Do you let a guy pay on dates?

That article is.... interesting

Even back in the dim and distant past, when I was still dating, I always paid my way, apart from once when the man took me to a ridiculously expensive restaurant, but I made it clear before we went in that it was way out of my price range, so no dramas.

DH and I share our money. We only have one card for the account though, for the pure and simple reason that it's easier to keep track of what's going where if we do.

DP and I share all money - so whoever happens to have a hand free to get out a card pays.

When starting going out with someone, then whoever suggested pays, unless you're seeing a lot of each other in which case alternating.

I did go out with a guy once who scrupulously split bills - even for a 10 quid asda curry (had me do a bank transfer as soon as we got home) - he didn't last long. I add that's because we both earned well, I'd paid in full when something was my idea, and I could just tell that he was a bit hung up on money (he did things like casually leave payslips lying around where I would be sure to see them, or talking about how much his car/house/jacket cost)

My partner has a credit card and I have a second card on the same account. The card gets paid off from our joint bank account into which we put our incomes.

Who pays is simply a case of who can be bothered to type in the PIN number.

Terribly egalitarian isn't it?

Surely the romance is in the conversation over dinner and perhaps the coffee later?

I'm a sahm. Dh sticks his salary into our joint account - we always used to pool it anyway. The person who pays is the person who gets to their card soonest while the other juggles anything else (eg kids). Not that with kids we get to go on dates, but you did ask.

My DD has been known to subsidise her BF too molesbreath. In their case she has a part time job and he doesn't. In general she's generous to a fault though.

I'm quiet happy for anyone to buy me lunch!

Same as legion. The downside of this is that if he buys me an extravagant birthday or Christmas present I feel likes it's a waste of 'our' money. (I don't tell him that though).

DD and her boyfriend (17) don't have any of this angst.

She has more money than him (PT job) which pays better than his (PT job)

She will often pay for him as she says she wouldn't be able to go with him otherwise.

DH and I pool all our money into a joint account so we pay from that. There is no he pays/she pays.

I daresay that is against the MN rules though.

I'm married, we just use whichever account is feeling flush, we don't have separate finances as such, though we do have separate accounts for wage purposes.

I like the theory that whoever suggested the date should pay, that works for me. Mostly though I've dated when I've been young and skint, so we've just paid for ourselves, or he's earned a lot more so paid for me. It just seemed to be what made sense rather than it being a male/female split.

Offer to split when they try to pay the bill. If they insist on paying themselves promise to pay next time.

I think for first dates, whoever suggested the date should pay. Then if you have a second date, its the other person's turn.

DP and I take turns to pay for restaurant bills, pub rounds, concert tickets etc. We split big things like holidays 50-50.

If a man offers to pay then I'd be happy for him to. Likewise if he wanted to split the bill.
I've always offered to pay my share. So far never had a man accept the offer.
(No idea what that says about me)

groceries (sigh)

I pay for groveries. DH pays for takeaways and nights out, unless it's somethign we've had to buy tickets for in advance as I'll have bought those.
No idea why it is split like that, but yes, it does mean he gets to pay the bill in restaurants.