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"I'm worried about my sons"

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flippinada · 31/01/2015 12:08

I've been around here for yonks and this pops up quite often on MN, usually in the context of their son being the victim of some maliciousness contrived by another woman or women.

The two examples which immediately spring to mind are false rape accusations, or having an awful daughter in law who takes your son away.

I have a DS myself and in all honesty I have never spent a moment fretting about either of those things. I

Just to add, I don't want to be dismissive of people who have experienced this as I'm sure it must be horrible.

My thoughts are , this type of concern is rooted in misogyny, and seeing women as "other" or "the enemy" I'd be interested to see what other people think?

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lljkk · 31/01/2015 12:25

The only one I share is fear about false accusation of rape. I know it's a tiny risk, but it still feels like we're moving to a situation where consent needs to be signed and dated in blood with a timestamp and video evidence in order to be proven.

An accusation of rape could just as easily come from a male as a female so why this fear might make me misogenist I dunno.

I'd probably be pleased to foist the DC onto somebody else.

I have a DD, too, btw, no idea why that is relevant either.

almondcakes · 31/01/2015 12:16

Do you have only a son or a daughter as well?

I have a son. He is sixteen.

I think the chances of a false accusation are so tiny as to not be a major concern.

The taking away by a wife/partner. I have a lot of shared interests with DS, so assume his wife would be someone I would probably get on with.

I do think I will struggle to handle being a grandparent and having limited access to grandchildren, because I know it is hard to love a baby but rarely see them from having a nephew. I don't think that is the fault of the baby's mother though.