Does being a feminist influence who you are friends with?

Most of my friends are married mothers and feminists.

I've been a feminist since I was a kid. Me and all my friends are married/partnered mothers, they are all feminists too.

I think there used to be a school of thought that being a mother and wife/partner wasn't really compatible with being a feminist. You know, cos you had to put the kids first and then your relationship and then yourself at the bottom. Or if you were a feminist then you shouldn't have children. I think this is changing - increasingly women come to feminism because of their experiences having children and/or in long term relationships.

Just look at the convos in AIBU at the mo - women are angry about birth interventions without consent, unequal domestic duties, female objectivisation etc. - very explicit feminist views being expressed on many topics and no longer confined to the sidelines like they used to be.

Go women! 2015 is our year

Write not right, obviously.

Eh?
Your op reads as if you believe married mothers can't be feminists.

My feminism means I find it difficult to be friends with total misogynists but I try not to right people off who have different beliefs to me. I just need a bit of common ground to be friends, not total agreement on everything.

I dont have many friends, i have met them in uni, work, etc, so in a sense it has been easier to make friends who had make similar choices. Most of my friends who are mums either work or are sahms who plan to go back to work in a few years.

I suspect that if your consciousness was raised later in life, it might be more of an all-consuming thing.

This.

I don't think feminism has influenced my friendships, it's influenced me, I think though, that it's helped strengthen my friendships, instead of inwardly judging them and the choices they make, I'll think about why
I have noticed the bigger change in my family, we have big family gatherings regularly, and I've started calling out the casual sexism, not always, and it's just little things but it can cause a big reactions, at best it's eyerolls and humouring me, I'm told I'm being silly with my "feminist faff" They are the people who shaped me as I grew, so I think that's why they are noticing the change in me more, I'm not just accepting their opinions as facts, I'll ask why they think certain things and it doesn't always go down to well.

I have all kinds of friends, married, single, lesbian, male, trans and have always been a feminist. This has never even crossed my mind tbh.

I have certainly made decisions to not take steps to deepen friendships with certain people who expressed sexist views.

I didn't 'become a feminist' later in life, I have identified as a feminist as soon as I could think, so it doesn't really determine my friendships.

I am a married (working) mother, and I am a feminist. I didn't realize the two were mutually exclusive.

I have friends who I haven't discussed feminism with, but who I suspect are Netmum types who probably eschew feminism, but they are nonetheless lovely people in their own right. Having said that, I probably do gravitate more naturally to lefty, liberal 'activist' types, at least in a conversational setting.

I suspect that if your consciousness was raised later in life, it might be more of an all-consuming thing.

I find that the more I get into feminism the more my friendships have changed. And actually my friends have changed - I have three friends I see regularly and all either dismissed feminism or were quite hostile to it when I met them three years ago. Now, one of them talks like a feminist and brings up feminist issues but absolutely will not say she's a feminist (?), the other listens to what I say about feminism and doesn't argue, and the other has directly asked me to teach her more about feminism. So even though I don't bang on about feminism to friends unless I know they're interested clearly my views have filtered through and I've changed some of their minds.

I don't feel you have to live a feminist life to be a feminist. So even if a woman were "desperate for a man" I wouldn't discount her as a friend or a feminist. I think it isn't your feminism frightening them off, it's your judgemental attitude.

I can't be friends with men or women who don't engage in politics,news,current affairs etc.
I despise my SIL because she feels she is superior to women who can and want to engage in intelligent discourse.
I cannot be friends with women who refuse to acknowledge an intelligent woman's point of view but will fall over themselves to agree with a man who voices that same point of view.

I am a married mother and have a lot of friends who are in a similar stage of their life. I have a lot of friends who think feminism isn't needed anymore. Lots of friends who wouldn't describe themselves as feminists. However, I know they think men and women should be equal so that's a start.

I just have...friends. A mixture of genders, different relationship statuses, etc.

But then I would say I've considered myself a feminist since I was at school/college, so I guess it has probably shaped my friendships. I wouldn't stay friends with someone if they showed themselves to be anti-feminist, or racist, or homophobic, transphobic etc etc.

Has your set of friends changed with your adoption of feminism? Or were you close to the same people previously?