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Consent, it's actually very simple

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AmpleRaspberries · 08/03/2015 19:44

Hi, been lurking for a while, but friend just posted the following to fb www.theloop.ca/this-woman-just-explained-consent-with-the-most-perfect-metaphor/ which I wanted to share. When I read it I thought yes that's it! For all those idiots who can't work it out, this explains enthusiastic consent perfectly.

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WiIdfire · 08/03/2015 20:25

It does miss out implied consent though. Thats a bit trickier. If you make someone a cup of tea and they see you approaching with it, hold their hands up, take it from you and start drinking, then they have implied consent without actually verbalising it. And thats a little harder to translate over to real life. Otherwise, a great analogy.

thatwhichwecallarose · 08/03/2015 20:23

Love it!

And of course if you're in a long term relationship you'll know if your partner likes to be woken up with a cup of tea. So you make it and let them know it's there if they want it. You don't pour it down their throat before they've woken nor do you get the hump if they don't on this occasion.

BuffyEpistemiwhatsit · 08/03/2015 20:16

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AmpleRaspberries · 08/03/2015 19:58

Thanks everyone! Smile

The whole concept of enthusiastic consent is pretty new to me after reading these boards (as a concept, it's never been a real life issue for me), even though it's so glaringly obvious.

I had a bit of a heated conversation with a colleague about the ched Evans case, and although my colleague did come round to my way of thinking this analogy could have summed it up so perfectly.

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AnyFucker · 08/03/2015 19:55

great link, btw and an excellent analogy

AKnickerfulOfMenace · 08/03/2015 19:55
Smile
TeWiSavesTheDay · 08/03/2015 19:54

Haha, should have refreshed!

TeWiSavesTheDay · 08/03/2015 19:53

clicky

It's good!

AnyFucker · 08/03/2015 19:52

helped you out there

kavv0809 · 08/03/2015 19:51

I know the one you mean, about tea? It is ace. Keep trying it is worth sharing.

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AmpleRaspberries · 08/03/2015 19:50

Sorry, spectacular fail on this one

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AmpleRaspberries · 08/03/2015 19:49

Last try rockstardinosaurpirateprincess.com/2015/03/02/consent-not-actually-that-complicated/

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AmpleRaspberries · 08/03/2015 19:47

www.theloop.ca/this-woman-just-explained-consent-with-the-most-perfect-metaphor/

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AmpleRaspberries · 08/03/2015 19:45

Agh, will try and find a clicky link

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