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When I talk about DV against women to some men.....

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Fireirons · 26/03/2015 22:11

They immediately turn the conversation around to women being violent towards men. Yep. Women are also violent. I agree.

Yes there is no way violence is acceptable either way

But I cannot even begin to articulate my arguments about how women are often helpless, abused to an extent to being too terrified to leave, have no financial independence, no where to go, threatened, raped etc

I was shaking with anger the other day by a guy who just shouted me down...........that proved my point to a way. He asked for stats and then didn't believe them and tried for 45 minutes to Google stats for male DV.

Are there rescue centres for victims of male domestic violence seeking sanctuary?

I have nc for this.

Yep I have experienced DV.

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AnyFucker · 26/03/2015 22:34

I think men in abusive situations have as much right as women to get help and support

but let's not try to kid ourselves the prevalence and severity is anywhere near what women have endured since time immemorial

ASorcererIsAWizardSquared · 26/03/2015 22:33

there are always those people.

i know a guy who was physically, emotionally and mentally abused by his wife for years, i have to say, the victim blaming is just as bad. The only thing i can say in our favour, really, is that there is less stigma for women to talk about it openly.

My friend feels as soon as he mentions the abuse he suffered - kicked, punched, banished from the bedroom, yelled at, thrown out of the house, property smashed/sold/thrown away, friends and family alienated, isolated, financially abused, threatened with losing his kids if he spoke up or left, that people somehow see him as some kind of less of a man for putting up with it for so long :(

Its because of this stigma, that there are less mentions of it online.

ThatBloodyWoman · 26/03/2015 22:33

I meant to watch that prog AnyFucker.
Which channel was it,please, so hopefully I can watch it on catch up?

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Fireirons · 26/03/2015 22:29

Good post AF. I will read through the website.

Thanks.

I have picked up too many women and nursed split lips, black eyes and took their children overnight to see a balanced view.

It will be hard to be objective though.

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SirVixofVixHall · 26/03/2015 22:27

Years ago I lived in somewhere with a communal entrance. One of the (single, male) key holders would give a key to various male friends, some of whom he barely knew himself. I ended up having a massive row with him about this (as I had found one of the friends trying to get into my place in the middle of the night), where he ranted on about how men were more likely to be attacked than women and that he was sick of women ranting on about rapist men etc...Hmm.
There seem to be a lot of twunts like this out there.

Ihavemyownname · 26/03/2015 22:21

Yes there are a few male refuges

AnyFucker · 26/03/2015 22:17

Mankind for male victims of DV

AnyFucker · 26/03/2015 22:16

it happened just now on another thread

I started a thread about the tv programme "Murdered by my boyfriend" and got an interesting response Hmm