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Would anyone like to help my dd choose a Secret Santa present for......

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BertrandRussell · 04/12/2015 09:33

.......the man who played the "I am a feminist" card and who she fell for like a ton of bricks before he turned out to be a arsehole?

They are in the same circle of friends, and she is mostly over him so she can be amused at having picked his name out of the hat. But she doesn't want to waste the opportunity.

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tribpot · 06/12/2015 13:22

I'd get him one of those 'This is what a feminist looks like' t-shirts, you know Cumberbatch had one recently.

VestalVirgin · 06/12/2015 13:09

Oooch, that's perfect, Bertrand. Though maybe it is too much of a compliment for some dudes to name a cockroach after them. They're very interesting little animals.

FauxFox · 06/12/2015 13:04

poo head game?

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BertrandRussell · 06/12/2015 12:46

Just in case anyone ever needs a similar present, here!

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PassiveAgressiveQueen · 05/12/2015 23:33

I hate how easily i can "think" shithole

VestalVirgin · 05/12/2015 23:22

@Passive: Hmm, right, I didn't consider that. Maybe adopting a termite for him would be better.
Or add a passage on the donation certificate (if you print it out yourself) where it says in which ways he is not actually a feminist. Small print so he doesn't notice immediately, maybe.

@Bertrand: Yes, it is annoying. But on the other hand, if you pay no attention to what they say, only to what they do, you can rather easily weed out the liars. In my experience, at least.

@Catz: I don't know ... plushy microbes are just too cute to give to assholes. (The little rhinovirus with santa hat is adorable!) And giving him real chlamydia is out of the question.

Catzpyjamas · 05/12/2015 23:03

Give him chlamydia

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BertrandRussell · 05/12/2015 23:00

She still hasn't decided but she's asked me to thank you all for all the ideas. We've had such a laugh together and it's given her and me a real boost.

On a serious note- isn't it depressing that men are doing this? It's not the first time I've seen it happen- so cynical and manipulative.

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PassiveAgressiveQueen · 05/12/2015 22:21

You would have to be careful the WEP style donations couldn't be used to show future girls friends "see what a feminist i am, these are the style of present people give me."

MrsTerryPratchett · 05/12/2015 20:13

Toilet twinning.

NeedAScarfForMyGiraffe · 05/12/2015 13:13

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IndominusRex · 04/12/2015 18:44

An asshat. A hat that is an ass.
This must exist surely? If not I think I've found my £1m idea.

QueenStromba · 04/12/2015 18:27

If he's a feminist then surely he'd like a book by Andrea Dworkin or similar?

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BertrandRussell · 04/12/2015 15:13

"talking to her dad about it" obviously!

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BertrandRussell · 04/12/2015 15:12

[grin]@Vestalvergin. I was just coming back to say that I was just talking timber dad a out it and he suggested adopting a termite. Just the one.

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VestalVirgin · 04/12/2015 14:58

@Bertrand: Maybe a desert mole rat would be cheaper?

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BertrandRussell · 04/12/2015 14:54

It costs £40 to adopt a warthog Sad

Cheesy- you won't believe this but the bullshit button is a significant part of our family life.......Grin

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Cheesybaps · 04/12/2015 14:43

How about..... this?

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BertrandRussell · 04/12/2015 14:41

Thank you all- she and I have had such a lovely time this morning looking at all of these! She's still deciding, but will definitely choose one of them. I just adore the "adopt a warthog" idea, but I suspect it might be too expensive................

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VestalVirgin · 04/12/2015 14:38

@Plays: You mean the kind of thing where you pay a sum of money to a zoo and get to name one of their animals? (I wouldn't actually give an animal to an asshole. Just not fair, poor animal)

MyNameIsInigoMontoya · 04/12/2015 14:11

Hamper of fancy cleaning products/tools, all wrapped up prettily?

PlaysWellWithOthers · 04/12/2015 14:05

Could she maybe adopt a warthog for him?

PlaysWellWithOthers · 04/12/2015 13:57

Quite like the wanker and toxic t-shirts.

If I had the money to spare, I can think of a couple of men I'd love to send them to.

VestalVirgin · 04/12/2015 13:48

Donate the money to the WEP and print out a certificate, like this one:

www.feministischepartei.de/fileadmin/datensammlung/dokumente/Fotos/feminism_gutschein_a.jpg

(It says something along the lines of "I donated X amount of money to the Feminist Party, Merry Christmas to you and all feminists.")

As he is a feminist, that must be something he'll really, really like ... right?