I bought a red lipstick last week, have worn it a few times since, and I'm amazed by mens peoples reactions to me.
Doors have been opened for me, men have moved out of my way on the pavement, I've received warm smiles and a few turned heads, flirty conversations etc. Today I was at a networking event and businessmen were throwing freebies at me. My male colleague was most put out because he had to ask. It was empowering. Or was it?
I have done literally nothing more than put this lipstick on. The rest of my appearance is unchanged.
Initially part of me was pleased - I've had a lot of self esteem issues over the years and this attention is flattering.
Then I began to think how stupid these men are for getting flustered by a bit of make-up. How weak are they?!
And then it began to trouble me. I don't want to be seen as a pair of lips, I want to be valued for who I am and what I say. But if my appearance captures their attention long enough to hear what I have to say...?
Also, surely I have the right to wear what I want on my lips, whether it be red, orange or blue lipstick?!
I suppose basically I'm just a bit confused. I keep feeling manipulative for wearing red lips. But then then I think "Fuck it, I'll wear what I want!".
I suppose you could take this situation and substitute any number of things - short skirt, revealing top etc