Domestic Violence - Far from gender neutral

The article is by the CEO of Women's Aid and mentions Respect, aimed at male victims.

If an article had been written by the CEO of Respect, I would expect a similar lev of mention of Women's Aid, TBH.

Surely it is a good thing if the ONS is properly collecting data on repeat attacks?

It makes it different as it's not part of a whole system of violence and oppression.

So does that make abuse by the oppressed sex class towards the dominant sex class not as bad?

And I understand it's the majority of abuse but doesn't mean it doesn't happen

It matters who's doing the abusing when the majority of the abuse is by the dominant sex class against the oppressed sex class and that is part of a systemic pattern of violence.

Does it matter who's doing the abusing? Dv is wrong whatever the persons sex is. Yes one is more frequent and severe than the other but doesn't mean it should have 100% of the focus.

Bear, I don't think Flora was referring to you.

dancing Bear you don't understand the feminist position.

Of course the MRAs are gaslighting us, Scallops. They want the world to believe that DV is sex neutral, when every piece of reputable research shows that it isn't. The cap on how many incidents that are counted for the CSEW at 5 is utterly ridiculous. It skews figures. It makes a mockery of everything we know about DV.

FloraFox I hope you are not suggesting that I am an MRA. I think it's clear enough from my other posts on this site that I don't fall into that category. I would hate for you to be seen to be closing down debate by using that label.

I'd also note that nowhere have I suggested there is an equivalence with regard to incidence, quite the opposite - domestic violence against women is more frequent and more severe than against men

Thanks scallops that's good information. MRAs are always trying to claim there is some sort of equivalence between the rates of male violence and female violence when it's completely untrue.

To be fair, this is hardly a neutral study. And whilst I don't doubt that domestic violence against women is more frequent and more severe than against men, it boils my piss when people try to minimise the latter.

I completely appreciate that the feminist position is that violence against men is not its problem. But I don't see why it then needs to explain away and belittle the experiences of abused men. I don't see it as an either/or; by all means, petition for better funding for women's aid and I will support that endeavour. But for cripes' sake, it doesn't need to be at the expense of others in comparable situations - people already see female-on-male violence as a joke subject.

I should declare an interest here - my brother was in long-term relationship in which he was physically abused by his female partner (including having a plugged-in iron chucked at him - the cable stopped it from reaching him). So this is a subject that gets my goat, as you can probably tell.