Feminist Pub XX - may the summer rains wash the patriarchy down the plughole

we were wandering around Key West, Miami and Orlando. Some days it was 105 We had a great time, but DD struggled with the humidity. It is raining and in the 60s here in MI today. I could live in 100 degrees (I prefer dry to humid though) or more tbh, it's the only time I don't have Vitamin D deficiency.

kickass It has been a very hot summer here. We usually get away for 2-3 weeks to western New York where DH is from, but we did not get our respite this summer for several reasons. I don't deal with hot weather too well so I tend to stay inside during the summer and venture out in the other months. I do live in the northern part of the state so we do get a bit of season change here.

Seneca, we have just returned to MI from Florida. Had a great time but it was HOT! There were days that it was 103. But I'm missing the sunshine already. When we go on our hot summer trips is the only time of the year when I don't seem to have low Vitamin D. Not sure if I could deal with living in Florida though - too much humidity and nature seems out to get you.

Thanks, PlaysWell The storm looks as though it has dissipated some; I think it will mostly be a lot of rain for us.

Hope all is well Seneca, it's the one thing I don't miss about living in the tropics.

kickass the android app has been shut down, because the log-in wasn't secure. They should have a new and secure iphone app ready soon, but android app is at the back of the queue. Can't cope with the mobile site on my teeny tiny phone so have just upgraded solely to get on here.

Thanks for the good wishes. I'm sure we'll be fine. It's just a downside of living in what is otherwise a lovely part of the world.

Basically, it's bottled water, non-perishable food, batteries, sterno fuel for heating water (coffee a must!), checking that flashlights and camping lanterns work, charging up phones, kindles (for me), drills (for repairs if needed), getting cash, filling cars with gas in case we have to evacuate (we are on the coast), collecting copies of important documents: house insurance, pet vaccinations, etc. DH goes around and does various things with the windows, checks roof tiles, etc. We haven't had one for over 10 years so we are a bit out of practice.

I hope you're OK Seneca. I'd be terrified but interested in a hurricane. What do you need for your hurricane kit? Is it torches, food supplies, batteries, etc or do you need more specialist equipment?

Why goes in a hurricane kit?

Checking in and marking place for me, too. We have a tropical storm/possible hurricane headed our way (Florida); I'm on my way out to re-stock the Hurricane Kit.

it's the bank holiday, so many gins are allowed.

The exact same thing happened to me too yesterday. By people I like and who's opinion I usually respect. I've felt a bit shellshocked all day, but you know what, they're just people on the internet. I'm secure in my views and that basically GTF if they can't listen to a different idea with sneering and calling names.
Plus I've been at the beach all day and that has helped loads!

Is anyone else going back and forth on their Labour leader vote? They tried calling me today but I just can't seem to get all my questions in a line.

Hi, marking place. I lost you after hackergate as can't get on the app. and had no free wifi at our last hotel.

Now home for a blessed 12 hours before driving 4 hours to Chicago for a show for DD's birthday, then 4 hours back again!

Will catch up later.

Marks place. Fallen off mumsnet lately due to new job, and name change. Back after a very disturbing conversation in a fb group (that I love). I've got many gins, little tonic.

ROFL - that's an awesome last sentence, this feminism lark really does get everywhere doesn't it :)

I just had my first negative reaction to our choice of having one child with DP's surname, and one with mine - coming back to the UK, passport control frowned and asked why (not in that 'how was the weather' way they do at first, but in a 'what are you trying to get past me'). We both grinned - I said 'we each have one', and DP said something about the names sounding nice that way (they alliterate - which I know the names board hates, they would really hate my kids names!) - the passport control officer made a comment about it being unusual with a stern look on her face, took one more flick through then let us past.

I foresee issues if I ever travel alone with them....

Cryptic clue: I used to be turbulent weather over a north eastern seaside town.

Autogynewhatsit is basically where you're turned on by yourself as a woman. Unless you actually are one, in which case it would be, er, narcissism? I was a good little fanficcer back in the internet's earlier days, when the mantra was "Your kink is not my kink. And that's okay!" - I am pretty open-minded. And the sight of DD's father in pretty knickers is one that unexpectedly ceases all coherent brain function. And then my inner feminist (who tends to be quite vocal these days) goes hang on, what exactly is it we're getting off on here? This is a bit fucked up. But I struggle to articulate to myself why.

Just been reading various stuff about the Hugo award debacle this year (very brief and no doubt highly inaccurate summary: bunch of people decide that the big problem with modern science fiction is that there's just too much diversity involved, and then decided to try to swamp this particular award to push out all those nasty ethnic minority or female writers. Upshot: results announced on Saturday, not a single one of their preferred nominees won.)

But anyway, during that I came across various great blogs/articles such as this one, talking about how comedy characters default to male:
boringoldraphael.tumblr.com/post/107481385794/rewatching-s1-for-like-the-100th-time-at-what

You're here! I lost you for a while, you disappeared from threads I'm on. I'm so glad I found you again.

This isn't really a feminist grumble but I'm feeling sad and frustrated about dd2 being so incredibly shy. Nobody seems to let her just be her, there's always someone telling her she's not shy, when actually she's working really, really hard just to be able to stand still and not cry when anybody speaks to her. It's only going to get worse as well, because it's cute for a 5yo to be shy, not so cute for a 10yo or a teenager to be so shy she can barely speak to people she doesn't know.

I don't know what that is, but lots of people have namechanged and so on recently...

Good question. I hope so, because I just read something that made me go . Apparently we're not allowed to talk about autogyn- shit, how is it spelled? -aephilia? Because it's hateful and offensive or something. Which is a bugger, because I've been meaning to start a thread about it for a while so I can pick everyone's brains about what an uneasy bedfellow my feminism finds it. And now I'm worried if I do start such a thread, with such a recent namechange, people will think I'm trolling or something. Bugger!

Are we back in business?

It is just so jolly nice to have a man publicly agreeing with women on this.

Hey, Buffy, you around anywhere? Following that thread of yours about men not sticking up for women you might want to look at this www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/2454270-Why-ARE-some-men-so-horrible-to-women?pg=9

Bottom of pg 9 a man actually says we shouldn't have to put up with it. Another is describing the difficulties of male involvement too.