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Disney insists on Miss/Mrs title - should I complain? how?

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Parietal · 23/01/2015 13:00

today I booked tickets to disneyland paris. the website insists that everyone should have a title. the options are: Miss / Mrs / Mr.

No option for Ms. No option for Dr (my preferred title cos I earned it). No option to leave the title blank.

It is a silly little thing, but very annoying. can anything be done?

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SconeRhymesWithGone · 24/01/2015 13:52

Well, web design must be superior in the US, then, where Ms. is the default and has been for years. Smile

SirChenjin · 24/01/2015 11:28

I don't think it's The Patriarcy seeking to label women - more lazy or limited web design.

WhoKnowsWhereTheTimeGoes · 24/01/2015 09:16

I'd comment as I am neither Miss or Mrs either (married with own surname).

Infinityseven - we need to swap, I never get anything adressed to Ms unless I have filled the form in myself, it always seems to be Mrs. I personally look forward to the day when the default is Ms, but it seems a long way off.

LittleBearPad · 24/01/2015 09:13

Surely it's a French thing where all women over about 18 are Madame?

alsmutko · 24/01/2015 09:08

I always make a comment about this & inevitably, the change their firms eventually. Not until after I got my printer from PC World ( it's changed now) addressed to Mr Alsmutko (I'm female).
It might seem petty & yeah there's much more important things blah blah. But it is The Patriarchy seeking to label women as married or not married when it's irrelevent when all you want is a new printer.

DropYourSword · 24/01/2015 06:56

That's quite funny sunnyday!

Waitingonasunnyday · 23/01/2015 22:14

I once wrote Irrelevant on a form asking for title, to attend a show.
Then I got my name badge which said

Irrelevant Waiting

Dumbos.

CalamitouslyWrong · 23/01/2015 22:09

Just pick Mr. that's what I'd do in that situation.

SoMuchForSubtlety · 23/01/2015 22:08

I like Jupiter's approach.

Failing that, in your position OP I usually choose Mr as my title. If I'm forced to choose something that's not my title I pick the first option in the list and that's invariably Mr.

MsJupiter · 23/01/2015 22:06

I wrote to MAM (purveyor of dummies and bottles) politely requesting they offered Ms as an option. I had a lovely reply saying they quite agreed and that they would change it. I never checked back to see if they did but it was a pleasant exchange.

scallopsrgreat · 23/01/2015 21:58

Comment rather than complain? Sounds like hair-splitting tbh. Or women, just ask nicely.

SophieBarringtonWard · 23/01/2015 16:09

Oh sorry, read the thread properly!

SophieBarringtonWard · 23/01/2015 16:02

What are the options for male visitors?

YonicScrewdriver · 23/01/2015 15:59

I suspect it's a straight translation of Madame/mademoiselle but yeah, drop them a line.

SirChenjin · 23/01/2015 14:08

Titles serve no purpose whatsoever, unless it's specifically related to your role in the workplace eg Dr Chen ensures that patients know who they are talking to in that consultation and what my role would be in their treatment. Whether you've obtained it through inheritance, marriage or work outside of that setting is immaterial - it's a pointless prefix on a ticket, nothing more.

Becles · 23/01/2015 14:04

zipzap France has 'officially' dropped mademoiselle (equivalent of miss) from government forms etc. Will take time to work through society but the aim is to have either monsieur or mademoiselle only.

PlumpingUpPartridge · 23/01/2015 14:03

And I don't mind not being Dr that much, but I do hate being forced into the box of Mrs or Miss. Neither really applies because I'm married but kept my maiden name. No title would be best.

I am in exactly the same boat as you parietal, and I completely agree. I said pretty much the same thing to the bank when they reissued my card in the name of 'Miss Partridge' even though I'd been married for 2 years, had informed them of my change in status from 'Miss' to 'Dr' during that time and was patiently waiting for the card to expire so I could have one with the correct title on.

Funnily enough they changed it rather quickly (though doubtless with some Hmm looks).

Amethyst24 · 23/01/2015 14:03

I agree, it's a French thing. Annoying but hey...

LightningOnlyStrikesOnce · 23/01/2015 14:03

We've been there before on mumsnet. They serve the purpose of public-space distance. Formality if you prefer - but some of us appreciate a little distance on first acquaintance or public space. Taking the personal out of a public space can be v useful.

DiddlyBiddly · 23/01/2015 13:57

Tbh I find the whole thing of titles outdated and unnecessary. What purpose do they actuly serve?

SconeRhymesWithGone · 23/01/2015 13:56

Men don't have a title based on their marital status, either. So why should women?

InfinitySeven · 23/01/2015 13:53

I hate being forced to be a Ms. I have no idea why, but everything is now addressed to Ms Infinity, and it drives me potty. I was happy with Miss. Men don't stop being Mr when they reach a certain age - and I'm in my early 20's.

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Parietal · 23/01/2015 13:48

I'm happy to comment rather than complain. And I don't mind not being Dr that much, but I do hate being forced into the box of Mrs or Miss. Neither really applies because I'm married but kept my maiden name. No title would be best.

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SconeRhymesWithGone · 23/01/2015 13:44

I don't see any harm in spending a couple of minutes sending off an email.

I agree, especially considering that they have these title choices on their US sites.

DropYourSword · 23/01/2015 13:42

so what could I do other than complain?

You could comment. Commenting to someone is different to complaining.

Or you could pick the title closest to yours. I have selected Ms. before despite NEVER using that title, as there was no option for Miss or Mrs. Just doesn't bother me.