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Envelopes upon which I become my husband

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plantsitter · 09/12/2014 14:14

Raaaaaagh! How do I politely tell people not to address me as Mrs Dh's initial Dh's surname on Xmas cards? Elderly relatives I wasn't bothering with but my bloody cousin has just done it. I have kept my own name but even if I hadn't I would want my own bloody initial on there! Would it be wrong to send out special cards announcing my title as Ms Plant Sitter?? Otherwise how does one let it be known it pisses one off?

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RunsWithScissors · 09/12/2014 16:09

south? should be this

RunsWithScissors · 09/12/2014 16:08

I've had it too. I didn't change my name after marriage either.

Like you, I don't mind South from older generation, but when people in their early 30s do it, it does bother me.

I have a return address stamp I use on all of our cards, clearly showing my name as well as DH's. Keep hoping that one day the offenders will notice :-)

The worst is MIL, who complained about not knowing how to address things to me now. Simple, same as you did before DH and I married. I'm guessing it's her PA way of letting me know she doesn't approve of my keeping my own name. Although she's not been passive in stating most things she doesn't approve of ;-)

Lurleene · 09/12/2014 15:55

I'm with you on that - and also what I can't abide is when people feel the need to double barrel my surname with his.

We are married. We have different names. Why is that hard for people to comprehend?

TooOldForGlitter · 09/12/2014 15:50

It annoys the hell out of me too OP. I'm not married anymore but my mum would do it on every card she sent when I was married. Anything I said was treated with an eye-roll. Every time I send either of my sisters a card it's a source of amusement to the family that I don't address them as their husbands. So, I can't give you any advice but I can sympathise.