Why is menstruation so dirty?

Look Jeanne someone else has posted a personal opinion. Feel free to tell pax it's not revelatory and adds nothing.

I agree entirely with her re blood smeared faces .

Oh, sorry, cross post, I agree with pax.

stil - didn't mean to be snide. Just utterly bemused. And yes, I did get the impression you thought it was revelatory. I didn't follow why, is all.

I still don't.

But I may just be reacting a bit badly to the level of TMI.

I agree.

Finding it sexually appealing is separate from finding it disgusting.

Jeanne that makes no sense.

Oral vaginal sex is performed on and by women. The debate was about menstruation. Some women don't mind having sex whether penetrative or oral when menstruating others do. But according to you apparently that is irrelevant.

Did I at any point say "this is revelatory"? Why don't you go back through the thread and make the same (snide) comment about anyone and every one else who expressed a personal opinion?

I cannot imagine looking at someone's blood smeared face who has just performed oral sex on a menstruating me.

Though I'm 60 plus so not really going to be likely.

But that doesn't mean I find menstruation dirty. My DCs knew about menstruation from when they could crawl - they always used to follow me to the loo and watch whatever was going on.

I am aware that menstual blood can be a bit of a fetish for some people.
They are blood stained knickers for sale on the internet.
Though absolutely anything can be a fetish so I suppose it's not surprising really.

chopper - YY, I think it's absolutely normal straight women would think about their own experiences.

It's natural, isn't it? You relate to your own experience.

What is odd, is thinking that has much bearing on it for everyone else (I think).

I mean, I could go around posting on every debate about male homosexuality* 'well I tried bumsex once, and it was horrible! And here are the graphic details!'

But it would be kinda odd and wouldn't really add much to the wider debate.

*Yes, I know gay men don't only have anal sex. It's just an example.

I'm mega confused.

Sorry, I don't know quite what's going on any more, but I'm sorry if I've upset you or misinterpreted you.

I don't know why that says "jeanne" at the start!

Jeanne I think straight women might be more likely to think about someone performing oral sex on them when we talk about cunnilingus. I don't find the thought of someone doing it to me when on my period disgusting at all, but it doesn't really appeal because I would usually be too tender and uncomfortable for it to be enjoyable. It's not the concept or the menstrual fluids that put me off, but how I physically feel when I have my period

The reason I asked if you were a lesbian was, I was a bit confused why you seemed to think it was revelatory you weren't that attracted to vaginas

Yes I expect that is very confusing given that I didn't remotely say anything of the kind. You chose to interpret what I said to mean that

No Jeanne "she" wasn't thinking about other people's vaginas she was thinking purely of it being done to her, not doing it to any one.

Yes. I know. That is exactly what I just said.

I am mind-boggled here.

Has someone come round and redefined sexual orientation while I've been out?

I'm sorry, I am utterly confused about why you find this so complicated.

It wasn't at all intended to be an intrusive question. We are, you know, on a thread about sex. It is not remarkable that we are talking about sexual orientation, and you've shared your views quite graphically so I didn't think you were a shrinking violet.

The reason I asked if you were a lesbian was, I was a bit confused why you seemed to think it was revelatory you weren't that attracted to vaginas. If you were a lesbian or a straight man (which I think covers dadwas), I might have found that noteworthy. Since you're not, it's, erm ... not that surprising really.

Yes?

Or are there millions of straight women out there who are unattracted to women but spend loads of time fantasizing about vaginas just for the sake of it? If there are, I'm really in the wrong business.

No Jeanne "she" wasn't thinking about other people's vaginas she was thinking purely of it being done to her, not doing it to any one.

In which case why were you asking what my sexual orientation was? Not clear what point you are trying to make. Others have said they found the thought awful others, including Dadwashere who isn't a lesbian has said he didn't.

Do you want to quiz every one else? Actually my first thought was it's none of your business.

I think she means, that's what she thinks about and so it puts her off?

Which is natural - if you are a straight woman, I doubt you spend a lot of time thinking about other women's genitals and how appealing they are.

I am fairly sure plenty of straight women find the idea of semen in their mouths pretty disgusting. It's just we're conditioned to find it acceptably icky, rather than taboo.

I can't imagine most people who have oral sex on a menstruating woman, do so when she has big blood clots coming out. Why jump to the most extreme example? Even those of us who do get big blood clots, usually have days where the blood is just gently flowing.
And I am sure lesbians will find the idea of a man's semen in their mouth absolutely disgusting. But many women do routinely do this.

No, I mean unremarkable.

I don't get why you think it's surprising you'd not like the idea.

So what? Why would you? It's socially taboo, and it's not something your sexuality is giving you any prompt to get over, because you're not terribly sexually excited by, erm, vaginas.

Am I being too simple here?

just, it seems unremarkable to me that you might not like the idea of something that isn't part of your sexual make-up to like (if that makes sense?).

No you've lost me- unless you mean straight women don't have oral sex performed on them? (And do you mean remarkable rather than unremarkable?)

My periods were heavy and bloody ,the thought of any one going down on me whilst I was expelling gushes of bloody clotted lumps is revolting,

Plenty of lesbians don't find the idea of oral sex with a menstruating woman disgusting. Just as lots of men don't. It is just blood.

It's quite common to get menstrual blood in the mouth during cunnilingus I expect.

Its never worried me though I know some men are put off.

I use a cup sometimes but also use washable towels, my dcs have watched me rinsing blood out of them out at the sink and have seen rows of the drying on the washing line or radiator.

Hence a discussion of what periods are has been on going at an age appropriate level since they were tiny. There is now no mystery, I can't see me ever needing to have a 'talk' with dd, it will just seen normal to her when it finally arrives.

I did wonder what you'd been doing today, revealing!

Oh, goodness, no. I'm not a lesbian and I am guessing most of us on the thread aren't.

It's just, it seems unremarkable to me that you might not like the idea of something that isn't part of your sexual make-up to like (if that makes sense?).

Do we all have to like the same things in order to discuss them as cultural taboos? I think not.

Why? Am I not allowed to have an opinion otherwise? I'm not and I find the idea of a man performing oral sex on a menstruating woman revolting too.

Are you a lesbian, still?