Any good examples to help point out sexism to my DH?

How about sport- watch a sports bulletin. How much is female?

Oh yes, Angela Merkel. Lots of stories commenting on her looks, weight and choice of clothes. There's probably more written about AM on these topics, than all of the other EU leaders put together.

Discuss with him how the Daily Mail writes about women - derogatory comments about their shape, weight, looks, spending habits working/child bearing choices, ad infinitum. They wouldn't write about men in a similar way.

Assumptions about jobs - eg that a Doctor will be a man.

The recent story about a female pilot

The way that a lot of society perceives women who use the title Ms and how women always have to specify whether they are a Miss/Mrs/Ms. Men do not have to suffer this.

The way that a lot of men continue to behave like single men when they are fathers and that their employers assume that they have a female partner at home to pick up all the domestic stuff.

Many men carry on with hobbies and nights out/weekends away while assuming that their DW will look after the DCs.

Yes and apparently Putin, knowing she has a fear of dogs, would bring his dogs in whenever they met. Assholes.

Perhaps remind him that Berlusconi called Merkel an "unfuckable lardass".

Bertie, is he east german by any chance? The communist regime was awful, obviously, but very big on gender parity, which might influence his attitude.

(just as an aside, Germany may not be top in terms of overall political equality but damn, Angela Merkel is making a huge contribution to how women are seen on the international stage -- the strongest leader in Europe right now and pictured as the only one who can stand up to Putin. But perhaps point out to your husband how rare she is!)

It really is the little things though! If you speak your mind as a woman you're awkward or aggressive. If you challenge a man's bad behaviour you're a man-hater!

My solicitor (male) told me it was "important that [my] dd not become a man hater". I was floored. Id said nothing negative about even one man, ie, my x. I had detailed some of his behaviour to me in the past, but without tears or drama. Quite dispassionately i told my male solicitor my x had tried to strangle me and that he was determined not to pay maintenance.

I told the solicitor it was unlikely my dd would end up a manhater as my father brothers etc all behaved WELL and her father was not the one and only ambassador for men. I told him also that i would do my best to make sure my son didnt become a misogynist.
Solicitor looked ar me like id chained myself to his desk.

If you have children, do people say he is " so good" for looking after them for a day or putting them to bed? Do they say the same to you?
Do people expect you to remember birthdays etc for his side of the family?
Look at TV programmes - how often are bosses and random background characters women?

The australian presenter who wore the same suit everyday for a year!! While his female co presenter continued to receive emails wrt her clothing every day. Not one viewer noticed or commented that he wore the same suit every day.

Why does traditionally female but unskilled work pay so much less than traditionally male but unskilled work?
Egs
Drivers/ carers
Security guards/ cleaners
Waitress/ post man
Hairdressr / refuse collector.

Even where training is required (hairdressing) a Man can just show up, turn the keys in the ignition and earn more.

I have been watching news programs, and noting how many stories are devoted to men vs women. Very often there will be more news stories on men than on women. And even if the program is targeted towards women (eg those programs from 9am onwards), there will still be lots of stories devoted to men. Get to sit in front of the telly with pen and paper and make a tally.

As mentioned earlier on the thread.

How about this in the Christmas stocking, if that's your "bag"?

www.amazon.co.uk/Everyday-Sexism-Laura-Bates/dp/1471131572/

Of even better send him to a lecture by Laura Bates. She's eloquent and passionate without being emotional - very compelling.

Ask him to find a popular children's book with a female lead, then a TV show and then a film.

There are a few. But would home alone be the same with a girl instead of a boy? What about how to train your dragon? So why is it a boy.

Adverts, what are they saying? Who is making Xmas dinner in them all? Who does he think sent the chocolate to the soldier in the Sainsbury's add - but he thinks it's a female.

Linking to another thread, has he ever been refused contraception of choice because he might change his mind?

Sports, have a look at football, until the FA was formed women's matches got the same crowd as men, then the FA banned them from playing on FA grounds.

What does he have to do to look presentable at work? What do the women have to do? Why?

Oh the old favorite - why do girls have to wear a tie for school uniform?

Everyday Sexism site is great. Am I remembering wrong or did that start life as a thread on here? Perhaps both ideas just happened at around the same time.

Laura Bates came on here to announce the site when she first started it. I remember that. And everyone thought it was a great idea then too!

My husband had recently started reversing things to test the sexism. If it wouldn't be acceptable for a woman to say or do something to or about a man it isn't acceptable for a man to do it to a woman. We also use the racism test. It has opened a few eyes in our house.

How about the fact that thanks to unequal pay women effectively work for free from the 7th November?

www.tuc.org.uk/equality-issues/gender-equality/equal-pay/equal-pay-day-coming-next-thursday-7-november.

Think what a difference that makes to a household - you could have fun with an extra 6 weeks pay.

If he marries, he will not automatically have to question (and be judged on) what he does with his surname.

If he is in a relationship at the time he has a baby, he can generally expect that the baby will have his surname.

If he leaves work early to attend parents evening, has a photo on his desk, leaves work early once a week to do early nursery pick up, etc, he is an involved and admired parent. A woman doing similar is often 'not committed'

If his MIL doesn't get a birthday card, he won't be blamed and judged for it. Ditto if the PE kit is forgotten.

"Germany was ranked 18th by the Inter-Parliamentary Union of Women (IPUW) 2008 survey with women representing 32.2% of members of the lower house and 21.7% of the Senate, representing a decline on previous years. The current Chancellor, Angela Merkel, elected in 2005 is the first woman to be elected to this post."

That's hardly equality is it? (Don't know if the current figures are any better)
www.wikigender.org/index.php/Gender_Equality_in_Germany

What I remember from Germany is the sheer number of naked breasts plastered everywhere.

Ask him who is running the country! Percentage of female MPs, CEOs etc.

If he is of average build, the whole world is a wee bit more comfortable for him than the average woman - that bar stool, that car, etc. All designed for the male proportions.

Take some sexist phrases and recast them in racist/homophobic/anti-Semitic language - ask him what his knee jerk reaction to each is and ask him why it's not as strong as to sexist language.

I'll give you an example that almost sounds like a compliment: "that woman is as good as any man, if not better"