Mumsnet demanding that I change my nickname

I thought your previous name was fine. To many woman access to abortion is a God send. You shouldn't have changed it.

OP, what a fantastic service you are doing xx

Lurcio, what has any of that got to do with this thread?

The OP hasn't come across as angry at all.

Wombofonesown - I like the new nickname, but had absolutely no problem with your previous one. People, including women (because - newsflash - we are people too) should be allowed to get angry about hideous injustices - and if you google the number of women worldwide who die from unsafe abortions, that's something any normal person should be getting bloody angry about. If you're not angered by women having to carry an 8th baby to term when they may die giving birth or be left unable to feed the other 7, if you're not angered by women in Nicaragua being denied treatment for ectopic pregnancies because doctors are terrified of being imprisoned for "carrying out an abortion" when in fact they're giving life-saving treatment - if you're not angered by these things, then I think there's something a bit screwed about your value judgements.

And there is to my mind nothing wrong with having a user name that expresses that anger. Angry satire as a weapon to puncture the complacency of the comfortable (and most of us in the UK are comfortable on a world wide scale - and certainly when it comes to reproductive rights we are way ahead of the game compared to most place) has a long and honourable history. Would Swift's "Modest Proposal" have carried any clout if it had said "Well, the people suffering in the potato famine could always ask nicely for carrot seeds next time round?"

Women are subject to such strong socialisation never to express anger that I think we've lost sight of the fact that anger is the appropriate response to injustice and oppression.

Famous - Strangely, most of the people I've seen supporting the original username on this thread are FWR regulars.

You may want to rephrase your remark as 'trust feminists not to give a shit about real women's feelings about abortion, the evil cows'.

I luvs okra

I don't have a problem Stinkersmum. I was just suggesting that we don't go down the route of stoking this up into the usual pro or anti abortion debate (because this thread is about something else) by picking up on one non-typical post in a long thread.

That's all.

And anyway, op has changed her username and acknowledged that she is not being unfairly picked on, so all's well.

Sorry Mintyy, what's your problem?

Yes, but its the only one remotely like it in a thread of 235 messages, so best just ignored eh Stinkersmum? You only get a complete consensus on a miniscule number of threads, and that's usually on subjects like "Aibu to think okra is the most disgusting thing you could put in your mouth?"

MumOfOne14

"An abortion is horrendous & shouldn't be taken lightly. At the end of the day you are taking a life. Those decisions should be kept to yourself. You helping those people OP should be kept private too."

Wtaf???? I find this kind of opinion far more offensive than anyone's nn.

I agree with what you do op but the name suggests your making a joke out of it. It's not a joke as your keen to show the seriousness off what you do with your examples of why you do it up thread. So the name you use is contradictory.

I wouldn't think an abortion activist or a pro choice activist would use such a flippant name. It undermines the the work that you say you do.

It's an awful nn OP. I'm definitely pro choice but women have abortions for many different reasons and for a lot of them, it takes a lot of soul searching before they can make the decision. It might not be the right time for them or even their much wanted baby may have a condition which isn't compatible with life.

You, lightheartedly, calling yourself a 'FairyGodmother' is an insult to the women who have made this truly horrible decision.

So all's well that ends well!

Womb - glad you've changed to the new name, I like it so much better. Not much point reiterating what everyone has already said but yes, AGF was a standout "OMG" sort of name, for its trigger-potential rather than anything else.

The service you provide is great, hope that you continue your work. :)

Ha! Thank you. I am definitely reassured, and feel silly about my paranoia.

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I got asked my MNHQ to change this NN as it was a bit suspect. I was using it on a dodgy thread and I have to admit I was being a teeny bit quite a lot goady . I changed it immediately to a less contentious one and I don't use it anymore. I thought the MNHQ email was polite and reasonable.

I lie... I used it the other day on a thread that MN had confirmed WAS a troll thread so I assumed it would be ok to use.

I've only used it here to show the OP that MNHQ do keep an eye on NNs.

OP - just wanted to say thank you for what you do, both for providing abortions to women who need them and for talking about it openly. I freely admit: it was always a horrible shock whenever I came across your username. A good friend of mine had a late term abortion for medical reasons several years ago and I still can't even think about it without crying so hard. I don't even know why it affects me that much. It was a terrible choice she had to make but I'm glad it was hers to make. I'm glad for her and her baby girl who didn't have to suffer. So thank you again for providing other women with that choice.

I think we have more freedom to talk about silencing of women over trans issues than in most places on the Internet. I think MN have taken a pretty brave stance on that, and it worries me that trans activists will congregate to close that down.

I don't think MN posters in general are trying to shut down the discussion, nor would they accept most trans arguments. I haven't been on the trans threads on chat, but have been on many others, and don't feel at all silenced on MN.

WombOfOnesOwn is a quite excellent nickname.

I salute you for your activism, and if you can pm me a link to your blog, I'd love to have a read.

almondcakes, that would be amazing. I would happily worship at your altar!

I'm becoming tempted to change my name to the FeministMessiah, in honour of your struggle against MNHQ and their vast system of oppression and silencing.

Womb, can I just say I think your current name is ace ? Made me roar with laughter and also put me at ease to read on, whereas for personal reasons I would normally shut down re abortion ( hate revisiting trauma sort if stuff). And that's made me learn about what you do.

So thank you. And support for what you do.