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SlowFJH · 13/02/2016 11:37

We have two boys and a girl (all now teenagers). My daughter was never into dolls and never really liked pink. She was into arts and crafts and loves knitting and sowing. The boys were completely stereotypical (plastic and wooden swords, guns, cars, diggers and tractors, soldiers etc).

We have good feminist friends (with three boys) who banned violent toys for boys. They always gave us the cat's bum face when they visited ours because their boys used to absolutely love playing with my sons' swords and shields. When we went out it for a walk, every stick they found was a gun - despite their parents vocal disapproval.

My friend's boys (now all strapping teenage lads) joke about how their parents banned them from having the toys they always wanted.

We definitely saw differences in toy preferences very early on. My daughter had zero interest in wheeled toys (despite my efforts) but both boys were fascinated by them virtually from day one.

I know my experience is not scientific. But there were some studies several years ago using baby apes (who obviously had not been conditioned by human systems or been exposed to advertising etc). Baby male apes showed a clear preference for mechanical toys over plush toys.

www.newscientist.com/article/dn13596-male-monkeys-prefer-boys-toys/

I'd love to hear others views on this topic... social conditioning versus biological predispositions.

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SlowFJH · 25/02/2016 09:18

AskBasil suggested 6-10,000 years. Older than that?

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SlowFJH · 24/02/2016 04:44

How old would you guess?

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SomeDyke · 22/02/2016 21:04

"However the fact that violence and violent crime for example is a predominately male problem in every culture and throughout history is pretty compelling evidence."

But evidence for what? Which came first, the patriarchy or the propensity/need/meme/whatever for violence? Just because it is old doesn't mean it is innate!

"THE EVOLUTIONARY ORIGINS OF PATRIARCHY" from 1995 by Barbara Smuts looks interesting, I confess I haven't read it all yet! OF course, Gerda Lerner, "The Creation of Patriarchy" doesn't blame it all on biology either.

The patriarchy is old, very old, because unfortunately bloody efficient at propagating itself and stopping women from altering things.

EBearhug · 21/02/2016 23:18

Slow, have you read anything by Cordelia Fine, Gina Rippon or Daphna Joel?

catkind · 21/02/2016 20:30

It doesn't suit your argument maybe slow, but people are perfectly entitled to be of the opinion that the current state of the study of evo-psych is bollocks without denying that the brain is evolved or being 'unscientific' whatever that means.
And we have established that you won't let your kids play with anything they like because you adhere to age guidelines. Don't see why that gives you any high ground over those of us who hold stronger opinions against the appropriateness of violence in play. We just have different limits.

SlowFJH · 21/02/2016 10:03

Crappymummy
Very happy to clarify and do let me know if this is not clear.

Toy preferences are undoubtedly influenced by a huge number of social and cultural factors (including parental biases and influences, societal pressures, peer group chastisement, marketing, TV and a whole lot of other things).

In addition to the above, we cannot ignore those aspects of who we are and what has made us who we are - over which we may have less conscious control.

Here are just a few factors that I believe could also be playing a role in toy preferences

CORRELATION DOES NOT MEAN CAUSATION. THIS NOT AN EXHAUSTIVE LIST

Hormones
On average boys and men have between 5-10 times as much testosterone in their bloodstream than girls and women. During periods of early development, gonadal hormones - particularly androgens influence sex differences in rough physical play in both human and non human primates.

Brain Differences
There are reliable sex differences in the general population in terms of Empathising and Sytemising. The nucleus in the anterior preoptic portion of the hypothalamus is twice as large in men as it is in women (See Blum 1997, Geary 2010, Panksepp 1998). This region is covered with testosterone receptors. The hypothalamus controls the pituitary gland which in turn instructs the testes and adrenal gland to make yet more testosterone.

Evolutionary Psychology
Male infants show a greater attraction (on average) to toys involving movement. Female infants show a greater interest (on average) in toys representing animals.
Testosterone is linked to the drive for competing, status and social dominance. The most visible clue to physical dominance - height is, to this day, still correllated with sexual attractiveness as well as success in professional and political realms. There is a correlation between squareness of jaw line and the eventual military rank attained by male graduates of West Point.Teenage boys take more physical risks when there are girls present. There is clear gender gap in areas such as over-confidence, violence, risk-taking and group vs group hostility. I do not believe tools were only made by men. I do believe something dramatic happened in the evolution of hominid and human brains to set us apart in areas such as collaboration, language and technology (and that this started with the control of fire). I do not believe evolution is a linear progression. I do believe we have lots to learn in this field even though we don't have a time machine to provide definitive evidence.

Heredity
The IQs and likelihood to commit violent crime in adopted children correlates more with their biological siblings than their adoptive ones. Studies of identical twins separated at birth show that the "blank slate" theory (nurture trumps all) does not hold true.

Brain Physiology
Recent research suggests that the dramatic changes in the personality of Henry VIII may have been caused by specific jousting injuries. A bump on the head may have changed the course of world history. The story of Phineas Gage contributed to the identification of specific regions of the brain that influence Rage and Fear (both of which in turn influence the taking).

A nuanced and complex mix
So hormones, brain structure, DNA, physiology, anthropology, psychology and yes our evolutionary history mean it's complicated.

I believe it is unscientific to say "Oh of course, my own psychological processes have evolved but evolutionary psychology is bollocks". How can you have one without the other?

I have not said "Wheels cos testosterone alone" or "Pink cos pickin berries". In fact I have called out such misrepresentations. I think they are ideologically motivated by people when it dares to question "Cos Patriarchy".

I don't believe in "banning" children from playing with the toys they are attracted to (as long as they are safe). I do believe in allowing children to have access to toys which are non-stereotypical for their sex.

I personally would not "cordon off" any section of the toy shop (e.g. guns and swords) to my sons or daughter.

Let me know if any of the above is not clear.

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AllTheToastIsGone · 21/02/2016 09:22

Slow, I do think physical aggression is a plausible candidate for a sex specific difference. That's because it's clearly an attribute that could be useful to a man but detrimental to a woman based on the fundamental difference that women have children and men do not. Provoking people into fights who are bigger and stronger whilst physically vulnerable through pregnancy is not a good survival strategy.

My problem with a lot of evolutionary theories about sex differences is that they seem like illogical puesdo science mainly based on prejudice.

So for example at a party the other day some one told me that they had been to a conference and had been told that women are better at multi tasking that men because women used to be gatherers and men used to be hunters so women had to do lots of things at the same time but men only one.

I had a number of objections to this theory.

  1. Are women actually better at mutitasking anyway? ( I suspect that they are not and this is used at an excuse to load them with dull tasks at work while their male colleagues get on with the important stuff)
  2. Assuming it even exists why did the ability to multitask become sex specific? What was the survival detriment to men of being able to carry out multiple tasks?
  3. How much do we know about sex roles on early societies and how they varied across time and culture anyway?
SlowFJH · 21/02/2016 07:46

Sp cultures

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SlowFJH · 21/02/2016 07:46

DN4
Re Native Americans
They were not primative [seriously?] at the time of European arrival

Who ever said they were?

Please re-read my post from 20.2.16 at 22:24.

The West has a lot to learn from culters that might have developed technologies differently.

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crappymummy · 21/02/2016 07:45

Sorry SlowFJH Perhaps I misread the thread then. I had understood from your posts that male children had a preference for mechanical toys, and that this is consistent with evolutionary psychology and that this discipline had valid explanations for it

I am not the only poster under that impression however

Are you saying something completely different? Could you please clarify

crappymummy · 21/02/2016 07:36

I was answering your questions about which tools were not developed by all cultures. Sorry to have confused you in so doing.

you seem to paint evolution as a steady march toward some exalted state- primates, then early hominids, then us as though these others are our predecessors, our less evolved relatives

this is a really weird way of looking at species diversity

SlowFJH · 21/02/2016 07:01

DN4

Yes I agree cranium volume alone does not reflect cognitive ability. We know that Neanderthal's tools were far less sophisticated than those of Homo Sapiens. From skull shapes we can infer Neanderthal had smaller frontal lobes.

Don't think I ever said a liking for wheeled toys is directly linked to testosterone. Did I

Re Native Americans
I think you are mixing up some of my points with Crappymummy. I asked for clarification from her about the particular cultures she was referring to and the specific technology that they had not developed. I agree that the development of the wheel may be as a be linked to a huge number of environmental factors e.g. the fact that the horse had gone extinct over there.

Don't think I have ever said tools were only developed by males.

Happy to be quoted using my actual words rather than misrepresentations

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DN4GeekinDerby · 21/02/2016 00:23

Neanderthals had bigger craniums. There isn't much evidence to suggest that they had more cognitive abilities. And if you're going to discuss gender differences, reducing it to the two most typical sex genes is still unsound when there are several others that have and continue to exist especially when we as a society define it by body parts and few actually know for certain what sex chromosomes they have. If you want to bring evolution into it, you need to look at all sex gene types that can continue the species - which is far more than XX and XY - and somehow cut out our current social binary in how people beyond those two interact with the world.

All the evolutionary psyc talk reminds me of archaeological sciences about 50+ year ago (or any on TV now) where anything that couldn't be explain was explained as a 'ritual' because that's how they saw earlier people. As a concept it may have merit but in practice it -- and you - are taking fragments to fit a worldview which isn't really how good science is done. But then, science is only as good as the people doing it and interpreting it as anyone with any grasp of science history knows.

We have no idea why the male monkey babies preferred the mechanical toy over the plush. It could simply have been because it was shiny or harder feeling or anything. They could have been influenced by the workers - anyone who has done any research with people or other animals knows how easy we all are to being influenced. The very people wrote it as has been pointed out cautioned against using it as you and the media keep doing.

About American Indigenous nations, the over 600 nations we have records, most of which did not have wheels prior to European colonization is that the differences in tools and choices in technology created can suggest what is more effected by evolution, what is more effected by environment, and what is more effected by culture. Of the largest American Indigenous nations at the time of European colonization, the biggest technologies were mainly in foods (of which most popular parts of the Western diet now rely), landscape shaping, soil maintenance that we still cannot replicate, and many other non-mechanical technologies.

You began by stating that your sons were interested in wheels and not your daughter and that wheels, along with other technological advances, were created because of men's testosterone. Except several hundred nations for tens of thousands of years did not and most of their technological advances which many enjoy today aren't mechanically based as you described. They were not "primitive" [seriously?], at the time of European arrival they had some of the largest cities in the world and the Americas had large, long standing trade routes, there was just nothing that in the environment or culturally for such things -- and apparently nothing in evolution either. There is also no evidence that I know of that suggests that tool making anywhere, even in animals, is strictly a male thing and nothing to suggest that any of these early tool were originally invented by males. That is a leap you are choosing to make. We've already seen in the last decade or so many cases of well known early tombs or constructs attributed to men because of the weapons and armor and tools that turned out not to be so - the people then just assumed so because that is how they saw things and chose to make that leap. They were wrong.

Like archaeological sciences of old/TV, evolutionary psyc today suffers badly from echo chamber syndrome and some of them and especially the media have a lack of humility in admitting that they do not have a clue what something means or that they could be wrong. But then, some of the biggest research universities in this area are still funding research and doctorates into finding which race is "scientifically" smarter or more attractive so maybe it needs someone to unstick them from 50 years ago before it will make real progress. Until they can move beyond that, the evo-psyc that makes it to the general public is better viewed with a high amount of bollocks detection.

In my house, we have a box of nerf guns and crossbows - my partner and I collect them and keeps the ones we won't use or he wont paint in a box for the kids. It goes untouched except when another family who have four girls come over and make everyone play with them. None of my four have interest in wheeled toys except to decorate their block towns. All of my kids love dress up, and building, and electric experiments, and video games and swords. We have an extremely large plush toy collection. My 2 sons are less flexible about what they choose to watch than my 2 daughters - they have their favourites and nothing is going to change their mind without a sulk while the girls are more likely to experiment and try new shows but any of that could just be them rather than their assigned gender. Really, even with kids from 11 to 5, how many times I have to request they take their hands out of their pants is pretty much the same across gender. I notice people laugh and talk about it more if they catch me telling my sons compared to my daughters, but they all do it. Messing with genitals I can see the argument for evolution, but I find it harder with their TV watching habits or lack of interest in wheeled toys.

MyCrispBag · 21/02/2016 00:17

SlowFJH

It looks to me like you realised that you were having a hard time debating your point and decided to disingenuously infer a point you thought you could 'win'.

Grin
SlowFJH · 20/02/2016 23:46

DrSeussRevived
What's your view on the control of fire and it's impact on humanity? It sounds like a big "meh".

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SlowFJH · 20/02/2016 23:44

Thank you Russet
Ad hominem

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DrSeussRevived · 20/02/2016 23:43

"With regard to the control of fire I personally believe that this was probably a major event in human development (rather just a new skill learned)."

Thanks for clarifying that,

SlowFJH · 20/02/2016 23:42

MyCrispBag
Who actually said that?
I think the "Evo-bollocks" challenge was raised by AskBasil. Also see comments from SomeDyke, Muttaburrasaurus and others.

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DrSeussRevived · 20/02/2016 23:42

So the evolutionary aspect there is ... what? That 99 cave people died in the attempt to control fire and the one who didn't lived to pass on the skill?

My history teacher once postulated that cave people might observe that dropped seeds grew better near soil with animal dung than without, and thereby draw conclusions about fertilisers...

SlowFJH · 20/02/2016 23:28

With regard to the control of fire I personally believe that this was probably a major event in human development (rather just a new skill learned).

All the evidence from the entire animal kingdom suggests that the fear of fire is innate. Any animal will be terrified of fire (even if they have not been "taught" to fear it). The control of fire had a monumental impact on the way humans developed compared with primates - not least because eating cooked food is far more efficient than raw... The psychological aspects of overcoming such a deeply rooted and understandable fear are fascinating.

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russetbella1000 · 20/02/2016 23:26

Slow's determined I'd give him/her that...But I don't agree.

Tbh just skim read various points here but as usual and as someone up thread pointed out, read Cordelia Fine and none of the other nonsense...Smile

It's funny how you can just read a tiny fragment of a post and immediately know you wouldn't get on with a person in RL, although I'm sure you're very nice but just a bit frustrated that you're not convincing others SlowFJH...

Sometimes you just have to agree to disagree but it looks like you're someone who needs to have the last word...

MyCrispBag · 20/02/2016 23:20

SlowFJH

Who actually said that?

SlowFJH · 20/02/2016 23:04

The simplistic accusation is more accurately aimed at those who say (said) all evolutionary psychology is bollocks.

This writer felt the same way but now offers a more nuanced perspective.

whyevolutionistrue.wordpress.com/2012/12/10/is-evolutionary-psychology-worthless/

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Theydontknowweknowtheyknow · 20/02/2016 22:59

And in addition to social constructs we should not discount those aspects of our being over which we might have less conscious influence than we think including our genetics, physiology, endocrinology, anthropology, brain structure and a whole bunch of other things.

Of course not (although we may have more control over brain organisation than we think) however there isn't much we can do about that is there?

The social stuff there is.

SlowFJH · 20/02/2016 22:55

AlltheToast
I'd be very interested in your views on the variation on part of the MAO-A gene that determines how much of the enzyme is produced. People with a low activity version of the gene suffer a build up of certain neurotransmitters in the brain and are more likely to have committed violent crimes.

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