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Just a bit of a question not a judgement about the boards

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FallenThroughTheRabitHole · 21/05/2015 19:44

I tend to go between various topics to see what others are saying. If I'm being honest the large part of my time here is spent in either Chat, AIBU or Relationships. I know those topics aren't a representation of MNet as a whole but you go where you go nonetheless.
I was just wondering if anyone had come across responses to various threads in which they thought "What on earth!?"

On the relationships board I've often found the 'Tell it like it is' clan, who often, if not always, have nothing better to offer than variations of 'LTB' are rife and are never actually helpful in way of advice or support.

Chat is normally relaxed... and AIBU is usually set up for a flaming of sorts. This is the internet after all so no-one should be losing sleep but I've always wondered how this would appear from a feminist perspective - The advice we are offering each other here.

I'm not complaining about these boards as I've often found a lot of supportive advice but one comment that hit me was someone saying that they couldn't believe the amount of ingrained misogyny on various threads.

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LassUnparalleled · 23/05/2015 02:48

The whole pseudo was long before I even posted. What "terminology"?

And as for your last post, pot, kettle and black spring to mind.

JeanneDeMontbaston · 23/05/2015 02:02

It was in your terminology, lass.

But, clearly, you are going to have a go at me whatever I say, and you'll nit-pick trivial points instead of admitting I might be right.

I'm off, I think. Enough of this petty disingenousness.

LassUnparalleled · 23/05/2015 01:48

Jeanne I never said anything about exclusionary, pseudo intellectual etc, etc. If you want to be insulting at least make your insults accurate.

Gilrack · 23/05/2015 01:34

I haven't read all of this thread. It keeps making me feel squirmy, and I want to be zzzzzzzen so I can sleep at night for a change. But, as a result of my dipping around the posts, I feel a tremendous urge to scatter hearts & flowers like fluffy confetti, particularly over Blistory and Jeanne for persistent humour at the coalface.

Here, have some ??? ???

If I may respond to one of the OP's early remarks: "just saying blunt comments doesn't help", I should like to point out that, actually, it does. It's worked remarkably well for men over time, and I believe it a demonstrable fact that it works for women too. HTH.

Blistory · 23/05/2015 01:29

I'm not mystified. I'm Blistory. Does any of that help ?

JeanneDeMontbaston · 23/05/2015 01:25

Oh, 'mystified'.

This same exclusionary, pseudo-academic language - what does this even mean, to normal people?!

Don't you see how you will be making everyone reading think that your point is only accessible to a tiny number of the in-group?

JeanneDeMontbaston · 23/05/2015 01:23

I feel very upset by this cross-examination.

I don't know how else to explain to you. You misunderstood blistory's point, as is now obvious. But there is no need to interrogate me for something that is between you and another poster!

LassUnparalleled · 23/05/2015 01:22

ActuallyBlistory" I haven't taken offence I'm utterly bemused by you and Jeanne. And mystified by what error Jeanne thinks I've admitted to.

LassUnparalleled · 23/05/2015 01:17

I'm looking for any meaning. What error for example have I apparently ,according to you , admitted?

Blistory · 23/05/2015 01:16

It was a random comment, aimed, seriously, at the ether.

You have chosen not to believe me.

I have chosen not to believe that you don't believe me.

You have chosen to demand a response.

I have chosen to give you a response merited by your demands for a response.

You have taken offense. I am going to bed.

JeanneDeMontbaston · 23/05/2015 01:11

What is it with the cross-examination? Don't you have anything better to do than look for double meanings?

I simply made a common-sense point.

I see that, because it doesn't fit with the orthodoxy on this thread, you will attack until you've made me feel bad!

LassUnparalleled · 23/05/2015 01:11

Jeanne what are you talking about? I I'm not looking for an argument but your last few posts make no sense at all to me.

LassUnparalleled · 23/05/2015 01:09

I've just reread your last post.What error am I supposed to have I admitted?

JeanneDeMontbaston · 23/05/2015 01:08

Well, I feel very upset and shouted down.

Clearly people like us are not allowed to post here. Sad

Even when we try, you just tell us we are doing things wrong.

LassUnparalleled · 23/05/2015 01:06

I have no idea what you are talking about.

Blistory posted a comment which came across as very snide and is being very disingenuous about it.

I have read the thread over. I don't see what prompted Blistory's comment and your agreement with it.

JeanneDeMontbaston · 23/05/2015 01:01

The one where I talked about this, that you overlooked.

Why don't you read the thread over?

I feel a bit hurt you are taking such a confrontational tone, when the error is (as you admit), your own.

LassUnparalleled · 23/05/2015 00:54

What? I really don't know what you are on about? What post have I ignored?

JeanneDeMontbaston · 23/05/2015 00:50

No, I don't wonder - I already posted about this, a couple of posts ago, lala.

Do you need me to repeat it? Confused

It's very rude to ignore posts just because you don't like them, so I do hope you just read too hastily and made a mistake there.

LassUnparalleled · 23/05/2015 00:48

And you wonder about why this forum gets the criticism it does. There was a conversation going on. If you disagree say so -no need for snide comments.

JeanneDeMontbaston · 23/05/2015 00:34

On behalf of the ether, I'm amused.

Bloody feminists - no sense of humour. Or so I hear.

Blistory · 23/05/2015 00:29

Mum ?

LassUnparalleled · 23/05/2015 00:25

Oh come on now. You were complaining about personal attacks and posters being disingenuous. Something prompted that comment.

Blistory · 23/05/2015 00:22

The ether.

LassUnparalleled · 23/05/2015 00:22

God, this really is the thread that keeps giving, isn't it

Who are you directing that at?

JeanneDeMontbaston · 23/05/2015 00:18

Yes, it was - and thank you. Agree with you on the 'neat' bit - so no need to sober up! Grin

Hope your weekend is more relaxing.