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Casual sexist remarks at school/college that stayed with you?

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JeanneDeMontbaston · 16/12/2014 16:50

I was just wondering about the impact of casual sexism. I don't mean sustained, serious, shocking things - I mean the off-the-cuff remarks that didn't seem important at the time, but that really stayed with you.

I remember really clearly, overhearing my teacher saying to another teacher: 'A lot of them are really ladylike, and then there's [myname]!'

It is a little bit funny, I know - and I know exactly what they meant - but I was thinking about the way I remember this once chance comment twenty years on. I thought of it because one of my mates just mentioned her lecturer (female) turned to her calmly and say 'Jenny, do you ever stop to let the boys get a word in edgewise?!' Not, 'the other students' but 'the boys'. Hmm

What about you?

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Chocolateteacake · 16/12/2014 18:57

At school during a home ec lesson our physics reached strode through and said something to the effect that girls should be there doing the washing up rather than in his lab. He was an idiot. That's why I'm not an astronaut now. Maybe I should sue the school? I make a damn good quiche though.

grimbletart · 16/12/2014 18:54

When I was five years old and going to move the benches for PE, the teacher said "let the boys move the benches". I have spent a lifetime not letting any bloke help me lift anything that can be carried by one person.
PS - it's what made me a feminist Grin

SunshineBossaNova · 16/12/2014 18:37

I went from an all girl secondary to a mixed sixth form.

The boys used to make comments about my boobs and the teacher would laugh. Bastard.

stripeysettee · 16/12/2014 18:16

I was told to be ladylike a lot. Clearly wasn't very good at it.

My Dad said I was too picky and would never find a man up to my unreasonable standards. (fwiw, found several. But even as a youngster i knew better to have a life alone than a life with any old Tom or Harry with a dick.)

NotCitrus · 16/12/2014 18:05

When we were in the upper sixth, we could wear "clothes suitable for an office environment". The housemaster clarified this meant you could wear short skirts if your legs were good enough and listed the girls he thought qualified.

I tended to wear long skirts or more usually scruffy trousers then, but on the occasions I wear short dresses now, people always observe they've known me for over 10 years and never seen my knees before.

My mother used to say I'd never find a boyfriend/a man to marry me if I didn't wear girly clothes/put on makeup etc. I often look at MrNC and think "ner ner ner ner ner"...

EBearhug · 16/12/2014 17:50

In the 6th form, we were allowed to wear anything we liked, as long it was in the school colours and not denim (the biggest sin going.) So as it was summer, and I was cycling a lot, I wore grey shorts. I was called into the deputy head's office and told they weren't appropriate. "They're longer than D's skirt!"I argued. "Yes, dear, but she's got the legs for it."

I spent my life cycling, swimming and walking back then. My legs were pretty good. And they weren't relevant anyway.

Titsalinabumsquash · 16/12/2014 17:32

I was denied a try out for the primary school football team because I was a girl Hmmeventually the boys on the team requested they let me join because I was better than the rest of them Grin

I then started a protest about not being allowed to wear trousers (again because of my genitals saw me destined to skirts and dresses), the headmaster gave the biggest sigh and said to my Mum that I was going to be 'one of those problem women when I was older' cheeky misogynist fucker. Angry

Amethyst24 · 16/12/2014 17:26

In a religious studies class, talking about marriage, a teacher informed us that men "don't want second-hand goods". This was in 1989, not 1889.

A bit like duelling with her physics project, we all responded by shagging around like crazy.

DuelingFanjo · 16/12/2014 17:25

I was told that by the male teacher, at a parent's evening BTW. Was back in 1983/4 though so maybe things have changed.

JeanneDeMontbaston · 16/12/2014 17:12

Grin at the 100%. But ouch. That's just incredibly wanky.

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Takver · 16/12/2014 17:12

Well, I remember being told by my primary school headmaster that 'girls are never very good at chess' - I didn't really have any particular interest in the game, but I was top of the chess ladder within a week and remained captain of the school club until I left Grin I was, possibly, something of a bloody-minded child . . .

DuelingFanjo · 16/12/2014 17:11

I was told I wasn't any good at physics because I was a girl.

I got 100% in my next project and then stopped giving a shit about getting grades.

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