Mumsnet demanding that I change my nickname

Abortion is usually a simple and quick procedure that has the desired outcome of ending a pregnancy.

WTAF? Please tell me you're being disingenuous for the sake of it?

Are you really dismissing the deep and emotional trauma that having an abortion causes some people?

Seriously?

Drop the 'FairyGodmother' part. It's awful.

I don't believe women should need to be any more "sensitive" than men about these issues; I think the drive for approaching all problems with sensitivity toward feelings even above sensitivity toward material reality is what's destroying feminism.

Well I'm sure HQ would have spotted any sort of sabotage.

There has been a lot of debate on the subject recently and I'm sure a close eye is being kept on anything to do with them.

RapeFairyGodMother for rape councillors is ok then?

DomesticAbuseFairyGodMother for those helping DA victims would be ok?

Um no, and not even slightly comparable, because they --hopefully- wouldn't be helping women to access rape or DV.... Plus, are you suggesting that rape or DV are choices women would like to make, but are unable to access them? Because that would be the comparison...

Could be argued that calling myself "TheOtherWoman" or "IveGotYourHusbandNow" would be just as offensive to some people as the one's above.....

Offence can be a personal thing....

I support your work and your NN. There are many words that may offend/trigger people, there are other NN's on MN that I find disagreeable but it would never occur to me to request someone change their chosen NN to something that doesn't offend my delicate sensibilities.

Forced abortion is a crime against humanity.

Oh you linked to a blog? What an enormous surprise!

Ffs.

And to whoever said "if you don't like it then just hide the poster" unfortunately that facility is not possible on this site.

I'm not really offended by your user name

But your posts are weird and rambly and some of your points are woefully misjudged and could do with a heavy dose of sensitivity

That's not comparable. Rape is a crime. Abortion (in most civilised countries) is not.

People can think what they like about my activism; I was profiled on MSNBC last year for what I do and I am proud but I understand many people find it offensive and hard to accept. I've been doing this work for nearly a decade now, and the abortion situation in many places has only gotten more grim.

Also not on to compare rape and DV to abortion. Many women have abortions and are perfectly fine afterwards. Not the case with rape and DV.

I like most of your posts op and your username always stands out. I prefer your new one though.

RapeFairyGodMother for rape councillors is ok then?

This ^^ with absolute bells on.

defineme - you do know you can't hide an individual poster?

But if you have been affected badly by the outcome of either (as I have had friends who have been), then it is an emotive thing. I'm just saying that powerful words sometimes need to be handled carefully for some people.

Yeah, exactly, the "cunty" type names made me assume that mere abortion would be trivial. Especially since I post on topics that are very women's rights oriented generally.

And I really don't think that a UK parenting website is an appropriate place for someone to act as AbortionDrugs2U sending out fuck knows what.

Are you working on the assumption that AFG is doing this on her own, without any knowledge to back her up and as some kind of a joke? That's making some pretty rude assumptions about her, isn't it? There are women less that 300 miles away from me right now who need services similar to those that AFG provide. Attack the name, if you really feel you must, but not the activism. Unless you know that she's just sending people aspirin and hoping for the best?

It's a medical term. Of course, anything is 'emotive' from a subjective point of view, but it's a widely accepted descriptive term for a medical process.

I don't think you can compare cancer with abortion. Cancer is much much more serious. In fact it is trivialising cancer to compare the two. Abortion is usually a simple and quick procedure that has the desired outcome of ending a pregnancy.

So how to do you get around other websites with that username?

How many of the "cunty" MN usernames would be allowed on other websites? Not many....

MistressMerryWeather: You would be astonished at the lengths trans activists, specifically, have gone to in order to complain about women saying things they do not like. I have friends who have been fired from jobs, I have friends who have been stalked, I have friends who receive hundreds of death threats weekly. A few complaints about a username would be the very tip of the iceberg.

I like it.