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how can this be acceptable??!!!!

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AMcoffeeLover · 29/05/2015 00:34

So was at kings cross station a few hours ago and a guy called out "hey sexy I bet you like it up the arse. Want me to give it to you?" My reply " really? You think that's an ok thing to say to me" and walked off.
On the train a woman about my age came over and told me to "relax its only banter, don't be a tight arse haha".
That's not banter!!! How can people think that's acceptable? From a man then supported by a young woman!
Its really thrown me as I haven't had anything like that called out to me recently.
Mentioned it to a mate and she has things like that said at her multiple times a week, does it happen a lot to others too?!
Cant believe how common it seems to be after speaking to people.

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CtrlAltDelicious · 29/05/2015 07:18

DP joked the other day that living and working in a small quiet village has made me naive and "in a bubble"...... I think I liked it best in my bubble

Is that bubble a place where people talk respectfully to each other and manage to keep anal sex comments to themselves? I quite living in one of those too!

HelenaDove · 29/05/2015 01:54

Yes She may well know the guy and may have also bought into the patriarchal myth that being "Cool Girl" will somehow make him like her better and "elevate" her in his eyes above other women.

Hope ive explained that well enough.

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AMcoffeeLover · 29/05/2015 01:00

I think the woman must have know the guy, other wise why join in with "the joke?". I've had sexist things said before but an anal sex comment was a first for me.
DP joked the other day that living and working in a small quiet village has made me naive and "in a bubble"...... I think I liked it best in my bubble!

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Yellowbird01 · 29/05/2015 00:44

I think yes its fairly common for people to shout stupid sexist stuff but it's not acceptable at ALL and I think this is a particularly explicit example, also very strange that a women would come and try to justify this afterwards Confused

Sorry you had to deal with such people!