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Recording rape culture

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BarefootAcrossHotLegoPieces · 03/03/2016 07:42

I'd like to use this thread to record examples of rape culture - when individuals, the media, or both, minimise rape and sexual assault.

It's rarer now to see a headline about a "romp" and find it describes a rape, but some commentators still leave a lot to be desired.

I hope this will be a long running thread, as with the Victims of Violence thread, to note examples.

I will start with two below.

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BarefootAcrossHotLegoPieces · 04/03/2016 18:09

Umm, Daisy, not sure what your beef is?

Anyone can start a thread on anything on MN. I chose to start this on the back of the Adam Johnson reactions one day then the next seeing the article about the attempted sexual assault in a hotel.

I called it "recording rape culture" expecting it to be mostly examples and some discussion. There are lots of threads already discussing cologne and I linked to them upthread to help you.

I very much want personal examples, info from FB, things people saw on TV or whatever as well as news stories, so please don't tell other posters that links are crucial. Thanks.

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BertrandRussell · 04/03/2016 18:09

Sorry, yes they are. I thought I recognized them from earlier.

Who is muzzling debate? As I said, 8000 posts doesn't sound very muzzled.........

PalmerViolet · 04/03/2016 18:08

Daisy, why are you so determined to see whatever women write on here that doesn't immediately accord with you as muzzling debate.

No one is muzzling debate on this thread apart from you.

Daisyonthegreen · 04/03/2016 18:05

These posts are current today ,published today.
You cannot muzzle debate.That usually is what authority does.

BertrandRussell · 04/03/2016 17:53

"I will happily comment but posting links is crucial so women can see examples from newspapers.
If this is a PC forum that wants to ignore rape by foreign men on Western women because of their cultural view and if you want to ignore it then shame on you all."

All the links you have posted have been linked to before. Why do you think we are ignoring it? One thread about it went, I think, to 8 sections- that's 8000 posts. And there were plenty of other threads.

cadnowyllt · 04/03/2016 17:45

Chedwyn

Daisyonthegreen · 04/03/2016 17:41

I am not on FB so won't be viewing it.
The thread is titled Recording rape culture.
I will happily comment but posting links is crucial so women can see examples from newspapers.
If this is a PC forum that wants to ignore rape by foreign men on Western women because of their cultural view and if you want to ignore it then shame on you all.
My thoughts on any rapist assaulting a woman is repugnance.

BarefootAcrossHotLegoPieces · 04/03/2016 17:30

Sad Bertrand. Personal examples are good as well as media links.

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BertrandRussell · 04/03/2016 17:26

A young relation of mine got a series of unprovoked sexually explicit texts from a man she had met once and was planning to go out with again. When she protested he texted "Stop pretending to be an uptight bitch". Which seems to me to be a classic example of the "you know you want to really" mentality. "Yes means yes and no means maybe"

WomanWithAltitude · 04/03/2016 17:25

Really? Wow. Sad

PalmerViolet · 04/03/2016 17:20

Interestingly, since it turned out that some of the attackers in Koln weren't asylum seekers, a proportion of Twitter chatter which had been supportive of the women stopped and became, as usual, about how women lie about sexual assault and rape.

Couldn't have seen that one coming, no siree.

LilacSpunkMonkey · 04/03/2016 17:15

Spot on, Woman. Where are the Internet searches for the Rotherham victims real names and photos? Where are the people trying to out them for 'tempting' the men involved? Yet that's what the convicted rapist Cheddar Evans' victim and the convicted child abuser Adam Johnson's victim have to live with.

Sickening, isn't it?

WomanWithAltitude · 04/03/2016 17:11

I should clarify what I said - obviously people in authority dismissed the grooming victims in Rochdale etc. as 'child prostitutes' at the time, with damaging results (another symptom of rape culture).

However, since the prosecutions and various reports bringing the crimes to light, the public has pretty much universally condemned the men. FB isn't awash with posts demonising the victims in Rochdale and making excuses for the perpetrators.

WomanWithAltitude · 04/03/2016 17:07

Daisy, I don't believe rape culture is limites to other countries or other cultures. Rape culture is alive and well in the UK - do a search on FB for 'Adam Johnson' and look at what people are posting about his victim. It's shocking and appalling, the level of vitriol and abuse directed towards a young girl.

Nobody says this sort of thing about the Rotherham grooming victims (or if they have, I haven't seen it), but I guess the difference is that AJ is a popular figure, a talented and good looking footballer, so he can do no wrong.

In actual fact what he did was no different to what the groomers did in Rotherham, Oxford, Rochdale etc... He targeted a child, flattered her, gave her attention, made her feel she owed him, and exploited her sexually. But people are queueing up to defend him and vilify her.

LilacSpunkMonkey · 04/03/2016 17:00

daisy, I know you're new but you seem to be worryingly focused on attacks on Western women by foreign men.

Any chance you can engage with the other posters? What are your thoughts on Adam Johnson?

Daisyonthegreen · 04/03/2016 16:55

www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-3476426/German-swimming-pool-two-migrant-sex-attacks-carried-says-forced-segregate-men-women.html

This sadly a result of a rape culture.Western women have fought long and hard for freedom and now this is changing things.

BeyondTellsEveryoneRealFacts · 04/03/2016 11:59

(In fact, i check my TIO waay more often than my inbox! Grin )

BeyondTellsEveryoneRealFacts · 04/03/2016 11:58

Ps, thank you for the message telling me you have responded, though it is unnecessary to notify someone - you can check for recent posts in threads you are on :)

BeyondTellsEveryoneRealFacts · 04/03/2016 11:55

Thank you daisy. But surely the law already says women should go about their business unmolested? I know its not exactly enforced, but thats why "feminism". I think trying to encompass that into a petition is a tad naive? Unless i'm misinterpretting it?

BertrandRussell · 04/03/2016 11:41

I can't sign a petition that I couldn't explain if someone asked me about it. What sort of "measures?"

Daisyonthegreen · 04/03/2016 11:31

www.express.co.uk/news/world/649769/Mob-30-migrants-chase-girls-through-shopping-centre-clashing-police

Have " caught this story" before it slides of the pages.

Daisyonthegreen · 04/03/2016 11:28

Basically I think it's to try and get the Authorities to recognise that women must be free to go about their business unmolested,the powers that be are trying to ignore the issue.
I think we should sign in our thousands.

BeyondTellsEveryoneRealFacts · 04/03/2016 09:42

I havent signed it as its a bit vague. What measures do they want brought forward?

Daisyonthegreen · 04/03/2016 00:37

petition.parliament.uk/petitions/119385

Can't believe there are only 517 signatures on this!!!!!!!
Please sign for yourselves and all female loved ones.

noddingoff · 03/03/2016 20:59

Headline on an article about Adam Johnson in the Belfast Telegraph today, "A starry lifestyle with many temptations" So the victim was a "temptress" then, not a vulnerable child. The article goes on to discuss the alteration in "football's attitude to sexual misconduct" by comparing a manager who was sacked in 1977 for having an affair with the club physio's wife with Ched Evans being allowed to train at Sheffield United's grounds post conviction. At least the article did refer to him as "convicted rapist Ched Evans".... but still, lumping this rape together with an affair and just calling them both "sexual misconduct" is crass in the extreme.