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Is there a conflict between PC speech codes and the need to name sources of misogynistic violence?

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OTheHugeManatee · 12/01/2016 10:21

I've been following debates around the 'trans' issue on FWR with interest for some time. More recently I've also been appalled by the mass sexual attacks in Cologne and the related issue of the stilted, minimising way those attacks have been discussed - particularly in the left-leaning press.

It's got me wondering about possible conflicts between PC speech codes and feminist analysis. I think this is a feature of both these issues. To be clear, by 'PC speech codes' I mean the cultural taboos that make it socially unacceptable to make generalisations about certain groups of people.

In trans debates, trans people are cast as a minority within a minority, and women are re-framed as the ones with privilege who must cede space to ease their suffering. Much of the feminist discussion around this is, as I understand it, devoted to challenging this narrative.

In the Cologne attacks, there was a visible reluctance by left of centre media to be explicit about the cultural/ethnic dimension to the attacks. The implicit view, from some quarters, seems to be that the right of white Western women to move about at night free from sexual assault weighs equally - or even lower - than the right of refugees to be protected from ugly stereotypes and/or racist reprisals, and that therefore the ethnic/cultural dimension of the attacks should be played down lest it exacerbate the suffering of refugees.

Elsewhere though in FWR I've seen robust defenses of the validity and need for generalisations, when it comes to class analysis of gendered violence. As I understand it, it is reasonable and valid to generalise about men as a class, even if NAMALT, because otherwise it is impossible to name the problem.

So what I'm wondering is this: if generalisations about men as a class are defensible in the interests of naming feminist problems, does the same apply to subsets of men? For example if misogynistic violence is a major problem among men of a particular culture in the UK (even relative to the general depressingly high levels of misogynistic violence in the general population, and even if NAM[culture]ALT), are we comfortable spelling that out?

If there are classes of people among whom misogynistic violence is more prevalent than the already high norm in the UK, I want to be able to name the problem. But I think there is often substantial resistance to this. There may well be valid and internally coherent reasons for this, but I think that from a feminist viewpoint we need to think about what's going on here.

I think this is very difficult ground for feminism. I'm loth to give examples, for fear of derailing what's intended as a general musing, but here's a fairly incendiary one. There are persistent and worrying rumours coming out of Sweden that sexual violence against women has skyrocketed in that country in recent years. This is clearly a feminist issue, and one that should surely be tackled vociferously by feminist campaigners. You'd think. However there are also persistent rumours that the overwhelming majority of this violence is perpetrated by recent immigrants of Arab/North African origin. But there is an almost total blackout in the 'respectable' mainstream Swedish press around this; the only news outlets willing to touch it are right-wing outfits such as Breitbart, and frankly bonkers conspiracy mongers like the Gatestone Institute.

The rumours relate to Sweden, but imagine you're a feminist in Sweden hearing these rumours. Do you write it off as lies and hate-mongering? Perhaps it is nothing but lies and hate-mongering. I don't know and can't verify it either way. I hope it is. But perhaps (like Rotherham) it isn't. So should you take a stand for women and say 'I'm going to risk contributing to a right-wing, racist discourse because if there is any possibility that it's true it should be investigated and stamped down on hard, because I want to stick up for the women being assaulted'? Or should we be saying 'Overall I think Swedish women have a pretty easy time of it, considered globally, and I don't want anyone conducting racist pogroms in my name, so I'm going to keep schtum'?

More generally, I am wondering if we need to think explicitly about what, as feminists, we do when there is a conflict between the aims and needs of feminism and those of other 'rights' groups. (It might just be me who needs to think about this; for all I know you've all already worked it out). But I think there are some conflicts, and the Cologne attacks and trans rights thing points to that. And I think there's a general, vague presumption among many people who consider themselves generally right-on that this is not the case, and that all the various needs of the various rights campaigns are either aligned by definition, or can somehow be balanced out. And yet, it seems self-evident to me that the needs of different rights campaigns often conflict; witness trans and women's rights. And when this 'balancing' takes place, again and again it is my observation that it's the rights of women that have to give ground.

My personal stance is that women's rights come first and if there is a conflict between women's rights and another rights campaign I'm for women. But what do others think? I think it's a live issue for feminism, a difficult one (at least difficult for feminists who think of themselves as generally left-wing, anti-racist, right-on etc) and one that I've not seen much discussion on.

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MelindaMay · 13/01/2016 17:53

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almondpudding · 13/01/2016 17:52

I suspect most feminists support international law which clearly makes distinctions between different levels of severity of rape and sexual assault.

I don't understand why women would go places for fun knowing events like Cologne happened there. You calling that victim blaming doesn't explain why they do it.

What level of severity do we get to before you would see a difference? Genocidal rape? Abduction? Would you be there going, oh that's normal in nightclubs.

whodrankmycoffee · 13/01/2016 17:52

I am referring to feminist journalists rather than fwr. The deafening silence from the guardian has been embarrassing.

But on here there has been big conversation on the news boards.

Grimarse · 13/01/2016 17:52

Slug, scale does make a difference in any walk of life. Since I am not likely to be subject to sexual assault (being male), a close analogy would be the difference between being pushed in the chest or being beaten up and hospitalised. And just to be clear, I am talking about the difference between an anonymous bum-pinch and full-on rape. Neither are acceptable, but there is a clear difference in effect on the victim.

I do get the gist of Out's argument. We tolerate everyday sexism in the UK, in the sense that it is out there. However, even that is changing. Women in the UK have a voice, an outlet (e.g. everydaysexism.com), and can raise these matters as something that should be stopped. That level of protest is not tolerated in the societies that some of these men come from.

I think Outs sees this separation as the White Devil trying to differentiate himself as morally superior to his brown brother, when in fact we are all cut from the same cloth.

OutsSelf · 13/01/2016 17:50

PP have expressed that women can (should) choose not to go to clubs where they aren't respected. Which implies if they make the wrong choice, they've only themselves to blame/ they are fair game if they go into clubs. And if it does happen in clubs, it's not rape rape, because it's normal there and you expect it, and also because you are not being stopped from getting your education. Basically, if you were going to get your education and were digitally raped, and looked suitably traumatised, then it would be bad. In the club? Don't fucking go, fool.

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whodrankmycoffee · 13/01/2016 17:49

melinda the perpetrator can rely on all the men in the crowd or nearby to assist in the assault by kettling the victim.

... that is what I meant

whodrankmycoffee · 13/01/2016 17:47

melinda worrying that once furore over cologne is over that the authorities and media will go back to ignoring women's issues is legitimate and likely to be true.

But it is not legitimate to refuse to participate or acknowledge that what happened is new to Europe. Feminists refusing to engage means we are not part of the solution. Imagine if this was the catalyst to re set the conversation on groping and cat calling in general.

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TensionWheelsCoolHeels · 13/01/2016 17:39

Who has said women in clubs are fair game for sexual assault?

whodrankmycoffee · 13/01/2016 17:37

I think a sexual assault is a sexual assault.

But my argument is that you do not anticipate the perpetrator to be supported by the wider public in this way. That is terrifying and new.

2016IsANewYearforMe · 13/01/2016 17:36

I think the situation in Cologne is awful. But lets not pretend that it is a new and unique kind of misogyny.

Actually, it really is a new thing in Europe and many posters have explained why clearly and concisely.

2016IsANewYearforMe · 13/01/2016 17:35

I think the silly debate on this thread perfectly answers your original question Manatee.

OutsSelf · 13/01/2016 17:34

Almond, can you see that you are doing all the things feminist challenge in relation to reports that young women in this culture are subject to unwanted digital penetration. You suggest that they shouldn't go where they go. You suggest that they have choices about leaving or obvious and clear recourses to action. You suggest that if it 'really' happened, the police would do something. You suggest that because the women expected it, it's less of a crime than that against the women in Cologne, who didn't expect it. You suggest that the women are not sufficiently traumatised to constitute real victims of sexual assault because they don't look or act like the traumatised women in Cologne. You demand evidence of a particular kind and can't accept that a lack of that evidence does not mean that what those young women described to me and many others does not happen. Your dismissal of it is really disheartening.

I think the situation in Cologne is awful. But lets not pretend that it is a new and unique kind of misogyny. And let's use the horror that people rightly feel about it to point to the endemic sexism of our own culture.

almondpudding · 13/01/2016 17:33

I would consider it worse to be surrounded by a huge number of men and sexually assaulted by huge numbers of men, while members of my own family who wanted to help me were unable to do so because of the number of men trapping me and sexually violating me.

I would consider that worse than being assaulted by one man alone where bystanders who wanted to help me had a possibility of doing so.

whodrankmycoffee · 13/01/2016 17:31

Look even if club land is rife with sexual assault it is still different because it is not facilitated by every single male in the room working as a hive to attack the women. The men in the club did not go expressly, having pre planned a night of sexual assault safe in the knowledge that bouncers would not intervene and all other men would support their activities.

To me it's difference between one person trying to kill you in village and the entire village hunting you down. Murder is still wrong and you would still be dead. But in scenario 1 you can seek help and risk assess. Scenario 2 is of a different order.

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itllallbefine · 13/01/2016 17:25

oh, i'm sorry, I must have missed the bit where it was said that women in nightclubs were fair game for sexual assault ?

grimbletart · 13/01/2016 17:22

I think Outself is horribly missing the point. It is not that we don't agree that groping happens all the time by all sorts of men from all sorts of backgrounds.

What does not happen all the time is that hundreds of women are groped by mass groups of men in a public square with utter impunity. And it is coming to light that it was not just Cologne, but other German cities and Sweden as well.

It is a huge difference of scale. Yes, society should address the ongoing problem that women are seen as fair game. That should not stop it addressing quickly and without any nonsense about first understanding the poor dears what is now happening en masse.

The need to understand can come quietly and rationally once the perpetrators have been dealt with i.e charged, found guilty and deported back to wherever they came from, whatever the dangers are there.

OutsSelf · 13/01/2016 17:19

it'llall The characterisation I offer of UK clubbing experience for young women is a report given to me by young women. I don't think they had a political agenda when they were making that report. I have offered it here because I think there is a blindness to the sexism of our own culture but we are happy to point to it when it comes from elsewhere. The women who described their experiences in this way did not report anything, they thought it was normal. Understandable when the basic attitude even in a feminist discussion is that you are fair game if you are clubbing.

almondpudding · 13/01/2016 17:15

So is there or is there not a club culture where huge numbers of men simultaneously apprehend and assault an individual woman, and this happens multiple times a night to many women in the same venue?

And if so, I will ask, why do women go? Given that clubs are a voluntary form of entertainment?

Because I have seen the YouTube footage of these events happening in public places and all the women present look utterly traumatised, even if it is not them it is currently happening to.

And I would stay at home and keep my daughter in the home if such events were 'normal.' If such events routinely happened on the streets of the UK I would consider that society as we know it as women had collapsed.