Feminist Pub XX - may the summer rains wash the patriarchy down the plughole

I'm really glad your dh is going with you INicked, you need support today and DD will be absolutely fine spending the day with your sil.

Thanks for all the congratulations yesterday. Having had a very small, relaxed, cheap and cheerful wedding was definitely the best way for us to do it. We were home by 8pm doing normal bedtime for dd2. I've now opened all cards as well and I think we may have actually made a profit on the wedding By the time our parents gave us cash as wedding presents, then other people also sent cards, quite often containing cash, we now appear to have more cash than we spent on the wedding. That wasn't our intention at all, we just wanted people to come and share the day with us.

Fingers crossed for you today, INicked.

It could just be my brain playing tricks on me, but I always thought looks like, ahem, special green tea. What's actually on that cup?

I love Mocha. They are different from one place/brand to the next though. Aldi do great ones. I like their extra chocolatey ones but they don't seem to stock them at our local one.

I tried the Dowe Eggberts chocolate coffee and didn't like it. Love the mini jar though :)

I bought myself a nice little glass cup to drink it from, but because it's so talk I need to make it in a normal mug so that the spoon hits the bottom. Id love a Tassimo type machine.

Thank you for the well wishes yesterday. They mean a lot. I know it's just the internet but the help I've had here (on mil, on my family etc) has been very much appreciated. Didn't really sleep much, but at least today I'll know better. If I had to wait until the 20th I'd go mad. SIL is taking dd out for afternoon, a special treat that we were all meant to go to together and dd is a bit gutted that we are not all going, but she hasn't said anything, which makes me feel shitty. I told dh to go with them and that I'd be ok on my own but he is insisting on coming. I've promised dd that we will all go to the activity together another weekend and that she will have lots if fun with SIL and her cousins.

Anyway, thank you again for the support. :)

I do see in other boys a lack of care/the sense of entitlement already manifesting among DS's friends at infant school.

On the other hand, many, many of them are still lovely, sweet things who do look out for DS2 (they were all combing the softplay for him the other day - and pushing him up and down the roller coaster - even though he's a good 3-4 years younger than any of the boys and girls that were doing it). I've seen DS1 wander around hand in hand with other boys, DS2 (not quite 2) run up to hug someone who's upset, or be hugged and helped out by one of DS1's friends if he got upset

Both my boys are so different, but they both exhibit empathy (in different ways). If boys as a group don't exhibit empathy I feel it's because it's been trained out, because the vast majority of DS1's cohort at school still have it.

Although it could be that they have younger siblings and get yelled at to watchout more?

I also think that groups have personalities, and the personality of DS's school is a very family-style one, so perhaps it's also bringing it out in the kids.

Thanks for the new pub. Mine's a non-alcoholic pint of tea please. Drinking before a funeral not being the done thing.

DD sometimes comments on how strong her legs are, because I do when she's whizzing about all over the place. So that's one point for me. Unfortunately she has also decided her favourite colour is pink: one point to the patriarchy.