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Oh fuck off... Superheroes for CIN

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TallulahTwinkletoes · 11/11/2014 17:07

Just picked up DD from CM and have been told it's superhero day for children in need 'but the girls can just go as princesses'. Ermmm fuck off. If it's superhero day, she goes as a superhero. What do I do now? Buy a superhero outfit and probably exclude her from the girls or follow like a sheep and let her be a beautiful princess? I'm sure she would live both...

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TallulahTwinkletoes · 12/11/2014 13:26

Where can I buy Lycra? I'm really struggling. Damn this school. Any material for a cape will do

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ChunkyPickle · 12/11/2014 11:46

Yep - rectangle of lycra and cut a short slot in one end. Made them for DSs party, looked great, made on demand as the kids arrived so they could pick colours.

I think it's going around - DP (generally a natural feminist) is being a bit reactive at the moment and blames it on me reading mumsnet. I'm going to buy Wifework and leave it lying around.

PlumpingUpPartridge · 12/11/2014 11:45

tallulah I'm glad to hear that your DP does normally walk the walk Grin I'd push ahead with your DD as a superhero in that case and maybe he'll see that she can do both!

ArcheryAnnie · 12/11/2014 09:41

phonyics

WonderWoman
Xena, Warrior Princess (ok, a princess, but she doesn't wear pink tulle...)
Buffy
Black Widow
Storm
Thor (female Thor is a real thing now!)
Sarah Jane Smith
Gamora (Guardians of the Galaxy - played by Zoe Saldana)
Batwoman
Matilda
Rogue

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TallulahTwinkletoes · 12/11/2014 09:36

Tho I don't love him for it while I'm a Actually doing it so he probably doesn't know haha

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TallulahTwinkletoes · 12/11/2014 09:31

Plumping I love that your DH doesn't stop it tho.

I must say DP is definitely a feminist, though he would never identify as one. He cooks, he cleans. Can't see a reason why I couldn't bring home as much as him, doesn't expect me to have my money as 'pocket money', doesn't see me being female as a reason I can't do DIY/repair work on the house and I love him for that.

I'm thinking... Black leggings and top (if I can find) magic superhero wand, pink underpants and cape and a mask...

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TallulahTwinkletoes · 12/11/2014 09:25

Plumping I love that your DH doesn't stop it tho.

I must say DP is definitely a feminist, though he would never identify as one. He cooks, he cleans. Can't see a reason why I couldn't bring home as much as him, doesn't expect me to have my money as 'pocket money', doesn't see me being female as a reason I can't do DIY/repair work on the house and I love him for that.

I'm thinking... Black leggings and top (if I can find) magic superhero wand, pink underpants and cape and a mask...

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ArcheryAnnie · 12/11/2014 09:25

Showy oh my GOD, "Archaeology Girl" is brilliant!

ChoochiWoo · 12/11/2014 09:15

Good idea yegod ! I thought tiana cuz shes an unsimpering princess.

YeGodsAndLittleFishes · 12/11/2014 09:13

Or give her a reed wig, a Scotts accent and a great big FO broadsword and she can go as the princess from Brave! Grin

YeGodsAndLittleFishes · 12/11/2014 09:11

TBH, at that age, she can make one up! She can dress in whatever she wants to and be super hero Princess Electra, with xray vision, cape and spidey sense. Entirely up to her.

ChoochiWoo · 12/11/2014 09:10

Hermoine?...stretching a bit?

YeGodsAndLittleFishes · 12/11/2014 09:07

DD is into supwrheroes. Spiderman bedding. Marvel pics on the wall Iron man PJs (yes, from the boys clothes section, but only out of protest, and because that was the only place to get them.) She got a morph suit and went as a (male) superhero to the last school dress up day. She'd dress up as Iron Man if the costumes would fit her. :)

AggressiveBunting · 12/11/2014 09:01

The Bride from Kill Bill....

ChoochiWoo · 12/11/2014 08:55

Storm x men?

ChoochiWoo · 12/11/2014 08:46

Its a bit rhubarb for daughters there isnt as much choice in standard shops i.e asda , matalan etc.

PedantMarina · 12/11/2014 08:46

Black Widow. Please!!!

Black leather, red hair, kicks almighty ass, takes no nonsense from men. My kind of superhero.

PlumpingUpPartridge · 12/11/2014 08:40

Ok, but 'no need for a morally correct gender stance'? As in 'morally flawed gender stances are totally fine in this situation'? That would worry me slightly....

I've got the opposite problem; we have 2 DSs and the older one (who is 3) was sad this morning because I removed his nail varnish. I'm watching DH carefully for cracks in his 'I am totally all for non-gender-specific fun' stance and I do think he twitched a bit when DS demanded a reapplication of pretty pink glitter Grin it's interesting to see where our personal boundaries for gender-stereotyping start, I think - we often don't realise they've started and get all defensive but aren't sure why. Maybe that's the case with your DP right now.

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TallulahTwinkletoes · 12/11/2014 08:34

Oh and 7.5 years odd. DD is 3

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TallulahTwinkletoes · 12/11/2014 08:34

I think I'm a bit aggressive with my feminism to him and that's why. That's pretty much what I said. I don't want her being told she can't do x or y because she's a girl. It's what she wants to do. She loves princesses and pink but also loves superheroes. She watches cartoons with her dad quite a lot like justice league etc so it's to be expected but she's not really mentioned it before

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PlumpingUpPartridge · 12/11/2014 08:18

Ouch. How long have you been with your DP? Has he said anything like that before?

And for the conversation you have with him:

I don't have a problem with princesses. I have a problem with them saying that the girls can just be princesses rather than superheroes. Superheroes are COOL, dammit! They do awesome things and save the world. Princesses can (sometimes) do awesome things, but mostly it's all about the sparkly dressed. For just one day, I think it might be nice to take the chance to do something different and focus on achievement rather than sparkles. Of course it's up to her, but I resent the school TELLING me that, in essence, girls should just be princesses. Fuck that shit.

And as for no need for some morally correct gender role stance, stop reading mums net it's filling your head with shit..... oh dear Hmm

CuttedUpPear · 12/11/2014 08:17

TallulahTwinkletoes

Please can you pass on this Biscuit to your DH.
Insert it in an orifice of your choice.

Stealthpolarbear · 12/11/2014 08:13

Merida is a princess who shoots arrows and saves her mother

Honeydragon · 12/11/2014 08:10

Our school are smart, they've done a colours day. No superheroes involved Wink

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TallulahTwinkletoes · 12/11/2014 08:07

Last night DP said "she loves princesses, she'll want to be a princess"

I asked her this morning and she said superhero

He's just text me...

I don't know why your so bothered about super hero stuff, you don't have issues with people buying her princess stuff for birthdays and Christmas Etc, no need for some morally correct gender role stance, stop reading mums net it's filling your head with shit

Oh dear

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