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Amal Alamuddin has changed her name professionally

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EhricLovesTheBhrothers · 14/10/2014 07:12

I'm actually disappointed. Her choice blah blah but honestly. Successful women who change their names professionally always strike me as either stupid or coerced and I'm sure that's unfair I'm not really but honestly why be so committed to the concept of the obliteration of the unmarried self that you allow it to impact on your professional reputation and renown?

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Laphem · 14/10/2014 07:56

I agree with Orange. Nothing wrong with changing your name. Nothing wrong with not. I changed my name because we got married to join together as a pair and go through life together. Sharing a surname reflected this. We were going to double barrel but my father's refusal to come to the wedding kinda destroyed an already fragile family bond, so I just took my husband's.

I never used to understand why my educated, professional friends used to say 'I am not a feminist!' But having seen the comments from some on these threads I understand it. They obviously see feminism as the prescriptive, judgemental kind expressed by some on MN.

Orangeisthenewbanana · 14/10/2014 07:55

Wow! You evidently have a high opinion of women there OP Hmm

EhricLovesTheBhrothers · 14/10/2014 07:52

Yes I am judging her. And I thi its a career damaging decision so a woman who makes it is either too thick to realise it, values her married identity more than their professional identity or is being coerced.

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Camolips · 14/10/2014 07:51

Yes, I agree with poddling. I'd love to know the reason why. I bet George Alamuddin was never on the table.

Poddling · 14/10/2014 07:49

Ugh. Of course it's her choice. I'm not disappointed in her as much as disappointed at the lost chance to have a professional, high visibility woman show that it's normal not to change your name. When I was a teenager I assumed by the time my generation was getting married nobody would be doing anything as old-fashioned as changing their name when they got married. I am the only person I know (IRL) who hasn't. It's depressing.

When I read about them getting married I thought, ah well, she won't be changing her name, and felt glad about it. So now I'm disappointed.

AgentProvocateur · 14/10/2014 07:48

Yep, she really strikes me as a stupid person who would be coerced into changing her name Hmm Get that chip off your shoulder OP - no-one else's business what she CHOOSES to call herself.

Orangeisthenewbanana · 14/10/2014 07:45

But you seem to be judging her because she has made a choice which does not fit with your idea of feminism. And implying that an outstandingly intelligent woman has suddenly dropped a load of IQ points or been coerced into a decision just because she recently got married in your op.

EhricLovesTheBhrothers · 14/10/2014 07:41

I don't belie every choice is a feminist one just because a woman makes it.

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Orangeisthenewbanana · 14/10/2014 07:35

Um, her choice, her business. It doesn't make her less of a successful woman or great role model. She is well known and highly respected in her field. That's hardly going to change because she has a different surname is it?

And I thought feminism was at least partly about promoting free choice for and non-judgement of women........ She hasn't let down the sisterhood ffs. She has made a personal decision that we should respect and not feel somehow let down by.

Justalittlebitfedup · 14/10/2014 07:33

Vestandknickers Grin

EhricLovesTheBhrothers · 14/10/2014 07:31

The DM have written an article referring to her as Mrs clooney about 88 times.
Would you vest? Because I don't see it as an achievement Confused

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vestandknickers · 14/10/2014 07:27

She's married GEORGE CLOONEY!!!!

I'd have Mrs Clooney tattooed on my forehead

Lottapianos · 14/10/2014 07:26

So very disappointed. She made her name and forged her career using her own name. I don't understand the name changing madness no matter who does it but when its a successful well known woman (within her own field) it seems even worse

BrandyAlexander · 14/10/2014 07:26

Really? You think she's stupid? Okay then.

Fwiw, I didn't change my name professionally because i was already known in my industry and I wanted to make damn sure everyone could find me.

Given the amount of press coverage she's had, I would say she doesn't have the same problem.Hmm

YonicScrewdriver · 14/10/2014 07:21

That's a shame. However, it's not like anyone didn't know she was married now and it might save her from the "Mrs Clegg, who prefers to be known as MGD" shit.

Wonder if the Mail will refer to her as "AA, who prefers to be known as Mrs Clooney"?