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Why do women "stand by their man"?

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IShouldBeSoLurky · 12/02/2016 14:29

Just seen a photo of Adam Johnson arriving at court with his girlfriend. He's admitted grooming and sexually assaulting a 15-year-old girl. His girlfriend was pregnant at the time.

WHY do women have so little self-respect? Ched Evans's girlfriend too. And it's not like their football careers aren't totally over.

It's just so depressing.

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Lottapianos · 12/02/2016 15:56

I was thinking about this too after seeing the photo of Johnson arriving at court with his girlfriend. So many possible reasons. People can convince themselves of all sorts of things when the truth is too painful to deal with. Maybe she thinks that men can't help themselves and this little tart 'threw herself' at her man, what was he supposed to do? All that sort of rubbish.

Denial is not just a river in Egypt

Tiggeryoubastard · 12/02/2016 15:55

I've avoided that judging by the title alone, helpful.

MrNoseybonk · 12/02/2016 15:55

Maybe they believe their man is innocent?

HelpfulChap · 12/02/2016 15:51

There is a thread on here to the effect of 'is it better to be in an abusive relationship than no relationship at all'.

Mind boggling.

Tiggeryoubastard · 12/02/2016 15:49

Their victims, not they're.

Tiggeryoubastard · 12/02/2016 15:48

This has been in my head today, too. Especially after the rapist Ched Evans. Do they still see some residual 'glamour' from the footballing past? Enough to accept what these vile creeps did, not just to others, but to them? It sickens me, but I'm not fully sure what the exact reasons are, though it's a mixture. Are they naive (don't think so), have they no other options (see previous), do they believe he's done no wrong because they're victims are 'less' than them in some way? Do they just not give a shit about any of it? Are they so bloody thick they don't get it?
I don't view them as any better than the blokes who's behaviour they are condoning, frankly, add Stuart Hall and Rolf Harris' repulsive wives to that.

scallopsrgreat · 12/02/2016 15:37

Also the other thread on here about Cheryl James gives a good indication as to why women (and even more men) stand by men who rape.

scallopsrgreat · 12/02/2016 15:35

I think you are asked ng the wrong question. It's pretty easy to see why women 'stand by their man's when women's worth is portrayed so often in respect of their value towards men.

The question should be why is it so acceptable for men to be attracted to girls?

OneFlewOverTheDodosNest · 12/02/2016 14:56

Is the answer "socialisation" too simplistic?

CultureSucksDownWords · 12/02/2016 14:48

It is probably a combination of lack of self-esteem/self-respect and victim-blaming.

Will they even be able to stay together given that she has a child and he presumably will be on the sex offenders register?