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i think Im done with Mumsnet

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Spacemen3 · 11/01/2015 14:57

this is my last hope! Grin

I know there has been a lot of threads moaning about 'how its not like the good old days'....but its REALLY changed. It really has.

Chat is infested with sexism and racism, and it goes unchallenged. nothing massive and really overtly offensive. But just the vibe/culture...lots of low level stuff

IT was not like this even 1 year ago

do you think? or is it just me?

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AnyFucker · 11/01/2015 15:48

and by that I mean the goady fuckers who come on here with the blatant aim to wind us up

RustyParker · 11/01/2015 15:46

*without it

Anyfuckers typos are rubbing off Grin

AnyFucker · 11/01/2015 15:45

The feminism boards are a relatively safe space

you get the odd dickhead but they soon get dealt with Smile

RustyParker · 11/01/2015 15:44

I'm a FWR lurker in the main and I'm in awe of the the posters on this section as they beautifully articulate what I so desperately want to say. I think in other parts of the forum, you say one slightly out of place word and everyone jumps on that rather than look at the context where it would make sense and although I know FWR is different, it does put me off posting as if I felt excluded from this part of the forum then my MN experience would be finished too.

It probably sounds oh-so-dramatic but feminism has literally saved an changed my life. With it I would have blindly followed the path that was expected of me and I know I would have had an unhappy life. My life at the moment is far from a bed of roses and it's out of my control (medical and bereavement) but I'm authentic and true to myself.

Maybe take a break space and then come back when you feel up to rejoining the good fight Smile Flowers If you come back, then I will challenge and support more too - deal??

Koalafications · 11/01/2015 15:43

I agree NoArmani that thread is really disturbing.

AnyFucker · 11/01/2015 15:43

lys, are you taking the piss out of my typo's? (narrows eyes)

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Spacemen3 · 11/01/2015 15:36

maybe i will hang out here for a while.

anyfucker her very self and hissy got me through some very dark times on the EA threads (different user name) in Relationships (threads 1 through 6/7...i see they are now up to threda 20ish?!) and I learnt alot about being emotionally healthy/boundaries/ my bloody mother!. Ive learnt loads over the yyears about feminism amongst other stuff. MN has really helped me so much

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IamTitanium · 11/01/2015 15:34

Evil triumphs over good, when good people do nothing.
You can't leave (well I know you can), some people are ignorant and if one person listens and changes their thought process it is worth it.
But I am a 2 faced fucker so don't listen to me, as I just closed down a thread as I could not be arsed at that time to challenge the stupid and racist last post- I will go back to it, but at this time I just thought I can not face it Blush

JeanSeberg · 11/01/2015 15:29

I've heard so much bs and untruths about the CE case from staff at work, I felt like holding a meeting to educate them on the facts.

I only have 3 female colleagues out of a team of almost 30 and they show no interest in feminist issues.

This place has been so informative and supportive even though I mainly lurk on the feminist boards.

AnyFucker · 11/01/2015 15:23

yes armani, that is the thread I am thinking of

I think the take home message from it though is the correct one, despite some damaging victim blaming going on

lyspaere · 11/01/2015 15:23

Anyfyckwr is right

AnyFucker · 11/01/2015 15:21

Bloody awful typos in my post there Blush

oh well, take a break from MN then ?

I wish there were more people in my day to day life that identified with the MN feminists. This place has been my saviour at times. Chat and A IBM less so, granted, but you definitely see a spill over IMO

JeanSeberg · 11/01/2015 15:20

I like that comments get pulled up on here. Yet the CE story has flushed a lot of rape apologists out in real life and few people challenge it.

Do you have some examples on here that have gone unchallenged?

NoArmaniNoPunani · 11/01/2015 15:20

The recent victim blaming rape thread really upset me. I do still think there are more of us than them though. I hope so anyway

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Spacemen3 · 11/01/2015 15:17

oh really anyfucker

i feel there is more of it. and its less challenged than it was. i think i used to feel really comfortable hon MN. I work in a male dominated envionment, and coming here was like a breath of fresh air

i think my RL has improved and here has worsened! so not really worth logging on to feel more disheartened!

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AnyFucker · 11/01/2015 15:08

shit not suit

AnyFucker · 11/01/2015 15:08

It's not just you

the thing is though when I do see the sexist/racist/victim blaming suit on here is is almost always challenged

not so in RL

I think I am more passed off with RL at the moment, tbh

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