Feminist Pub XX - may the summer rains wash the patriarchy down the plughole

The pub fell off my threads I'm on list again.

I hope you're recovering well INicked I loved the PIC of the socks, very fetching.

Ebear I've got a colleague like that too. Everything is categorised by gender rather than just being toys. I take the piss, gently because I do have to work with them, and say things about penises falling off if boys play with dolls, etc.

RL is overrated, EBear.

I think I was a bit taken aback because I possibly spend more time hanging out in here than making smalltalk to my colleagues, and sometimes I forget how the rest of the world thinks.

"No, no hand me downs. Different number of legs."

Or something.

Once someone said something about women teachers can't do football at PE and I said that's because women have no legs and can't kick fucking balls...

A colleague has a new baby - a boy, after two girls. "You won't be able to do hand-me-downs," said another colleague. "Girls'and boys' toys."

I need another phrase for, "Don't be such a fucking sexist idiot," which was my first thought, but fortunately, something in my brain stopped me swearing in the middle of the office (which would have caused trouble,) so I ended up saying nothing. New father just replied, "well, it's always nice to have some new things," which is fair enough, though I don't think it bothered me as a child until I was at playschool or possibly older.

Found this today. It's probably been posted a million times, but it might be interesting, if a little soul destroying to some.

To My Ex-Husband's New Girlfriend: I'm Sorry

Oh my Gordon, I'd forgotten the pub was still going!

I feel like I've done ten rounds with Mike Tyson!. My breast doesn't hurt very much, and looks like it's very minimal bruising (I can't take dressing off yet), but by god does every muscle from the public bone right up to my jaw hurt. Kind of like when you do too many sit ups but a million times worse. I felt my stomach hurting a little when I came round and had asked if I'd been sick but they said no and it'll just be hunger.

Muscles I didn't know I even had hurt when I speak, I sneezed yesterday and almost passed out. Dd has a brilliant dry matter of fact wit and in bid to cheer me uo she said "mam, just remember pain is good, it's means you're alive, which is good because you look like faeces" which made me giggle, then cry, then giggle then cry again :)

I know I'll be good in a few days and I'm lucky that it's temporary dh and dd will lift my mood once they are home and thank you all for the well wishes

I guess I must have been - and it was so dull, I have entirely forgotten what it was!

INickedAName I didn't see your posts. So glad it went well and hope you are recovering.

Like the socks.

Ebear Were you in a dull meeting and attempting to write something and nodding off?

Today's mystery: I picked up a notebook I use on occasions like today (conference) - quite often things to do with eomen in tech and women in business - tenuous feministy relevance.

The first couple of pages, there are notes which I know about. And then there is a page where I have written on 3 separate li es the word "Unimportantly" in increasingly messy handwriting.

I have no memory of doing this. What do we think my thought processes were at the time that I was prompted to write it?

They do look quite splendid nevertheless.
Glad it went well - take care, it takes time to get over a GA.

Everything went great, I was home by lunch time and have spent the afternoon asleep on the couch. All the staff were amazing and I felt really well looked after. They ended up taking three lumps out, throat a bit sore and boob swollen but the drugs are still doing their job so it's not hurting (yet).

My SIL and my mum phoned for a chat and both were lovely and a bit teary, dh has been a star an dd keeps asking if I want anything and "helping" me upstairs. She hugged me when she came home from school as she thought I was sleeping, she doesn't do hugs and I know I'd not have got one if she thought I was awake. Might be the drugs talking but I'm feeling really lucky to have everyone in my life, pain in the arses they are most of the time but I wouldn't be without any of them.

Have to keep the sodding socks on for another day, tried to take a pic to show you the full beauty of them and make you all jealous, but it's dark and the photo doesn't really do them justice :)

Are they compression socks or something? Or just a distraction while you puzzle about why you've been asked to wear them?

I'm sat with the weirdest tight green sock things on. I'm not as panicked as I was last night but I'm proper nervous. And hungry. I should be going down in half an hour, and they said it'll all be over and I'll be going home by lunchtime. (Hopefully) Staff are really lovely.

You must be there now, INicked. Hope it's all going well.

Me, too. INnicked.

It's horrible going through breast stuff, even if you know it's for the best. I think it's fine and normal to have a wobble. I hope you get some sleep and it all goes well. Hope you have a swift recovery! I'll be thinking of you.

Just popping in to have a little wobble.

The lump that I was told is a cyst a month or so ago had changed when I went for my next appointment, they wanted to make sure so sent me for a mammogram and drew some fluid. I had the results from that last week and was told it's not looking like anything sinister but they were worried about the amount of pain I'm in, and how my breast is very swollen, (its fucking agony) so recommended me having it removed and then they'll also test the lump.

All good and well and they said I'll be booked in for tomorrow. I thought I'd be awake but it turns out I'll be out to sleep, I've been pushing it to the back of my mind all week and feel sick now. I'm scared of not being in control of my own body and the thought is bringing some not nice medical memories for me. Sixteen years ago Several students all had a go at removing my retained placenta without my consent and because I was so drugged up I couldn't move and say no, I know that stuff doesn't happen anymore but I've been revisiting it all day, it's worn me out but i feel restless, I know I'll be ok but I feel stupid for thinking it was like having a tooth out, when's it's actually more like a proper operation.

Dh thinks I'm just worried in general, I can't bring myself to tell what is bothering because it's something I don't feel comfortable talking about. I know I'm 100% safe, but I still feel frightened, I'm going to have a nice bath and try to relax and sleep.

Good thing is I have to be there at 7.30 am so I don't have all morning to work myself up, and the sooner I'm in, the sooner I'm out and I can have coffee. Dd is hoping I'm groggy and say silly things so she can video it and put me on youtube!

Just posting for a kick up the arse really. I'm gonna use the few hours I'll be sat around to finish delusions of gender (or if that's too heavy going I have dds Diary of a Wimpy Kid)

look like caricatures

I'm regretting clicking on that to be honest. It feels very, very wrong. Not least because they like caricatures, not like real ones at all.

Yeah, I've seen that Nicked. I don't rightly know what to make of it either.

On the one hand, I find it really rather creepy. There's something about strapping a dildo onto a five year old girl that just doesn't feel right. [I've read that sentence back to myself and gone 'duh!']

On the other hand, it's just a penis. I don't know if some five year olds need them to be happy as I have zero experience with transgender kids.

I don't think this has anything to do with paedophilia, although it doesn't half seem extraordinary to be so genitalia-focused at that age. But what do I know?

A link to this article showed up on my twitter feed this feed this morning. I thought it was a joke but it appears to be legit. I was thinking of starting a thread because there's so much I can't get my head around, and would like to hear other thoughts. I've not started one because there's a lot of "transphobic, bigot, Terf" stuff getting flung at people questioning this product, and I don't know how to word my feelings so that I don't sound offensive.

fake penises designed for 4 year old trans children