Feminist Pub 17: The Bluestocking frolics in the fells and fens of feminism

My family doesn't do cards. Even for birthdays a short email to say happy birthday is deemed adequate for all concerned. We are very relaxed about this, for some reason. Not sure what we are uptight about. There must be something...

New pub thread

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/womens_rights/2333397-Feminist-Pub-XVIII-in-which-the-Bluestocking-greets-the-first-signs-of-spring-with-a-glass-of-something-soothing

I used to get ones with no inscription and then write my own thing.

Part of me is glad I don't have to deal with it any more. Part of me isn't.

Mothers day is always tough. Trying to find a card that isn't a big fat lie to send to my mother is hard. They all wiffle on about how great the mother is, and what fabulous friends we are. And she wasn't/isn't and we aren't.

Meh.

Indeed. I can't think of any man who has hurt me more than my dad. He has pretty much ignored me for the past, ooh, 26 years now.

It wasn't even the fact it was twee so much (although that's annoying too) - it was the total and utter obliviousness of the fact that my dad is, well, not a great dad.

Hurrah Annie!

I've been doing my temp job ferrying people between sites for about 3 months now and one of the women swore for the first time in my presence on Friday. I pointed it out and she apologised so I said "why the fuck are you apologising? Don't do that, just spit it out". Today she swore again. And apologised again. And justified her apology by saying swearing isn't ladylike. I'm not embarrassed to say my rant about 'ladylike' was filled with swears. She is from one of the Baltic states and is used to being a lady. Acting like one, I mean, so as not to offend us delicate flowers.

This job is supposed to end this month and I'll be sad to see it go because of some of the people. The aforementioned woman, the Polish woman who has no problem with swearing and is possibly more potty mouthed than me, the Pakistani chap who talks about cricket and how hard it is to find a job as a non European immigrant, the female department managers who sometimes have crises of confidence (I always ask if the men would suffer the same way. Apparently they wouldn't). The female heads of department are good and the men who work for them admit it. The job is easy and I love it. Good job really, it's an hour each way and split shifts and I'm knackered by Wednesday but hey! I'm qualified to do nowt so...

Puffin Someone hates the twee parenting memes. It might be an AIBU thread.

Haven't watched much Buffy.

I saw a vampire movie where the women vampires complained about not being able to see their images in the mirror and how difficult it made (un)life.

Fish definitely do not have the right to go uneaten, that would ignore all sorts of food chain realities. I'm I favour of not cramming them into teeny farm pens though, they taste sad.

BUT on a less worthy note - I thought the whole vampire revival thing was entirely and wholly about the hot vampires? No?

Fair enough then.

I would so totally want to objectify him in a really unfeminist fashion

Is James Marsters not in Season 1 then?

What twee bollocks Copper?

Ha :) I'm not really into the whole mythology thing. But I want to watch it because 90s, because feminism, because everyone seems to love it.

I can put up with Supernatural because of the hot male leads which is very shallow of me, but I am actually getting invested in the storyline because I am interested in the characters. (I'm only on Season 4 though so don't spoil me!)

There's a thread going somewhere about these twee bollocks.

I really ought to try Buffy again but I was put off by the vampire-ness of it. Maybe when I eventually finish Supernatural I will be sufficiently schooled in the, er, supernatural in order to enjoy it.

Can I come and have a slightly gut punching rant? My stepmum has shared one of those twee pictures on facebook which makes me want to gouge my eyes out (I have hidden it.) It says:

"The reason why daughters love their dad the most is that there is at least one man in the world who will never hurt her"

I mean, for one, BOOOAK. For the second, what utter piffle and rot she is telling her daughter (Yep, all men in the world are out to hurt you, that's what they do) Seriously. And then lastly I just want to comment and say what the fuck, are you blind, do you wonder why I never visit you?? Christ I think my dad has hurt me more (through omission) than any other bloke ever, even though some of them were dickheads and actually trying to.

Fish have rights? We ate grilled sardine fillets.

Still, yes fish must have rights. But ones related to what we call them are probably less important

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Sigh. It's been a long day.