me. I'm the only driver as DH can't drive. Sometimes I wish he could, so that we could share the load, but at least it means I always have the car at my disposal!

If my parents are in the car together, my dad always drives, unless he has had a drink - and then he sits and criticises her driving. I do wish my mum would drive more often, as I worry that she will lose confidence if she doesn't go out on the road.

Equal although I'm pregnant at the moment so I do more over the weekend where socialising and drinking is involved.

A friends gran doesn't like reversing into the garage so she positions her car for her husband to reverse - he's blind. You can't make this stuff up!

I have been in three serious relationships. Live in London. I learned to drive at 16yo and got licence, use of my parents car.

I have been the only driver in all my relationships. Varying between own car ownership, borrowing parents car and Car Hire.

I'm now in a forever relationship with a man approaching 50yo who never learned to drive. We don't own a car either so we hire one for travel.

In London you dont need a car, public transport is frequent and insurance/parking is mad expensive!

I think I might just attract men who don't drive!

I drive. DP gets distracted too easily.

Also, we have an enormous truck in a tiny place and he's not confident that he wouldn't hit something (he shut his eyes as I drove it onto eurostar (where it just fit - with our aerial going ding, ding, ding as I drove down with about 3 inches each side between us and the curbs) and ferries when we drove it across Europe (he did the motorways).

He has form for this - we had once sold a car, but weren't handing it over for a week, so he had me drive it for that week, because then he couldn't damage it and lose the sale (! He didn't mention this to me, and luckily I didn't have any issues)

I drive almost all the time. My mother is the same. DD is even peeved when DH occasionally drives as she thinks it's mummy's car.

I think it is sometimes a feminist issue. I see women driving to pick up their partners and they get out and swap seats. I can't help but think there is an issue about control and, you know, being in the driver's seat.

If we're going out and alcohol might be involved, he drives there and I drive home as I don't drink. Either his car or mine, makes no difference really.

Otherwise I drive mine, he drives his.

I prefer to drive on long journeys but if it is somewhere we've never been before, I like to switch to him driving for the last half hour. This is because dh is an absolutely shit navigator and the last thing I need at the end of a long tiring journey when I need a wee is for him to get us lost!

Normally I drive. I have the bigger car, so if we go as a family, my car is more comfortable. Plus mine is a company car, my fuel is paid for by the company so I drive for free.

It's tiny here though with pretty good public transport. I live in the suburbs of a city and buses run every 5 mins from 6am till 10pm

Always me as DH doesn't drive. I don't usually mind as I enjoy driving, but on the rare occasion we go a long way or I'm feeling ill or I want a drink, I do make pointed comments about how we really need to find the money for him to learn!

His car - him almost 100% of the time
My car - about 50:50. He almost always offers/asks to drive even for short trips- official reason given is that he likes driving, whereas I'm not fussed either way and view it as a method of getting from A to B. Also my car is nicer than his and he likes the chance to drive it. I'll often say, No thanks I'll drive just so that he doesn't start automatically walking to the driver's side and taking it for granted. I nipped the backseat driving in the bud by offering him the option of getting out and walking. I'm sure he thinks he's a better driver than me - I think we're both fairly good (though he is better at parking, having manouvered machinery his entire working life).
I do think it is a penis thing rather than simply because he likes driving - I do not think that he offers to drive when he is going somewhere with a male friend in the friend's car (unless they'd already driven several hours and were tired) even if he was insured, as that would probably be viewed as weird and offensive to the other person's penis. Ditto I think he would be surprised if I offered to drive his car if we were both going somewhere.
I was waiting to turn right out of a side road onto a busy road with a heavy stream of traffic a few days ago and started idly watching the people in the cars. There were single male drivers and single female drivers, but of the opposite sex pairs, in every single case the man was driving.
Women are obviously good enough to drive if they have to go to work by themselves, or if their male partner fancies a night out drinking (he drives there, she drives back), but otherwise quite often women are not good enough to drive, because penis.

We split it but more me. I am really, really, really good at parking, squeezing the car into a tiny spot in the Sainsbo's car park or parallel parking or what have you. He hates it because he sucks at it and knows I am silently judging him

Long distance we share, probably slightly more him.