Why are men so turned off by women with short hair?

Sorry should say. I had very long hair. I did not have a hair style "that required time-consuming and expensive maintenance"

What you descibe is considerably more faff than I had with long hair. I'm genuinely puzzled - what is so time- consuming about long hair? I had very long hairmore pertinent question is why any woma. I did not have a hair style "that required time-consuming and expensive maintenance"

That link amuses me.

A while back, a then-new friend of mine - who is lovely, but very right-on - explained to me that she had to consider cultural appropriation when she got her hair cut. She explained she had a short, edgy haircut, and that this could look like appropriation of a lesbian aesthetic. She glanced doubtfully at my short, not-so-edgy haircut, and hazarded a guess I really ought to consider the same issues.

I'm afraid I just found it very funny.

"What time consuming etc,etc is that? "

Clipped -- clippers over the sink mornings whilst the kettle boils, no sweat if you miss a couple of days. Shaving requires a steady hand (if manual razor), or not so steady if using the electric. No shampoo required, no drying required, no brushes or combs, no cuts that need to be paid for, just a new set of clippers every so often, the jumbo packs of disposable razors and own-brand shaving foam.

I still think mine is cheaper and consumes less time. Plus if you miss ALL of it in the mornings still looks almost exactly the same! :-)

"Sorry, this writer:
effingdykes.blogspot.com/2009/05/homo-haircuts.html"

Well, I have to disagree with the baldies comment -- I've had mine like this since the eighties, and I don't think I'm mad. :-)

SO perhaps a more pertinent question is why any woman would go to all the faff of having a long hair style that required time-consuming and expensive maintenance in the first place

What time consuming etc,etc is that? I had very long hair until early 20s. I washed it , not every day, towelled it dry and pulled a brush through it.

Current short style doesn't require much maintenance from me but has to be cut ,very expensively and very precisely every 5 weeks

I dunno - I imagine that the majority of women probably prefer men with short hair , perhaps because it looks more masculine.

"but I've always wondered about the skinhead gay man look and short haired lesbian look"

Why? After all, shaving or close-clipping your head is pretty common nowadays, amongst balding men for starters. And frankly, short hair is so much more practical than long hair-styles (or any style frankly!). SO perhaps a more pertinent question is why any woman would go to all the faff of having a long hair style that required time-consuming and expensive maintenance in the first place...........and why most men don't feel the need to, but can get away with short hair.

Then gay men or lesbians with shaved heads is just a minor variation on the basic short-haired and sensible theme :-) Apart from the drag queens, of course, but then drag queens have a thing all of their own!

I had very short hair all through my twenties. No shortage of male and indeed female admirers in those days

I have had short hair most of my life and have bagged the hottest men while having a shaved head. I looked dull and ordinary with long hair. It just does not reflect my personality.

I wish I could shave my head again, but my job requires me to have a slightly more conservative hair cut. At the moment it's a short undercut in my natural sludgy brown and grey. Home cut, of course. I keep wavering between wanting to colour it subtly and keeping the grey. I think it looks pretty good the way it is. It reflects who I am now. I am out to please nobody but myself. DH has a slight preference for long hair, but finds me attractive whatever I do with it.

I would be inclined to think that a man who doesn't find me attractive with my short hair probably would not like other things about me, so would be a waste of time, anyway.

dries more quickly during sex um.. what are you meaning here

Little boys with a huge mop of long or longish hair - cuuute.

Sorry for being shallow.

Men who only go for highly groomed women; you're probably better off without them.

Every man I've dated or slept with has been very tactile with my long hair. Smelling it, stroking it, holding it during sex. Maybe it's the type of man I attract with my lengthy locks.

Young women didn't used to usually have long hair when I was young. Depressing to think there's now an expectation of women having long hair - requiring lots of time and conditioner.

Otoh I don't usually feel attracted to men who have long hair so...

Men always put their hands in my hair during sex too..I don't think it's a dominant gesture particularly. Hair is soft and shiny, smells nice, feels nice. It's just a tactile thing.

Aside from that..10-15 messages a day..!?

It speaks to me in this way: long hair, ages getting ready, bad shouty moods because it won't curl the right way or needs washing, sticks to you during sex, constantly getting tole off for leaning on it
Short hair: fucking in the shower is ok, getting ready can be quick, you can pat her head and feel warmly patronising.

IMO its because hair speaks to many men in this way:
Long hair: 'Look at what I have.'
Short hair: 'Look at what I am.'

Short hair isn't just for gayo women. It doesn't stick to things as much and dries more quickly during sex.

This thread is reminding me of the blog 'men who look like old lesbians'. I'm not entirely pleased to be reminded of this blog but it's definitely linked to this discussion in a way I can't quite articulate now (DS currently watching teletubbies).

DS has a layered pageboy style, I've had few people tell me to cut it so he looks more 'boyish'. He's 3. I think we do seem to be going into a world where what is considered feminine and what is considered masculine seem to be getting further apart. Although Aiden Turner seemed to still manage to turn a few heads with his 'long' hair.

Sorry, this writer:
effingdykes.blogspot.com/2009/05/homo-haircuts.html

Well hair does get shorter after menopause

WHAT?! Is this true?? Ugh. I'm 44, my long hair is honestly my best feature. Am I going to lose that too, along with my waist/nice skin/teeth/arse/ability to go weeks WITHOUT staving my chin, and everything else that ageing is stealing from me?!

OP, lots of men prefer women with hair -- chin-length and over. No idea why, but they do. But if you love your new crop, rock it! And sod all of them. :)

I was in a couples workshop a while ago where one couple was lesbian, aged fiftyish. They had a very similar appearance, with a short haircut, less than collar length but somehow still not quite the way you'd expect a man's hair to look. Both with smallish earrings. If I'd met one of them on her own I doubt if I'd have thought "There's a lesbian" but I might have thought she looked a little unusual, though not startling. Maybe I'm not meeting many people.

I suppose it was pretty much the style that this writer hates:
www.google.com/search?q=lesbian+crop&ie=utf-8&oe=utf-8#q=lesbian+hairstyle

". If you have no chin and a large face go for long hair but keep it shiny."

Roger wilco.

Yet here are men with their differing face shapes mainly going around with short hair.

Men are allowed to look boring and/or ugly, women are not. That's the difference.

Or, men are required to wear a uniform and women are not, and it's conformity to the standard appearance that counts for men. It's true though, women must use their freedom of choice to avoid looking boring or ugly, or face criticism for failing.

I have a pet theory about this - I think there are groups of men who are socialised to be attracted to very feminine-performing women

I would agree with this and the shorter you get the more androgenous you can appear.

But also some haircuts just don't suit people, I remember issabel rosallini always having a short haircut (though she was a model).