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Feminist Pub 14: The Bluestocking, a place for feminist chat and feminists to chat

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YonicScrewdriver · 14/11/2014 22:56

Welcome!

This is the 14th incarnation of the Pub and is meant as a place to drop by with random thoughts and meandering chats, on feminist or other related themes. Anything you want to mull over but not necessarily start a thread about. Alternatively, flop onto the chaise lounges with some Wine

We have a pub goat, a feminist cannon for firing at crazy sexists and a variety of drinks and snacks. And stools/bar counters at female friendly heights. And a crèche in the back somewhere

Will link the last pub in the next post!

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PuffinsAreFictitious · 09/12/2014 22:04

Baking is pretty precise. It's lovely and scientific. And therapeutic.

I'm sure it will be fine MEOD.

Copper, I always do, I also make meringues in the same bowl Granny did, she was a mean meringue maker and it always makes me smile, especially when holding them above my head and hoping for the best.

PenguinsandtheTantrumofDoom · 09/12/2014 22:01

With added tantrums, forgotten library books and babies who could give the CIA a run for their money in sleep deprivation techniques.

UptoapointLordCopper · 09/12/2014 21:59

Parenting is like a box of chocolate ... or something ...

PenguinsandtheTantrumofDoom · 09/12/2014 21:58

I have been lurking on this thread for a while, but I'm still here

Baking tends to require fairly specific attention to the instructions, but rich fruit cake is fairly forgiving I think. If it looks iffy when it comes out, just keep adding alcohol.

I'm at the end of my rope with parenting and have nothing useful feminist to add, so shall just sit in a corner and sup Wine

MyEmpireOfDirt · 09/12/2014 21:54

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UptoapointLordCopper · 09/12/2014 21:53

For Christmas cake it probably doesn't matter if it's not stiff enough. It's only when you make meringue, or when the stiff egg white is the sole rising agent that it matters. >

I've never dared to hold the bowl upside down over my head when beating egg whites.

IlEstNeLeDivinTrevorslattery · 09/12/2014 21:46

Hmm myempire "fuck it that'll do" is my approach to a lot of things but also baking. Sad to say it rarely ends well for the baked goods, although it seems adequate for other areas of my life. Flowers for going on those awful threads too

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PuffinsAreFictitious · 09/12/2014 20:53

My Granny used to say that when you could hold the bowl upside down over your head with confidence the eggs are stiff enough.

Are you making meringues?

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ChunkyPickle · 09/12/2014 19:32

I've started to steer clear of those 'have I been raped' threads. Women have been socialised to set the bar so low for what consent is, and what they should just put up with.

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YonicScrewdriver · 09/12/2014 18:31

Ooh lovely Annie.

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ChunkyPickle · 09/12/2014 17:36

Yes.

DS2 is already a pain for helping himself to gingerbeer, cartons of juice and bottles of water. The idea of him having free access to the fridge and freezer is horrifying (why are second children such a shock to the system? He's so very, very different from DS1 who could be sat in a picnic full of sweets and decide that all he wanted was cucumber)

Also, I may be going mad. DS1 has decided that this toddler cartoon on Cbeebies is great: Bing - except all I see when I watch it is a slave race of knitted toys forced to care for the abandoned children of various animals. Clearly I need to get out of the house more.

StormyBrid · 09/12/2014 17:28

Why even blue for a fridge lock? Never seen a blue fridge. Those locks are awesome though - had to fit one on my fridge several years ago after coming downstairs to find the cat had helped herself to some steak.

ChunkyPickle · 09/12/2014 17:21

Oh, Annie, I was just browsing for stuff and I shall check them out.

Meanwhile, I have a candidate for most pointless sexism of the week. DS2 (14 months) likes to eat. This evening he snuck off to the kitchen and finally managed to get the fridge open (he'd been getting a little fridge we keep drinks in open for ages, but this is a big one in the kitchen), so I nipped onto Amazon to look for some kind of solution - came across some stick on locks things for which the first review seems hopeful, then this whammy at the end -
only thing that i could think to make these better is just have a choice in colours like having them pink and white for girls

Yes. Girls should have pink adhesive hooks for the kitchen cupboard doors. White and Blue is far from ideal.

sigh.

AnnieLobeseder · 09/12/2014 16:30

I have just been doing a spot of lovely feminist Christmas shopping! I have discovered a website called Global Girlfriend that sells ethical/fairtrade goods, many made by women's co-operatives, and who put funds from every purchase into education for girls. And at the moment they're only charging 99c for international shipping on orders over $49 (£31)!

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YonicScrewdriver · 09/12/2014 07:02

But what is "flirtation" from a woman might simply be charisma or bonhomie from a man. And if men flirt with their female bosses, doesn't society sit more in judgment on the "desperate older woman" than it does on the man? Power is socialised to be attractive in men, less so in women.

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IlEstNeLeDivinTrevorslattery · 09/12/2014 01:55

Ah Thankyou all Smile

venusinscorpio · 08/12/2014 23:34

Wow, that's fantastic Trevor! Grin