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Rape culture in action. Massive Trigger Warning

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scallopsrgreat · 21/11/2014 22:19

Warning: There is a brutal rape described in the opening paragraphs. So please self-care.

The article is from RollingStone and is about the systematic erasure and cover-up of womens rape and sexual assault experiences at the University of Virginia. It is quite long but also very detailed.

From 'friends' to officials these women are encouraged to forget. They are paralysed by lack of information, informed choices and support even from those who are seemingly trying to help.

The article really doesn't pull any punches and describes really well how women's experiences are minimised. It also shows how rapists aren't monsters. They live and function (sometimes even heroically) in the community. It shows how they do plan their rapes (sometimes quite chillingly). How they feel entitled to rape these women and how they don't see it as a big deal. They don't expect to get caught. They may not even see it as rape or simply just don't care.

Just in case anyone thinks women aren't oppressed. Or feminism has gone too far. Or rape culture doesn't exist.

It's so frightening.

I also think it should be highlighted and the University of Virginia named. Because they have gone to great lengths to silence the voices of these women over decades.

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BuffyWithChristmasEarings · 24/12/2014 08:04

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YonicSleighdriver · 24/12/2014 07:59

Hi Liberal

There were several pages of serious discussion and then the first troll,who appeared at around the same time on several FWR threads, got into some very unpleasant victim blaming and personal attacks. No disrespect was intended to the UVA victim and I'm very sorry it came across that way.

mabupupu · 24/12/2014 01:53

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LiberalPedant · 24/12/2014 01:44

What the hell is going on with this thread? Why are there all these jokes about food on a thread about rape? I have been following the UVA situation closely, especially since I have associations there. It is hard for me to describe just how much the events in Charlottesville have upset and worried me.

It seems that there was a troll here, but why did the thread have to descend into these jokey comments?

mabupupu · 24/12/2014 01:29

Why so many deleted posts, do mumsnet delete every opinion that isn't a feminist one?

CheerfulYank · 24/12/2014 01:17

I feel like I'm going to puke.

Looking at my daughter. My son.

YonicSleighdriver · 24/12/2014 00:59
Xmas Grin

Night!

PuffinsAreFictitious · 24/12/2014 00:57

So it would appear.

YonicSleighdriver · 24/12/2014 00:54
PuffinsAreFictitious · 24/12/2014 00:05

I do like smoked salmon and scrambled eggs.

Yum!

And Jackie didn't go to RS, they found her. She also asked for the story not to be published. Potentially because she'd seen what rape apologists do. By the bye, ol Chuckie still hasn't apologised properly for outing the wrong woman. But yeah, it's feminists who are all mean and shit.

BuffyWithChristmasEarings · 23/12/2014 22:50

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TheOnlyOliviaMumsnet · 23/12/2014 22:42

Ahem

YonicSleighdriver · 23/12/2014 22:35

Ah, no eggs left, I finished them
For tea!

RufusTheReindeer · 23/12/2014 22:34

Smoked salmon and scrambled eggs!!!

When's breakfast??? I'll be there!,

Actually going to a local cafe tomorrow for a full English...or egg and chips in my case!!

Well done both of you for "wrapping" the thread up!!

YonicSleighdriver · 23/12/2014 22:29

Ah, must take our smoked salmon with us, good reminder!

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YonicSleighdriver · 23/12/2014 22:25

Mmm, truffles. I have fresh cream too, used it in my scrambled eggs tonight (visiting relatives for Xmas so am in "fridge using up" mode)

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YonicSleighdriver · 23/12/2014 22:22

Yes, wrapped my last present today, hooray! Can't wait now, still doing some financial admin now cos I want to be all clear from tomorrow!

How about you?

Aqui2a · 23/12/2014 22:21

Just for the record, I want women to have the same rights as men. I don't want to be confused with those who have a different, more unfair agenda. But some of the stuff you feminists come out with... it's laughable. It's clear you have a deep-seated disliking of men, which comes out in many different ways.

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