Female body hair / husband- help?

I am in the same boat.

DP (who barely has a bald spot on his body) wrinkles his nose and asks me to shave.

I point out that he's hairy all over, he doesn't even shave his face often because it irritates his skin (as does a beard, so he keeps it at a scruffy length), and that I just don't have time to shave every day anyway (which I would have to - my hair grows fast)

I do it because I don't want to waste time shaving, because I don't like stubble, because I do get ingrown hairs, because armpits shaved feel squelchy and smell more quickly, and because my armpit hair is soft and lovely (both DSes have actually occasionally stroked it when cuddling up with a hand up my sleeve!), because what I thought were humungously hairy legs really aren't now that I've seen pics of other women's unshaven legs, and because it's up to me what I do to my body.

I might sometimes shave my legs because it does feel lovely pulling trousers up a clean-shaven pair of legs, and that is my choice too.

Having said all that, I have no advice. DP is currently in the lumping it camp rather than liking it, and I don't know that he'll change.

Do you actually want to be hairy? Ok so society doesnt expect men to be hairless, but there are a chunk of them who do remove some or all of their body hair because they choose to.

If you want to go swimming with hairy legs and pits, fine. each to their own. But do.it because you want to either (1) be hairy or (2) not want to remove your hair. Dont do it to prove some.sort of point.

Yeah not everything you or your partner does has to be "attractive".

Mine picks his flaky elbow skin. Not attractive. it doesn't make me love him any less. I do these big mucousy snorts when I have a cold (blowing gives me nosebleeds) which he hates, but I'm still confident and sure he loves me.

Your DP still loves you I'm sure. Give him a bit of time to get used to it.

Start commenting on his body. "Oh dear it's a bit embarrassing that you...are a bit podgy/have ear hair/have horrid feet/etc."

If he's allowed to have opinions on your body, then it should go both ways.

Seriously though, if my DH made any comment about my body hair (which is lush as a field of ripened corn) I'd be baffled as to why he felt it was his place to even say anything. I'm not a doll that he can request upgrades for - I'm a person, and it is entirely up to me what I want to do to my body.

You have a right not to remove your body hair but don't forget that he also has a right to find it not attractive. You can't control what he does or doesn't like.

It's feminist because men don't routinely remove body hair, or face the same pressure to do so that women come under

You could try to elicit empathy. Epilate, thread and wax different areas of his body. Especially sensitive areas.
Then wait for his reaction to itchy regrowth and ingrown hairs then tell him 'my body my choice'. And LTB if he continues to believe he has control over your epidermis.

Why is it "feminist" to keep your body hair?